26 yr old daughter living with 53 yr old

[bstorm]

Do you really can not consider what nature is shouting at you? When this man now 53 will be 20 years older, 73, she will be only 46. He will be almost in his death bed, if not before! And why do you want a young lady like this to end her life like that. This is pure selfishness…

And when he will be 90, she will be 63. Nobody disputes that. She sounds like she is an intelligent woman, I am sure she can do the math. She is an adult - her choice. Just because his life will end, it does not mean hers will as well. Or maybe she will die sooner than him - nobody knows what the future holds. In my opinion, their relationship will not last. If he has only recently left his wife, I do not believe he will stay with the OP’s daughter for long. It is probably just an episode that will be over in a few months.

And if all the people that knows this man will tell him that it is not right to be with this lady because of his age, he will end cracking down and leaving her.
And I do not put first his adulterous behavior because he will only say that either he has divorced or is divorcing and will get along with that: society now permits it, isn’t?

The society has always permitted relationships with large age gaps, long before the divorce was permitted. As long as the relationship is between adults that are free to give a consent to it, there is nothing legally nor morally wrong with it. I truly do not understand why you get so enraged about the age gap, when there are other parts of this story that are actually much worse and immoral based on catholic ethics.

 

[MJJean]

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Precisely I said that the fact that the man did not know her before, (read properly) does not give him any right to do with her what ever he wants and to seduce her. The relation is the same as the one I described.
Do you really can not consider what nature is shouting at you? When this man now 53 will be 20 years older, 73, she will be only 46. He will be almost in his death bed, if not before! And why do you want a young lady like this to end her life like that. This is pure selfishness…

No one is speaking about being a sin or not, it is natural concern for the lady.

And the situation of putting first the age problem, is that if this man was 100 mentally, he will never had seduced her, because of age difference.

But because he has a disastrous life he has to go and destroy someone else’s life without any thought because he is selfish: he does not care about his children, wife, relatives, friends, and neither her family, and if he happens to be a Catholic he does not have any love for God or shame.

And if all the people that knows this man will tell him that it is not right to be with this lady because of his age, he will end cracking down and leaving her.
And I do not put first his adulterous behavior because he will only say that either he has divorced or is divorcing and will get along with that: society now permits it, isn’t?

If we do not change ourselves first and get closer to God, we can not discern and correct our brothers and sister who live in sin.
In the love of Christ,
Gloria

Umm, again, older man-younger woman relationships and marriages are very common and have been literally for thousands of years. There is good reason for this. Older men tend to be better providers because they have established careers. Older men tend to be more mature and ready to settle down. Older men are confident, which is attractive to women. They know how to communicate, how to treat a woman properly, and they tend to be interesting due to life experience.

This woman is a 26 year old adult. She is presumably mentally fit to make her own decisions. Her parent has stated that she is “shaking up (again)” , which means she was no naive innocent young girl when she made the decision to live with her fellow as she has lived with a man before. He didn’t take her away from her family and seduce her. She is a knowing and willing participant.

He never would have seduced her due to age difference? Really? Why not? Because he will be “on his death bed” when she is 46? Come on, now! None of us know how long we will live and none of us can predict our future health. It’s entirely possible he could outlive her! It’s entirely possible he could end up taking care of her if she is stricken by illness or has a terrible accident.

You don’t know this man and cannot say he has had a “disasterous life”. His children are grown and he stayed around to raise them. His marriage is over, yes. But none of us knows why the marriage ended. It could have ended through no fault of his. You also do not know his character or how his family and friends feel about the situation. For all you know they are happy for him.

If you want to be closer to God you might think a bit about being a lot less judgmental and harshly critical.

Yes, they are doing wrong living together without a divorce, annulment, and marriage. But we’re all sinners. They can still make things right, confess, repent, and have a good life together if they so choose.

 

[Francie3]

Michael you designate your religion as “Hell deserving sinner”.
Yes our adult children break our hearts in a variety of ways ad we can blame ourselves sometimes. It’s not unusual, and yes it’s awfully difficult to live through.

However, remember that love is what God asks of us.
Love of God, love of others as self, and implied in that second command, to love ourselves in a just healthy way as children of God.
You’re heartbroken. Been there myself.

