50 Shades of Grey

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Thankfully, only a handful of people I know are reading this. Unfortunately, of the ones reading, most of them are completely unashamed about telling the world not only that they’re reading it, but what they’re doing to themselves while reading it. I’ve had to update my Facebook settings a bit since this came out–dropping one person altogether while cutting way back on what I see from others. I don’t need to read about my friends’/family members’ masturbatory habits or hear them praising cheap porn (or expensive porn, for that matter). Sadly, the ones who are gushing over it all have kids, and all have at least one of their kids among their Facebook friends, so their 10-15 year old sons and daughters are getting to read about Mommy pleasing herself while/after reading this smut.

As far as that goes, I’m not sure why they think it’s okay to be discussing this so openly in the first place. I can’t tell if they think it’s okay because it’s a book and not a video, or because they’re women and not men. I know that if I posted something about running to the store for a stack of x-rated DVD’s and a bottle of hand lotion (some of their posts have been much more explicit), they’d be up in arms over it. Funnily enough, one of the ones making the most explicit comments got upset with me a while back because I’d made an anti-porn comment in response to an unrelated friend. It showed up in her news feed where her daughter could have seen it, and she didn’t like the fact that I used the word “porn.” Yet here we are a few months later and she can’t quit talking about how much 50 Shades of Grey is wearing her out.
 
epan said:
I read it very quickly, out of curiosity. I found it to be boring. I didn’t see anything in it which would qualify as especially “literary”.
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Like I said, marketing. The balance between that and quality writing has been a mystery that has baffled us writers for centuries. T_T
 
Gordon_Sims said:
Thankfully, only a handful of people I know are reading this. Unfortunately, of the ones reading, most of them are completely unashamed about telling the world not only that they’re reading it, but what they’re doing to themselves while reading it. I’ve had to update my Facebook settings a bit since this came out–dropping one person altogether while cutting way back on what I see from others. I don’t need to read about my friends’/family members’ masturbatory habits or hear them praising cheap porn (or expensive porn, for that matter). Sadly, the ones who are gushing over it all have kids, and all have at least one of their kids among their Facebook friends, so their 10-15 year old sons and daughters are getting to read about Mommy pleasing herself while/after reading this smut.

As far as that goes, I’m not sure why they think it’s okay to be discussing this so openly in the first place. I can’t tell if they think it’s okay because it’s a book and not a video, or because they’re women and not men. I know that if I posted something about running to the store for a stack of x-rated DVD’s and a bottle of hand lotion (some of their posts have been much more explicit), they’d be up in arms over it. Funnily enough, one of the ones making the most explicit comments got upset with me a while back because I’d made an anti-porn comment in response to an unrelated friend. It showed up in her news feed where her daughter could have seen it, and she didn’t like the fact that I used the word “porn.” Yet here we are a few months later and she can’t quit talking about how much 50 Shades of Grey is wearing her out.
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Gordon, the more of your posts I read, the more weirded out I am by your friends and family…hahaha
 
anp1215 said:
Gordon, the more of your posts I read, the more weirded out I am by your friends and family…hahaha
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LOL! The more bothered we get by some of their behavior, the more often I ask my wife whether we’re the ones who have changed or if it’s them. The good thing is that since updating a bunch of my Facebook settings, I haven’t seen any mention of 50 Shades of Grey.
 
Gordon_Sims said:
LOL! The more bothered we get by some of their behavior, the more often I ask my wife whether we’re the ones who have changed or if it’s them. The good thing is that since updating a bunch of my Facebook settings, I haven’t seen any mention of 50 Shades of Grey.
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What is so strange is that, as a convert, I have quite a few atheist friends on my facebook that are in their early 20s, and I can honestly say none of them has ever posted about their sex lives.
 
anp1215 said:
What is so strange is that, as a convert, I have quite a few atheist friends on my facebook that are in their early 20s, and I can honestly say none of them has ever posted about their sex lives.
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I certainly haven’t.
 
anp1215 said:
That’s good. Who would do that? Apparently some do. Glad I don’t know any of them.
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The ones I know who do are actually all some degree of Catholic, ranging from completely fallen away to severely lapsed or extremely liberal cafeteria Catholics. They’ve all had 8-12 years of Catholic schools and all know at least the very basics. I personally can’t comprehend why they post what they do, especially since they all have family and most of them have kids who can read it (not to mention coworkers, students, parents of students, etc.). Whether they’re family members or just friends, I personally don’t need to know about whether they read this book or what they do to themselves while they read it, how they got “that” nickname back in high school, the real reason they ended up in jail after that party in college or any of the countless other things I’ve seen show up in my news feed. One funny thing about it all, though, is that I’ve seen this sort of thing from people I know for so long that I’m honestly shocked when people tell me they don’t know anyone like it.
 
