Grasscutter and TimothyH: in an ideal world. you are both definitely right.
But in this current world we live in, I can’t do either. The parishes near me are simply full of bad teaching. I’ve tried to go, and the liturgical abuses are awful, and clear heresy (not stuff only trads think is heresy, but obvious in-your-face heresy) is sometimes preached.
I do not want that kind of influence in my own mind, let alone my wife or child’s mind. And I won’t financially support these parishes either.
Perhaps though, I should do something I wouldn’t have thought of if it weren’t for you. Perhaps I should pray regularly for the parishes near me, and write them telling them I’m praying for them and that if they offered the EF Mass I’d happily come and contribute financially as well.