However to regard yourself not so much as Catholic but as a hell deserving sinner, kind of indicates you need to look after your own spirit in God. You are a loved son of God. You tried to be a good parent. Most of us do.God knows you’ve tried, and God loves you and forgives you your faults and failures. As persons and as parents we all have inadequacies.
Even if we’ve done everything we could as parents, so many of us find our adult children have choices that can tear us apart.

We continue to love them and pray for them. Sometimes it takes a while for them to choose better, and sometimes they continue to live with the consequences.
That doesn’t make us parents hell deserving sinners, but mercy needing children of God.

Please be mindful of your own soul and peace, your own relationship with God. Center your heart in love and trust. Yes, not easy…I know from experience.

I remember my Dad saying about his child-rearing: "You think you did everything right, then as they grow you think you must have failed, and later, you realize you did the right things after all. He wasn’t a hell deserving sinner because of any of our bad or poor choices. He died a saint in the eyes of his children, those lapsed, those faithful.

Remember LOVE is the basis of our relationships and Love is our healing.

 

[Bruised_Reed]

This is for the people who believe that age difference does not matter, so that they may get their brains right again.

Example of a difference of 27 years.

1.- At 27 years old the man carries the little baby girl in his arms.

2.- At 30 He plays with the little girl 3 and hold her from the hand and sit her in her lap and kisses her in her cheeks.

1. At 35 He he still seats the girl 8 in his lap (about the last time) and teaches her some mathematics and takes her out to the park to rid her bicke.
2. At 40 the man see the girl is already 13 and starts to give her counsel about her studies and about having boyfriends and to be careful in general with young boys and to be carefull not to talk with older men.

5.- At 45 he meets the girl 18 with all her friends and organizes them to go for a climbing mountain experience and they all really enjoy themselves.

6.- At 53 the man arrives wants to hold the lady, now 26 and, by the hand and start to try to kiss her or inviting her out alone and little by little take her to bed.

WHAT DO YOU THINK THAT BECAUSE HE DID KNOW THE LITTLE GIRL FOR ALL HER LIFE HE IS FREE TO DO WHATEVER HE WANTS WITH HER AND SEDUCE HER. NO NO NO
I TELL YOU THIS MAN IS MENTALLY NOT 100%, SOMETHING IS NOT WORKING WITH HIM, AND I WISH TO KNOW IF HE WILL GO AND DO THAT TO HIS NIECE OR WOULD LIKE TO HAPPEN THAT TO HIS OWN DAUGHTER!!!
AND IF ON TOP OF ALL THIS HE IS MARRIED,** HE IS AN ADULTEROUS MAN** AND WILL GO TO THE LAKE OF FIRE AT THE END TIME, WHERE ALL THE SEXUALLY IMMORAL PEOPLE WILL BE (APART FROM OTHERS) IF HE DOES NOT REPENT OF HIS WICKEDNESS. (Rev 21:8)

YES. PEOPLE DO IT AND NOT BECAUSE OF THAT WRONG THINGS START TO BE RIGHT.

PUT YOURSELVES RIGHT BEFORE GOD. NATURE TELLS YOU THAT THIS IT IS NOT RIGHT.

Did the OP say they knew each other that long? If not, he doesn’t know her as an 8 year-old or 13 year-old. He knows her as a 26 year-old adult and that’s it. They don’t really have to do a fictitious age-progression but instead need to make sure they have similar values and want the same thing out of life. Does she want children but he’s done? Is he a few years from early retirement and is looking forward to the freedom of doing things spur of the moment and not having to be at work on Monday morning?

It’s hard for me to get past that he’s married and that they are committing adultery but beyond that it’s not wrong. I would say that the potential of there something being wrong with him would be higher if she were 18 but at 25-26 the age gap is narrowing.

Also, please don’t shout in your posts.

 

[Gloria_de_G]

Umm, again, older man-younger woman relationships and marriages are very common and have been literally for thousands of years. There is good reason for this. Older men tend to be better providers because they have established careers. Older men tend to be more mature and ready to settle down. Older men are confident, which is attractive to women. They know how to communicate, how to treat a woman properly, and they tend to be interesting due to life experience.

This woman is a 26 year old adult. She is presumably mentally fit to make her own decisions. Her parent has stated that she is “shaking up (again)” , which means she was no naive innocent young girl when she made the decision to live with her fellow as she has lived with a man before. He didn’t take her away from her family and seduce her. She is a knowing and willing participant.

