Not anymore. I realised a long time ago what women look for when they go boyfriendshopping. I also realised that I don’t have those qualities in sufficient quantity. Consequently, I am nice and real smart and have a wonderful personality and o yes I have a lot of potential. So I took myself off the market over 15 years ago.
Ah, the eternal friend problem. Yep, there are such personalities that women want them to be friends but not boyfriends. Sometimes we don’t have what turns them on, even if we have what melts them. Sometimes they think we’re so great they want us to be around forever and what’s the best way to do that? Make us friends, of course. Yuppee. Now, I don’t mind sincere friendship. In fact, it’s great to have a lot of friends and of both sexes preferably. But come on. I’ve begun wondering if God doesn’t me to stay away from marriages in any way shape of form, whether by contracting or by blessing, as I don’t feel any priestly vocation, either.
Seriously, though, say hi. I live in a Catholic country, you know. 90% folks are officially baptised in the Catholic church plus some Protestants and Orthodox. However, 30% of the populace frequents Catholic masses. Maybe 40%. Out of those, guess how many “agree with the church”. Then consider those who are off limits as married canonically and divorced civilly. Then consider I’m not immediately physically attracted to any woman who’s Catholic and not running away from me. And if you really want to know, I’m actually handsome and considered a good catch, as I’m believed sensible, intelligent and en route to big cash as a law student (I’m probably going to disappoint them since I have a bit too much of a spine for a lawyer, though).
Sigh Of course, I could cast my net in a religious group, but I’m no tertiary order person. I’m laaaaaay. Secular. Secular Catholic. I have hobbies that aren’t religion. I don’t spend all my time on prayer or church activities. And it looks like you either go there or end up single. Unless you want to compromise. Compromise? Pfeh. There’s no god but God and Ratzinger is His prophet! Oh, did I mention it’s
exactly the “friend” qualities? Forgot to mention how women tend to regard men who play computer games, staff internet portals, own domains etc (I do all).
So, knowing me, I’m going to get screwed over once or twice more thanks to big romantic love, then I’m likely going to end up perpetually single or married to someone wanting to settle down with wild memories (seriously, no chance… if there’s any wild past, it has to be regretted, confessed and whatnot or I’m out of there), or perhaps God will take me up with my Latin and good looks in black colours.
Oh well, not really. I trust He has some plans for me, but it’s quite difficult at the moment. I do feel driven, just don’t know where.
Sigh End of Rant. We apologise for permanent psychological damage.
, and on prayer groups, well, the good men are all taken or married, and the ones left… Well some really don’t have a strong Faith and they come and go from the Church like it was a supermarket, and there are some that stay but don’t change their ways, so… The other option was regular guys that don’t even visit Church EVER and they don’t respect your desition in going to one and believing in God… So, I just tried in AMS and so far it went good for me 