Young Catholic Dating

[lethalbean95]

So basically one of my friends whos very young and almost 18 is having issues with a girl he says hes in love with. From what hes told me so far, he seems to be very impatient and can be a very jealous person. But he also says that this girl tends to twist her emotions a lot. That some days she acts as if she wants to marry him. And other days she greatly ignores him. And because of his struggles with this girl he has also began to state negative things about her and becoming rude to her. So far it seems like my friends main problem is controlling his emotions and overcoming negativity. How exactly should I respond to my friend or what can I recommend for him to view, or do? Any good articles on this issue or videos?

 

[Strydersroom]

So basically one of my friends whos very young and almost 18 is having issues with a girl he says hes in love with. From what hes told me so far, he seems to be very impatient and can be a very jealous person. But he also says that this girl tends to twist her emotions a lot. That some days she acts as if she wants to marry him. And other days she greatly ignores him. And because of his struggles with this girl he has also began to state negative things about her and becoming rude to her. So far it seems like my friends main problem is controlling his emotions and overcoming negativity. How exactly should I respond to my friend or what can I recommend for him to view, or do? Any good articles on this issue or videos?

Tell “your friend” that they are young and should not worry about being in a long term relationship yet. Maturity and wisdom take time and experience and most people fall in love many times throughout their life. I would suggest that they continue to meet and date other people. You’re a very different person each year from 18-21 and then to 30, and 40 and so on

 

[Irishmom2]

Since he is only 18, I would tell him not to be in love with the idea of being in love. He should not be blinded by his desire to have a girlfriend that he overlooks real differences, or incompatibilities that arise. Too many times, young people put up with things they shouldn’t just to have someone in their life.

Have standards. Don’t give up your values or faith to keep a girl or a guy. Be true to yourself.

 

[1ke]

So basically one of my friends whos very young and almost 18 is having issues with a girl he says hes in love with. From what hes told me so far, he seems to be very impatient and can be a very jealous person. But he also says that this girl tends to twist her emotions a lot. That some days she acts as if she wants to marry him. And other days she greatly ignores him. And because of his struggles with this girl he has also began to state negative things about her and becoming rude to her. So far it seems like my friends main problem is controlling his emotions and overcoming negativity. How exactly should I respond to my friend or what can I recommend for him to view, or do? Any good articles on this issue or videos?

Your friend’s problem is that he is young and she is young. Neither seem mature enough to be having discussions of marriage.

Today he may be sure of his love for her, but tomorrow maybe not. He is not 18 yet. He should be focusing on school and preparing a solid future for himself, not girls.

 

[oldgraymare2]

So basically one of my friends whos very young and almost 18 is having issues with a girl he says hes in love with. From what hes told me so far, he seems to be very impatient and can be a very jealous person. But he also says that this girl tends to twist her emotions a lot. That some days she acts as if she wants to marry him. And other days she greatly ignores him. And because of his struggles with this girl he has also began to state negative things about her and becoming rude to her. So far it seems like my friends main problem is controlling his emotions and overcoming negativity. How exactly should I respond to my friend or what can I recommend for him to view, or do? Any good articles on this issue or videos?

It sounds like they are bouncing back and forth of what is happening in terms of negative behavior in their relationship.

In other words, one gets upset for example, and then the other responds to that behavior, and then back and forth they go.

Since you asked about articles or videos, here’s a link to an article from verywell.com, about dealing with conflicts in relationships:

verywell.com/conflict-resolution-mistakes-to-avoid-3144982

I’m not going to say that they “shouldn’t be together at eighteen,” or that “they aren’t mature enough for a relationship with each other,” and so on.

When you’re dating, that’s when you’re getting to find out about compatibility with others, and you’re also finding out about what type of person you like to be with, and so on, and for them, they’re doing the same.

I was allowed to be able to date, starting when I was sixteen. Those were the rules that my own Mother had set forth for my family back then.

By the time that I was eighteen myself, I was dating and was in a couple different relationships that ended up being long-term for me at that time.