I think you are naive. You do not have idea of the tricks and mental powers that this more elder men use to attrack young women… You do not have any idea… this is how they use their experience. So I do not blame at all the lady, she is being used and the only hope is to make her see that, but…

He never would have seduced her due to age difference? Really? Why not? Because he will be “on his death bed” when she is 46? Come on, now! None of us know how long we will live and none of us can predict our future health. It’s entirely possible he could outlive her! It’s entirely possible he could end up taking care of her if she is stricken by illness or has a terrible accident.

We are talking of normal situations, it is so difficult for you to understand really?

You don’t know this man and cannot say he has had a “disasterous life”. His children are grown and he stayed around to raise them. His marriage is over, yes. But none of us knows why the marriage ended. It could have ended through no fault of his. You also do not know his character or how his family and friends feel about the situation. For all you know they are happy for him.

1. He abandoned his marriage. (His grown kids are angry with him)

MJJean;11423336:

If you want to be closer to God you might think a bit about being a lot less judgmental and harshly critical.

I hope you can swallow your words now, or you do not reed the information we are given properly?

Yes, they are doing wrong living together without a divorce, annulment, and marriage. But we’re all sinners. They can still make things right, confess, repent, and have a good life together if they so choose.

If you are so sure that you are a sinner now, stop it because we are told:
Those who have been born of God do not sin, because God’s seed abides in them; they cannot sin, because they have been born of God. 1 John 3:9

Yes, but we Christians have to rebuke them, you never heard that God, the one that He loves, He rebukes and chasten? (cf. Rev 3:19) And since we are told:

11 For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation to all, 12 training us to renounce impiety and worldly passions, and in the present age to live lives that are self-controlled, upright, and godly, (…) 15 Declare these things; exhort and reprove with all authority. Titus 2:11-12, 15

20 As for those who persist in sin, rebuke them in the presence of all, so that the rest also may stand in fear. 1Tim 5:20

I solemnly urge you: 2 proclaim the message; be persistent whether the time is favorable or unfavorable; convince, rebuke, and encourage, with the utmost patience in teaching. 3 For the time is coming when people will not put up with sound doctrine, but having itching ears, they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own desires,2Tim 4:1-3

**8 Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. James 4:8 **

In the love of Christ and of His teachings,
Gloria

 

[Gloria_de_G]

Umm, again, older man-younger woman relationships and marriages are very common and have been literally for thousands of years. There is good reason for this. Older men tend to be better providers because they have established careers. Older men tend to be more mature and ready to settle down. Older men are confident, which is attractive to women. They know how to communicate, how to treat a woman properly, and they tend to be interesting due to life experience.

This woman is a 26 year old adult. She is presumably mentally fit to make her own decisions. Her parent has stated that she is “shaking up (again)” , which means she was no naive innocent young girl when she made the decision to live with her fellow as she has lived with a man before. He didn’t take her away from her family and seduce her. She is a knowing and willing participant.

I think you are naive. You do not have idea of the tricks and mental powers that this more elder men use to attrack young women… You do not have any idea… this is how they use their experience. So I do not blame at all the lady, she is being used and the only hope is to make her see that, but…

He never would have seduced her due to age difference? Really? Why not? Because he will be “on his death bed” when she is 46? Come on, now! None of us know how long we will live and none of us can predict our future health. It’s entirely possible he could outlive her! It’s entirely possible he could end up taking care of her if she is stricken by illness or has a terrible accident.

We are talking of normal situations, it is so difficult for you to understand really?

You don’t know this man and cannot say he has had a “disasterous life”. His children are grown and he stayed around to raise them. His marriage is over, yes. But none of us knows why the marriage ended. It could have ended through no fault of his. You also do not know his character or how his family and friends feel about the situation. For all you know they are happy for him.

1. He abandoned his marriage. (His grown kids are angry with him)

MJJean;11423336:

If you want to be closer to God you might think a bit about being a lot less judgmental and harshly critical.

I hope you can swallow your words now, or you do not reed the information we are given properly?

Yes, they are doing wrong living together without a divorce, annulment, and marriage. But we’re all sinners. They can still make things right, confess, repent, and have a good life together if they so choose.