Gordon_Sims said:
The ones I know who do are actually all some degree of Catholic, ranging from completely fallen away to severely lapsed or extremely liberal cafeteria Catholics. They’ve all had 8-12 years of Catholic schools and all know at least the very basics. I personally can’t comprehend why they post what they do, especially since they all have family and most of them have kids who can read it (not to mention coworkers, students, parents of students, etc.). Whether they’re family members or just friends, I personally don’t need to know about whether they read this book or what they do to themselves while they read it, how they got “that” nickname back in high school, the real reason they ended up in jail after that party in college or any of the countless other things I’ve seen show up in my news feed. One funny thing about it all, though, is that I’ve seen this sort of thing from people I know for so long that I’m honestly shocked when people tell me they don’t know anyone like it.
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That’s why I’m surprised. You wouldn’t think even slightly religious middle-aged (I’m guessing they’re middle-aged) people would post stuff like that. My friends sometimes post things that are offensive or anti-religion, lots of swearing etc., but I can’t say I’ve ever read about their masturbatory habits. Sounds like your friends/family members are desperate for attention.
 
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That’s why I’m surprised. You wouldn’t think even slightly religious middle-aged (I’m guessing they’re middle-aged) people would post stuff like that. My friends sometimes post things that are offensive or anti-religion, lots of swearing etc., but I can’t say I’ve ever read about their masturbatory habits. Sounds like your friends/family members are desperate for attention.
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Some are definitely desperate for attention. Others I think are pushing an agenda and a couple seem to be either clueless about how the internet really works, or don’t understand manners and social decorum. Like you, as personally offensive as my non-religious friends’ posts can be, with one exception, I don’t think any of them have ever mentioned the graphic details of their sex lives.
 
My (non-Catholic Christian) biological mother is very excited to read the trilogy because her friends have been talking about it.

I TRIED to warn her about it, but she isn’t listening.

Therefore, she is not allowed to blame me when her eyes want to crawl out of their sockets from the terrible writing. 🙂

Has anyone listened to Gilbert Gottfried reading an excerpt of the book? It’s definitely NSFW but it’s funny.
 
I haven’t read this book and don’t intend to. It doesn’t sound like anything I’d be interested in.
I made the mistake of reading “The Girl With the Dragon Tatoo” last summer. It was on the best seller’s list and seemed to be really popular. I thought it was a murder mystery story. It was that and a lot more. Let’s just say I skipped over a lot of passages and the ones I read were disgusting. The story itself dragged and became more and more boring and I found that I didn’t really care what happened to the main characters.
What enjoyment do people get out of these kinds of books? There are no redeeming features in them!
 
ha. Today I was at my mom’s house and saw this book in her room. I put a note inside that said “I can’t believe you’re reading this junk. What a waste of brain cells! Love, Alli”

She texted me later and said “yeah, you are totally right, didn’t know it was so graphic, just bought it because it was on the bestseller list. trying to skip over the graphic parts but that’s the whole book. don’t think I will be finishing. I thought to myself, hollywood would love to put this trash in a movie, and then I heard they were”
 
I never heard of this book until a week ago. Now I wish I could go back to the not-knowing. 😛

It is interesting to me to observe how things like this reach a tipping point in terms of popularity where people start buying it and reading it just because “everyone is doing it.” And because “everyone is doing it”, then it must be okay to read it and discuss it in public.

If it were real life and the girl from the story was a family member and the guy was some random guy, we would be livid. We would be accusing him of sexual abuse. But now the character will be portrayed by some A-list Holywood actor and suddenly he’ll be some sort of romantic. Very disturbing.
 
Joe_5859 said:
I never heard of this book until a week ago. Now I wish I could go back to the not-knowing. 😛

It is interesting to me to observe how things like this reach a tipping point in terms of popularity where people start buying it and reading it just because “everyone is doing it.” And because “everyone is doing it”, then it must be okay to read it and discuss it in public.
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I think you’ve hit the nail on the head.
I ride the bus to work & tow things stand out: all the men wear Yankees caps (even me though I don’t follow sports) and all the women are reading this book. And I do mean all – mothers with babes in arms (well, strollers), students, bank tellers, nurses, you name it.

I suspect it is some kind of escapism & if they ever met a guy from the novel in real life they’d smack him.
 
All I need to know about this is:

My wife thinks it is disgusting.
My ex-wife is reading it.
 
Another friend of mine posted on Facebook yesterday that she’s now reading these books and a lot of her friends reacted positively to it. I couldn’t help but wondering if I posted that I was reading my creepy uncle’s stack of old Penthouse Forum magazines if I’d get the same positive reaction.
 
I fear that people who read this are putting their marriages and families in jeopardy. Getting caught up in the pornographic material portrayed can really disrupt your life. You cannot unread this poison. Harm will come. Avoid it like the plague.
 
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