31 year old, happily married woman aborts baby

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My heart breaks for this couple and the horror they committed. I remember the first time I heard my son’s heartbeat when he was only 11 weeks old in my womb. It changed everything for me.

In His mercy, may God break the hearts of this couple and bring them to repentance.

Gertie
 
All I can say is :mad: and :crying: . Especially when there are so many couples waiting to adopt! :mad: What a sad world we live in…
 
As a 31 year old woman myself who has fertility issues and may never be able to have my own child, this kind of thing breaks my heart.
 
SIZE=“3”]It is trully a sad and unfortunate story. Only in the end when we are all judged will the people really understand what they have done. But we should never give up hope, we should never stop loving, for when we do we put ourselves in the same position. My wife and I lost twins early in her pregnancy and it was devastating. We were so excited about them. We already had four daughters, and yes they can be an inconvenience, but that is why we love them even more. We will never know what our two twins would have been like but it was a tremendous loss. Our oldest daughter came home and told us that she was pregnant and that she was going to abort. We talked and talked. We begged telling her that we would raise the child, but still she aborted. I know in my heart she did it because she didn’t think it was the right time in her life. It has taken me a long time to get over that loss as well. I still love my daughter with all my heart and daily I pray for her to come back home to the Church, I also pray from my little ones and my grandchild. I agree that she willingly killed her child and was not forced into anything. But some day she will wake up and see what she has done. And I will still be there for her.
 
beckycmarie said:
As a 31 year old woman myself who has fertility issues and may never be able to have my own child, this kind of thing breaks my heart.
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Same here. I was just thinking, give him or her to us!!

I don’t think I’ve read anything that so clearly reeked of demonic influence in a long, long time.
 
I hope this woman and this couple have some support down the road when the full realization of what they have done, and the grief, overtake them. praying.
 
I really need to stop reading this stuff.

What are you going to do? Nothing. We always do nothing. We’ve been on the recieving end of history since the treaty of westphalia.
 
mschrank said:
I really need to stop reading this stuff.

What are you going to do? Nothing. We always do nothing. We’ve been on the recieving end of history since the treaty of westphalia.
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I do think that we are making progress. More people are beginning to see abortion as wrong.

Christians fought against the Roman practice of infanticide and that ended in the western world. Eventually, even if it is slow going, we will prevail.

I wrote something on my blog about this article. It might not be a big thing to do but maybe discussing this will have some effect on another woman making such a decision.
 
deb1 said:
townhall.com/columnists/MikeSAdams/2008/01/23/alison_your_aim_is_true?page=full&comments=true

The above link takes you to a story about a woman, Alison, who decides to abort her child and her rationlization for doing so. :banghead:

**Alison confessed in her essay that she was part of a happily married couple, that she and her husband were in good physical health, and that they both had jobs and health insurance. She even said, “Walter and I were pretty good candidates for parenthood.” **

**(T)he story I most want to tell—and one I have never heard—is of abortion as an intimate part of a couple’s life together. Our abortion was a love story. I’d worried that Walter and I were rejecting a gift from the universe. What I discovered, though, was that when we stripped away the distractions of everyday life so that we could make this difficult decision together, it bound us together as surely as if our choice had been different—and as it turns out, that was the gift. **
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Oh, how truly sick and misguided this woman is…we need to pray for her and her husband.
 
How sickening!!! :mad: Here I am all devastated because I lost my very wanted child, and this couple decides to kill theirs because of inconvenience and it brought them closer together, and call the abortion a gift??? This makes me want to ram my head against the wall! :banghead:

I know some women are pressured into it, sometimes by their parents, sometimes by their partners, and even though it doesn’t make it alright, it’s a bit understandable. (strngrnrth my prayers are with you). But when the couple has all the odds on their side, PLEASE!!! I mean, why couldn’t they have just put the baby up for adoption? Just because they thought they’d keep it???

I’m so saddened by this. I cannot believe people can actually think this way. This is very disturbing.
 
Two things come to my mind:
  1. This is not a true (or at least, accurate story) and is perhaps the woman’s way of avoiding pain and shame by making it out in the open. For example, if the man coerced her, she might typically try to avoid having others find out and dig into her abusive relationship by siding with him and spinning it.
  2. This level of denial and forcing a positive perception from a physical and/or emotional trauma is very typical. This is why we hear women who were raped talk about how they “caused it” or why children who were abused believe they are bad for making it happen.
People who experience trauma beyond a certain point often go through a stage of denying the pain and hurt. They pretend it was for the best and that they actually made a good choice.This is an extremely typical stage that occurs soon after abortion for many women.
 
I’ve got an acquaintance, recently married (and who seems happy about it) who said she’d have an abortion if she got pregnant, ever. (:eek: :mad: :eek: :mad: doesn’t describe my reaction well enough!)

She’s one of those who believes that pregnancy is unfair to women, like it controls them and keeps them from achieving their dreams. She talks about how she couldn’t imagine the horror she’d feel if she became pregnant, or if she was forced to raise a child. “Imagine, imprisoned in your own home, trapped forever in a life of servitude to your family…” :confused: And the sad thing is that her husband would like children, but she keeps bringing up all the inconveniences of children every time he mentions it. “Oh, but they’re expensive. And the school system here isn’t good - you wouldn’t want them to go through that, would you? And we’d never have time alone again! And I’m not going to quit MY job for any child! …”

I’d love to have a child soon. My boyfriend can hardly restrain himself when he sees a toddler or an infant on the street - he’d love to run over and hug them! The idea of wanting to kill one… 😦

Let’s just say I’m not telling my acquaintance to stop using birth control with her husband! At least if she’s on the pill, she’s probably not ovulating… I hope. 😦 It seems a little better than deliberately and violently killing babies.
 