If you are so sure that you are a sinner now, stop it because we are told:
Those who have been born of God do not sin, because God’s seed abides in them; they cannot sin, because they have been born of God. 1 John 3:9

Yes, but we Christians have to rebuke them, you never heard that God, the one that He loves, He rebukes and chasten? (cf. Rev 3:19) And since we are told:

11 For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation to all, 12 training us to renounce impiety and worldly passions, and in the present age to live lives that are self-controlled, upright, and godly, (…) 15 Declare these things; exhort and reprove with all authority. Titus 2:11-12, 15

20 As for those who persist in sin, rebuke them in the presence of all, so that the rest also may stand in fear. 1Tim 5:20

I solemnly urge you: 2 proclaim the message; be persistent whether the time is favorable or unfavorable; convince, rebuke, and encourage, with the utmost patience in teaching. 3 For the time is coming when people will not put up with sound doctrine, but having itching ears, they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own desires,2Tim 4:1-3

**8 Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. James 4:8 **

In the love of Christ and of His teachings,
Gloria

 

[Gloria_de_G]

Did the OP say they knew each other that long? If not, he doesn’t know her as an 8 year-old or 13 year-old. He knows her as a 26 year-old adult and that’s it. They don’t really have to do a fictitious age-progression but instead need to make sure they have similar values and want the same thing out of life. Does she want children but he’s done? Is he a few years from early retirement and is looking forward to the freedom of doing things spur of the moment and not having to be at work on Monday morning?

It’s hard for me to get past that he’s married and that they are committing adultery but beyond that it’s not wrong. I would say that the potential of there something being wrong with him would be higher if she were 18 but at 25-26 the age gap is narrowing.

Also, please don’t shout in your posts.

I will not shout again sorry. And there is a mistake in my writing sorry for that
HE DID **NOT ** KNOW THE LITTLE GIRL
I will try to be more careful next time. Sorry again.

 

[BlueEyedLady]

I have to say that I am quite surprised with how many people don’t think that this age difference is a big deal. I’m sorry, but the only word I can think of to describe it is: yuck.

It really isn’t uncommon for women to be attracted to older men. Think of George Clooney, Liam Neeson, Jon Huntsman, Bill Clinton (as president), Harrison Ford (in the 90s), Samuel L. Jackson, Denzel Washington, Alec Baldwin, and the list goes on and on. Those men are or were known as heartthrobs for women of all ages! Even my own brother, who is in his mid-40s, gets more attention from women in their 20s than he did when he was in his 20s.

 

[Bruised_Reed]

It really isn’t uncommon for women to be attracted to older men. Think of George Clooney, Liam Neeson, Jon Huntsman, Bill Clinton (as president), Harrison Ford (in the 90s), Samuel L. Jackson, Denzel Washington, Alec Baldwin, and the list goes on and on. Those men are or were known as heartthrobs for women of all ages! Even my own brother, who is in his mid-40s, gets more attention from women in their 20s than he did when he was in his 20s.

You forgot Alan Rickman.

 

[NeedsMercy]

Just want to weigh in to say that I have been in a may-dec relationship for 25 years. My beloved hubby is 21 years older than me. That people find these relationships “yucky” or “icky” is so crazy, but we’ve been ignoring those kinds of comments for years. We’re happy; who gives a rat’s behind about the crazies?

 

[Contra_Mundum_1]

We’re happy; who gives a rat’s behind about the crazies?

I suspect that parents care

 

[MJJean]

I think you are naive. You do not have idea of the tricks and mental powers that this more elder men use to attrack young women… You do not have any idea… this is how they use their experience. So I do not blame at all the lady, she is being used and the only hope is to make her see that, but…

We are talking of normal situations, it is so difficult for you to understand really?

I hope you can swallow your words now, or you do not reed the information we are given properly?

Gloria

I am far from naive. I have dated men who were older, my age, and younger. There wasn’t a single older man that “tricked” or “attacked” me. I happened to have met those older men, liked them as persons, felt attracted to them as a woman, and dated them to enjoy their companionship and to see if we were possibly compatible as mates.

In my late teens and early 20’s I preferred the company of older men. Men in my age group were immature, had nothing to talk about other than video games and partying or were still in school and had zero real world experience, were chronically broke, had no clue how to treat a woman, and simply held little appeal.

Older men were mature, they could discuss a variety of subjects, they were settled into decent careers, had experience in the real world, knew how to make a woman feel like a woman (opening doors, behaving with manners, complimenting more than appearance) and were very appealing. Nothing wrong with that. There’s even a term for handsome and virile older men. We call them “silver foxes”.

