Your thoughts on lying to get a job

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Today I have an interview and I will most likley have to lie to avoid letting them know I was terminated from my last job which just happened this past Thursday.

This is the whole reason I didn’t want to be terminated (among others), now I’m forced to lie. These type of companies do not hire people who have been fired, the open positions have many applicants and they don’t have to waste their time with someone they might have questions about.

I will also be going to confession and praying over this as I have been. I feel guilty and bad about it but I have children to think about and I need a paycheck.

Just wondering your thoughts in this type of situation and to ask that you please keep me in your prayers.

Thank You,
Joe
 
If you lie to get a new job and you say you lost your old job because you* wouldn’t* lie – ahem – your credibility is toast.

If they ask, tell them the exact conditions of your leaving, if possible, without accusing your former employer of criminal activity. If the interviewer wants an honest employee, and you lie to get the job, then where are you? If you lie to get the job, how will you live with yourself?

You can frame your response this way: “No company that is doing business on the up-and-up will ever have anything to fear from me.”

Besides, anybody who offers you a job will check your references. Will your former employee lie about the conditions of your termination so that his own dishonesty will not come to light? You need to be perfectly transparent.
 
You are not “forced to lie”…You “choose” to lie.

Your best bet is to be upfront and honest.

Why were you termintated?
 
It may be tough, but I find if you try to always live in the Truth in EVERY way, you will be on a much better path.

Satan is the Father of Lies! – don’t practice what he preaches :whacky: An employer that you WANT to work for will APPRECIATE your honesty and courage to tell the Truth and live in the Truth – there is always something attractive to others about someone who practices Truth, even if they can’t recognize it.

Anyway, that’s really all I can say. An employer that will truly be a good one to work for will appreciate your honesty over your past mistake. I think 🙂 Maybe that’s bad advice, hehe.
 
I did what I had to do today.

I was fired because I went to HR over my boss insulting my wife and my religion the Catholic religion and then he talked about burning crosses which was a racist comment.

. The company found a way to get rid of me after I turned him in, I would never have been to HR and fired if I had let him continue to insult me. They found a way to come up with “poor performance” as an excuse.

The company did me wrong, if it was wrong for me to lie today in order to feed my children then so be it. God will provide for me.
 
Any company that would refuse to hire you because you are willing to stand up for your wife’s dignity is one you wouldn’t want to work for anyway.

(I know that’s easy for me to say, since I have no family to support.)

Of course, how this incident colors their perception of you would depend on your general demeanour in the interview, and especially how you present the facts.

You might want to contact a professional career coach for specific advice. My recommendation:

robinryan.com

I’m not affiliated with her, but I do have her book 60 Seconds & You’re Hired!. I recommend it highly for preparing for interviews.
 
It is never right to do evil in order to bring about good. It’s also simply not a good idea. Every job I have had has contacted my previous employer before hiring me. A lie will come out sooner or later.
 
You aren’t being forced to lie, you are choosing to lie. You will not be forgiven in confession since you won’t be truly sorry. You will just make the situation worse by lying in confession.
 
Today I spoke with the priest.
I am forgiven because that is what God does, he died for our sins and he forgives us. I appreciate your replies but please, please do not throw stones if you live in glass houses.
 
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Today I spoke with the priest.
I am forgiven because that is what God does, he died for our sins and he forgives us. I appreciate your replies but please, please do not throw stones if you live in glass houses.
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I agree. What’s done is done. You and God know if you were truly sorry for it.
You will not be forgiven in confession since you won’t be truly sorry.
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You don’t need perfect contrition in the confessional. Simply a realization that what you did was wrong and the intention to avoid doing it again. God’s grace does the rest.
 
I am truly sorry but I am also in a situation where my family is going to suffer if I do not have the money coming in, first thing not to be paid is my child support. How does my 12 year old daughter feel if the money stops, there are other issues.

I do not work in an industry where they accept people who have been fired. The priest and I talked. I was forgiven by God. I prayed on it and went to Mass after. If we were in a religion where there was no forgiveness where would we all be?

Those of you who say that it is absolutley wrong for me to do what I have done.
Have you never sinned? Have you never gone over the speed limit? Have you never lusted? Have you never said a bad word? If you have never sinned then I want to hear from you but as far as I know we are all sinners.
That’s why when I said the Rosary today I said “Pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death”.

I am just a small small individual in the entire world who is looking to do good and do better each day by living by God’s words.
 
…let me think here… sacrifice my character and credibility for a job… maybe even pay a hefty price for the sin… and only if i ask forgiveness… yep, too much at stake for the possible gain…IMHO

Peace:thumbsup:
 
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Those of you who say that it is absolutley wrong for me to do what I have done. Have you never sinned?
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Of course we’ve all sinned. That doesn’t mean each and every sin we’ve ever committed wasn’t absolutely wrong. Sin is sin. Yes we all need forgiveness, and I don’t think you’re going to hell or anything for lying to get a job. I also happen to believe that your confession was valid, though it’s not my place to judge.

But the point is that as Christians we have a responsibility to call others to the ideal Christian life, even if we all fail to live up to it at one time or another. I wish you the best of luck in getting a job and providing for your family. God Bless.
 
I think you ought to correct the lie now that you’re sorry for having committed the sin. Doesn’t that seem proper? It is not right to (possibly) let the company hire you because you lied. And, as I said, if you truly are sorry…
 
Don’t… they can fire you down the road for lying during the interview or on your resume.

Let the truth speak for itself. Folks will think much more highly of you if you confront the truth head on than if you try to lie your way out.

You have a chance to explain why you were fired. IF someone finds out later, you won;t be able to give your side of the story, and even if you did, they would no longer believe you.
wc
 
I would like to say I’m perfect and can tell you exactly what you should do, but I’m not and I can’t.

However, what strikes me as wrong is to justify committing a sin just because you know you can confess it and receive forgiveness.

It is still not my place to judge.

May God bless you!
 
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However, what strikes me as wrong is to justify committing a sin just because you know you can confess it and receive forgiveness.

It is still not my place to judge.

May God bless you!
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But you cannot receive forgiveness if you have no purpose of amendment. Absolution does not “take” until the amendment has been made.

We are not passing judgment; the OP invited (name removed by moderator)ut. Nobody has stated anything that does not conform to the teaching of the Church on this subject.
 
Some here gave good (name removed by moderator)ut but others seem just out to antagonize.

I’m done reading this now. Find someone else to pick on. I need no more replies.

Go in Peace.
 
Some like those here would consider standing up for your faith and for your wife very admirable qualities. But most of all everyone appreciates someone who is truthful and honest.

IF you really have faith, you will tell the truth and let God take care of the results. Who knows being in Mass, there are probably a whole lot of Catholics around, and the odd could be in your favor that the interviewer would be very sympathetic to someone who stands up for the faith and his wife.

Which ever you choose, go with Christ’s Peace and good luck.

wc
 
Been there brother. I had to spend almost every day for two months saying I was fired from my previous job for sexual harassment. Later I had the whole thing tossed out, but I had to move to find employment. It sucks, but a man is only good as his word.

And yea, I had a two year old at the time. Wasn’t very fun at all.

i suggest coming clean with your new employer, they will find out sometime, and depending on your position may terminate you. And that will be harder to explain to the next one.
 
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