4 Us Single Men: Having problems finding an orthodox (serious) Catholic woman?

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jrabs said:
Fireman Frank,

But in the mean time, might I suggest an attidude adjustment on your part?
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NO!

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Nexxtttt !
To imply that there are no sinlge devout Catholic woman is silly.
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Of course it is, that’s why I didn’t say it.

What I did in fact say was that I have yet to meet a single orthodox Catholic woman in my area who doesn’t hold back one Church Teaching or another.
Because you have this idea stuck in your head, you may be conveying this mindset in your actions, body language and conversations.
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I think I convey (and with some amount of clarity) that I do not like to associate with outright heretics.

Yup, that’s what I convey …
Woman/people may pick up on this and may not be responding to you.
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If women are not responding to my not tolerating “in your face heretics”…

Good! Then it’s working!
Maybe they are sensing a self-righteousness in you - “I pray the rosary daily…hmmm do you?”, type attitude.
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Your off a little bit there, but don’t worry … I’ll help you out!

All Righetousness exists with God, and with God alone.

But I abstain from associating with heterodox Catholics, because in being heterodox, they have sought to try and take some of the God’s Righteousness away from Him - supplanting it with a false righteousness of their own.

Unacceptable.

That clear things up for 'ya buddy?

Also, please take notice that I am enormously thankful that God has given me the grace to daily pray the Rosary. And when the time is right, I will never stop mentioning that fact, in the hope that someone else may take notice and give it a try as well.
Maybe God is waiting for a slight change on your end till he feels you are ready to accept someone of His choice.
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What I don’t accept (and God clearly abhors) is someone who is trying to literally destroy His Church from the inside out.

God doesn’t want that for Himself, and neither do I.

Does that help you to understand the situation?
God bless in your search - but often it’s not those around us in need of some changes - it often starts with us.
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Interesting, but unfortunately, somewhat shortsighted.

I seek a woman who un-pretentiously loves God and His Church … no If’s, And’s, or But’s.

So it appears that at this time, I am waiting for God to change one of them, and not the other way around.

AMEN.
 
They are out there.

I have been blessed, altho I haven’t figured out why yet.
I was away from the Church for about 20 years. I realized that I was living my life but not living my life. God was not a part of it.
Then I went back to Church and Confession. A huge weight was lifted.
I stumbled on CATHOLICpeoplemeet.com and on a whim joined up. A couple weeks later I met my girlfriend, a new convert. (she sent me a flirt and to this day, still does not remember sending it, and her profile had the very bare minimum info, I would have skipped it).
We live an hour drive apart, ran up huge phone bills 🙂 And see each otehr as much as possible.
She is truely a blessing

Now, to find the right ring for this wonderful woman,…
 
ugh! Your whole post #62 has confirmed what I gather from you. You need an attitude adjustment - give God something to work with buddy. No one said you had to associate with a heretic. Who was suggesting a heretic?

But the “in your face Catholicism” in not a turn on either. Look at me, I go to daily mass and you don’t. Some people do prefer a humble servant of God.

Well, God bless you in your attempt to find a devout woman. There are plenty of them.
 
jrabs, if memory serves me correctly, you are a single Catholic woman who takes her faith very seriously, aren’t you? You live in New York, right?
 
FiremanFrank said:
What’s a serious Catholic man to do?
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Seek out a Tridentine Mass. Seek out a head covering woman. While I can’t promise that each and every woman there would measure up to your ideal, may I humbly suggest that this is your best bet for finding a serious orthodox Catholic woman.
 
okay here is an off the wall suggestion for you. I have recently started homeschooling my daughter, and through doing that have met some of the most wonderful Catholics you can imagine. Maybe try to find a local catholic homeschool group, some Catholic parent might have a single sister for you!! Hey, here’s an idea. Host a field trip for Catholic homeschoolers! I just went on one and learned a ton from the local firefighters!
 
On Finding a Good, Pious Catholic Women:

If you build it, she will come.
 
jrabs said:
ugh! Your whole post #62 has confirmed what I gather from you.
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And your post has clearly illustrated a serious deficit that exists with those who supposedely consider themselves “catholics”.

That is, the profound lack of a sense of humor.

But thank you though, for once again reminding me of one of the qualities that I’m not looking for in a catholic woman.

Sheesh!
*** <frank … running like the wind>***
 
dulcissima said:
jrabs, if memory serves me correctly, you are a single Catholic woman who takes her faith very seriously, aren’t you? You live in New York, right?
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Well it all makes sense now.

Maybe people will finally understand the problem I’m having trying to find an orthodox Catholic woman who also has a sense of humor and who is not self-righteous.

Maybe it’s this state?

Could be time for me to move …
 
Maybe you ought to set your sites on marrying the beloved Church. Have you considered joining an Order?
 
dulcissima said:
jrabs, if memory serves me correctly, you are a single Catholic woman who takes her faith very seriously, aren’t you? You live in New York, right?
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Yep - I am unmarried, though currently smitten for which I praise God. Though I will agree that I severly lack a sense of humor ( just ask my Curmudgeon and Junkie friends). 👍
 
jrabs said:
Yep - I am unmarried, though currently smitten for which I praise God. Though I will agree that I severly lack a sense of humor ( just ask my Curmudgeon and Junkie friends). 👍
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Sorry…I was thinking of this Elizabeth/Mr. Darcy moment there…just not happening I guess.
 
FiremanFrank said:
Well it all makes sense now.

Maybe people will finally understand the problem I’m having trying to find an orthodox Catholic woman who also has a sense of humor and who is not self-righteous.

Maybe it’s this state?

Could be time for me to move …
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Actually though, maybe she did have a good point about not being quick to judge people and categorize them. I definitely do understand your desire to find a Catholic woman who takes her faith very seriously, but it is a good idea to realize that we are all works in progress. If you meet a really nice woman who is lacking in one area or another, maybe she just needs some encouragement or guidance. That’s where you are really fortunate that you are a man, because it is the husband’s role to be the spiritual leader of the household. That makes it somewhat easier for you if you find someone who has a good foundation of faith but needs some extra help here or there. It’s a different story for us women though. Just imagine what it is like to be married to a man who does not put God first in his life. If you are trying to be a good and supportive wife and submit to his authority, you will be way off track. I think for a woman it is much more critical to find a man who is very strong in his faith.
 
FiremanFrank said:
Do what I have been doing, just stay involved in the activities at your church which inspire your heart.

This will either lead you to your future wife, or maybe to a different vocation (deacon, brother, priest).

I don’t think you’re refusing the Will of God as much as you are simply discerning His Will.

And if it makes you feel any better, in retrospect, my last 10 years of celibacy since my divorce and annullment has allowed me to:
  • experience a crash course on Catholic Apologetics
  • be tempted by evil beyond all imagination
  • share time with people of other Christian faiths
  • take studies for the diaconate
  • witness my Roman diocese falling into a heterodox dive
  • find the Eastern Catholic Church
  • and much, much, more
    But during that time, I did not meet one single Catholic woman that I was attracted to that was faithful to the Church.
And that was what my thread was originally all about.

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FiremanFrank, are you a deacon?
 
Our parish has a lot of orthodox Catholic ladies (single and young)…
 
EsclavoDeCristo said:
Our parish has a lot of orthodox Catholic ladies (single and young)…
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Dude! Hook us up!

I have started getting the impression that I’m just living in the wrong area. My area is the type of place people leave as soon as they’re done with high school and then return to 10-15 years later because it’s safe a mellow. There don’t seem to be many young Catholic women around.
 
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