I also do not believe this older man is using this younger woman. She doesn’t seem to have a lack of real world experience, has lived with a man before, and has freely chosen to lie with this man. If he simply wanted to use her there would be no need for them to live together.

Remember, we aren’t talking about a child here. We’re talking about a fully grown and fully formed independent woman. She’s not being tricked, she is fully aware of her situation and has freely decided to be with this older fellow because she likes him.

Your age related real situations are somewhat valid concerns. Yes, this fellow may be in poor health in 20-30 years. But there is no guarantee of that. He may be quite healthy and active into his 50’s, 60’s, 70’s and 80’s. Some men are. Most of the men at my gym are at least 20 years older than me (I’m 38) and in much better physical shape. The bottom line, though, is that this woman has the right to choose her own life. If she is willing to risk being a widow in her 40’s or 50’s, that’s her choice. It’s not like she’d die with him. She could choose to remain a widow and be content with that or she could choose to remarry.

You forgot Alan Rickman.

Oooh, he’s awesome!

Also forgotten were Patrick Stewart, Sean Connery, Jon Stewart, Bill Mahr and John Slattery (from Mad Men…he pays Roger Sterling if you’ve seen the show). All attractive older men I’d date in a hot second if I were single and they suddenly developed a fondness for chubby ladies with kids

Just want to weigh in to say that I have been in a may-dec relationship for 25 years. My beloved hubby is 21 years older than me. That people find these relationships “yucky” or “icky” is so crazy, but we’ve been ignoring those kinds of comments for years. We’re happy; who gives a rat’s behind about the crazies?

Good for you and your hubby! As I said earlier, there is a 20 year age gap between my Aunt and Uncle. They’re happy together and have been married for over 20 years now. She’s 37, he’ll be turning 58 soon. They’ve never had any problems with the age difference, either, other than some naysayers they’ve just ignored.

But, that all said, the OP’s daughter and her fellow should take a step back, figure out what they are going to do as far as marriage goes, work toward a finalized divorce and an annulment. Most seem to have no issue with the age difference and appropriate issues with the marital situation and them living together. I think the OP would be a bit more accepting if he/she could be assured that the couple were going to make things right.

 

[BlueEyedLady]

Oooh, he’s awesome!

Also forgotten were Patrick Stewart, Sean Connery, Jon Stewart, Bill Mahr and John Slattery (from Mad Men…he pays Roger Sterling if you’ve seen the show). All attractive older men I’d date in a hot second if I were single and they suddenly developed a fondness for chubby ladies with kids

The list wasn’t all inclusive, of course. . Jon Stewart and Bill Maher are both very attractive, so is Keith Olbermann. Anderson Cooper is also very handsome, although I think he’s a bit younger (but still very much a silver fox). And there are a couple of younger actors that I can’t wait to see age, like Christian Bale.

I’m very close to the OP’s daughter’s age. I’m happily married, but if I weren’t, I would be open to dating an older man. The man I married actually has a lot of qualities that I find attractive about older men, but in an “age appropriate” body. He rushed through his education and got his master’s degree at 22 and immediately started his career. He had his own apartment, car, everything, and was completely independent from his parents. But young men like that are sooooo hard to find, in part because of the economy, but also due to our culture. If I hadn’t met him, I may have very well looked into men in their 40s or even early 50s, if the man in question was particularly energetic and active. I don’t think it’s strange at all, especially if it makes for a more compatible match.

 

[AnneTeresa]

I understand your strong feelings. It is so difficult when we see the choices our kids make particularly sinful ones. But it might help to consider how you are called to respond. As others have said, we are to love the sinner even if it’s our child with all the complicated emotions that come up. Keep venting your feelings to God and ask for his help to love in this situation. You may eventually find that you feel sadness more than anger and can use that to respond to her and this situation appropriately.

Saying a prayer for you and your daughter.

 

[MJJean]

The list wasn’t all inclusive, of course. . Jon Stewart and Bill Maher are both very attractive, so is Keith Olbermann. Anderson Cooper is also very handsome, although I think he’s a bit younger (but still very much a silver fox). And there are a couple of younger actors that I can’t wait to see age, like Christian Bale.