Lil_M said:
This is one of the saddest, most bizarre articles ever. Keeping money aside for an abortion? Since she gets attached to animals at the pet store, she doesn’t want to get attached to her own child? Abortion strengthening her marriage? :bigyikes: This person counselling young women?? :bigyikes: :bigyikes: :bigyikes:
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And their ritual along with “air, earth, fire, water”… sounds like a New Age/Pagan child sacrificial ritual or something. :eek:
 
deb1 said:
townhall.com/columnists/MikeSAdams/2008/01/23/alison_your_aim_is_true?page=full&comments=true

The above link takes you to a story about a woman, Alison, who decides to abort her child and her rationlization for doing so. :banghead:

**Alison confessed in her essay that she was part of a happily married couple, that she and her husband were in good physical health, and that they both had jobs and health insurance. She even said, “Walter and I were pretty good candidates for parenthood.” **
**(T)he story I most want to tell—and one I have never heard—is of abortion as an intimate part of a couple’s life together. Our abortion was a love story. I’d worried that Walter and I were rejecting a gift from the universe. What I discovered, though, was that when we stripped away the distractions of everyday life so that we could make this difficult decision together, it bound us together as surely as if our choice had been different—and as it turns out, that was the gift. **
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Sick, sick, sick. I just feel weak with disgust. What kind of person could do this, and think like this?
God have mercy!
 
Jennifer_G said:
And their ritual along with “air, earth, fire, water”… sounds like a New Age/Pagan child sacrificial ritual or something. :eek:
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Abortion: The Culture of Death’s sacrament.

I couldn’t read the whole article, it made me sick. I can’t imagine that this actually brings them closer :eek: . Couples I know who have had abortions don’t last long after one (and yes, both wanted the abortion at the time).
 
hasikelee said:
Two things come to my mind:
  1. This is not a true (or at least, accurate story) and is perhaps the woman’s way of avoiding pain and shame by making it out in the open. For example, if the man coerced her, she might typically try to avoid having others find out and dig into her abusive relationship by siding with him and spinning it.
  2. This level of denial and forcing a positive perception from a physical and/or emotional trauma is very typical. This is why we hear women who were raped talk about how they “caused it” or why children who were abused believe they are bad for making it happen.
People who experience trauma beyond a certain point often go through a stage of denying the pain and hurt. They pretend it was for the best and that they actually made a good choice.This is an extremely typical stage that occurs soon after abortion for many women.
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I agree that MOST women who have abortions either feel regret and sadness or might even try to rationalize away their pain. But women, like men, are individuals and I am sure that there are some women who are simply selfish. I am not passing judgement on Alison, as I don’t know her personally.

I almost aborted my own child. Yes, I was frightened and young, but my reasons were selfish. It was all about my desire to avoid inconveniences to my life. Luckily, both my grandmother and my boyfriend-now hubby-talked me out of having an abortion. There seems to be this naive need among some of us to feel that ALL women who seek abortions are somehow not culpable for their actions or feel horrible afterwards. While I think that it is true that MOST women are pressured into an abortion or feel deep regret afterwards, this is not always true.

We don’t know if Alison is rationalizing her pain away or not. She does work in gender studies and you can link to her actual blog from the article. I suspect that she has been influenced by the line of thinking that women’s rights are somehow diminished if they are not allowed to abort their unborn children.😦

I admit, I only clicked on her blog to make certain that it existed. Seeing the face of Alison only made me more sad for her, her unborn child and her hubby.
 
deb1 said:
I agree that MOST women who have abortions either feel regret and sadness or might even try to rationalize away their pain. But women, like men, are individuals and I am sure that there are some women who are simply selfish. I am not passing judgement on Alison, as I don’t know her personally.

I almost aborted my own child. Yes, I was frightened and young, but my reasons were selfish. It was all about my desire to avoid inconveniences to my life. Luckily, both my grandmother and my boyfriend-now hubby-talked me out of having an abortion. There seems to be this naive need among some of us to feel that ALL women who seek abortions are somehow not culpable for their actions or feel horrible afterwards. While I think that it is true that MOST women are pressured into an abortion or feel deep regret afterwards, this is not always true.

We don’t know if Alison is rationalizing her pain away or not. She does work in gender studies and you can link to her actual blog from the article. I suspect that she has been influenced by the line of thinking that women’s rights are somehow diminished if they are not allowed to abort their unborn children.😦

I admit, I only clicked on her blog to make certain that it existed. Seeing the face of Alison only made me more sad for her, her unborn child and her hubby.
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That is why my post includes the word “many.”

Still, it is arguable that no matter how selfish the woman may be in authorizing the death of her child, she will still suffer from that consequence. One of our psychological defenses against such a consequence is to deny its affect on us or make it seem positive.
 
Well so much for “being fruitful and multiplying” I’m sure satan has blinded them into thinking what is right and wrong, a rather twisted view of morality, so sad, and I’m afraid she is sick in the head.
 
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