I’m very close to the OP’s daughter’s age. I’m happily married, but if I weren’t, I would be open to dating an older man. The man I married actually has a lot of qualities that I find attractive about older men, but in an “age appropriate” body. He rushed through his education and got his master’s degree at 22 and immediately started his career. He had his own apartment, car, everything, and was completely independent from his parents. But young men like that are sooooo hard to find, in part because of the economy, but also due to our culture. If I hadn’t met him, I may have very well looked into men in their 40s or even early 50s, if the man in question was particularly energetic and active. I don’t think it’s strange at all, especially if it makes for a more compatible match.

Anderson Cooper, oh my! I think he’s quite handsome, too. Pretty sure Christian Bale will age like a fine wine.

I also found an older man in a younger mans body. My DH and I are the same age, separated by 2.5 months. We were 24 when we met. He was the youngest of 5 and a late life baby. Because he spent most of his childhood among much older children and adults he matured fast. He was also already educated and had been working in the family business since he was a tiny sprite (the family owned a hardware store right next to their house),and he had a car. He was still living at home, but he had moved out and then come back when the relationship with his former live in GF failed. He was renting his childhood home from his parents while they were retired in Florida, so I gave him a pass on that. And yes, men like that are hard to find which is why I snatched him up. Without him I probably would have been looking in the over 30 age group myself. It seems like our culture allows young men to stay immature longer. I had no interest in dating an overgrown boy, I wanted a fully grown man.

Nothing at all wrong with a woman looking for a mature man. It just happens that my DH and Blue Eyed lady’s DH are in our age group, but we could have found happiness with someone older just as easily.

 

[Zzyzx_Road]

As a man of a certain age, I’ve gotten some attention from younger women. As much as 15 to 20 years younger. Nothing I’ve done anything about, but it’s there. Just the fact they were willing to engage in conversation and flirt with me is indicative of at least something and I suspect I could have gotten a phone number or two if I wanted it. No “icky! yucky! too old!” vibes from them.

Again, the sins here are the clear lack of chastity and the man’s apparent adultery. But we have posters who would rather focus on the age difference when the mortal sins are right in front of them in big red letters.

Again, for the parents: don’t ride your daughter, I know you want to, but riding your daughter will create the expectation in her that interactions with you are best avoided. That’s not an outcome you want in the long run. Sure let her know you believe she is living in sin, but remember Christ said love the sinners.

 

[Bruised_Reed]

I will not shout again sorry. And there is a mistake in my writing sorry for that
HE DID **NOT **KNOW THE LITTLE GIRL
I will try to be more careful next time. Sorry again.

No need to apologize; I wanted to clarify one way or the other in case you knew something in a post I missed somewhere.

Do you still feel that it’s a bad thing if he didn’t know her if she was younger or do you still feel that the age gap alone is morally wrong?

 

[Gloria_de_G]

Do you still feel that it’s a bad thing if he didn’t know her if she was younger or do you still feel that the age gap alone is morally wrong?

The example that I put was to show how horrible it is the situation and if, like in his case, he **did not know **the girl in her early years, it does not change one bit the example: it is horrible, the example shows you how horrible it is the gap, not who are the ones involve and if they new each other or not. Is just the gap.

I am going to pray to God to show me the way to explain to you why is so immoral such a gap.

Mean while let us pray that God may put the things right and the lady comes back home with her parents, so that she may not end living an adulterous life with this man, and both may end into the lake of fire at the Judgment Day.

In the love of Christ,
Gloria

 

[Joseph73]

I am going to pray to God to show me the way to explain to you why is so immoral such a gap.

How many times do people have to tell you? A romantic age gap is NOT immoral. The amount of immorality if a 26 year old chaste girl and a 53 year old chaste man are attracted to each other is literally zero.

You won’t find a good way to explain it because there is none. It is your cultural prejudice.

 

[TheHolyTrinity]

Age differences in dating and marriage is not just the stereotype of the old man with the young girl. There are some wonderful matches like Shakespeare who was married to an older woman and my Grandmother was 20 years junior to my Grandfather who had three children and lived to a good age together before death parted them.

People will always speak negatively about age gaps because of expectations of what should be. If anything please keep on remaining to be good friends with your daughter and her new partner.

Please don’t contain your anger within yourself … hand it to the Lord to sort out and keep the love for your daughter flowing;

1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.