56 years old, back in school, working full time, more depression, worried about possible cancer

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So I’m taking 2 classes, so far one has an A average and the other an A- which I’m scared is going down to a B. I’m working full-time - I’ve asked for part time but they can’t find anyone to work – I’m a nurse – and I’m getting more and more depressed.

I spoke with my therapist and got into an argument about abortion. I don’t understand why people downplay the seriousness of abortion. I told the therapist I wasn’t in therapy to discuss politics and the session improved afterwards.

Told the therapist that sometimes I think life is a series of little crucifixions, sometimes it’s one big crucifixion.

I feel like I don’t have the strength to go on.

I also was called back to the doctor to get screened further for possible cancer.

Right now I feel like I can’t bear this load.

Any constructive comments? Comforting, insightful, wise statements using our beautiful Catholic faith? I’d appreciate any right now.

Thanks for listening.
 
You have a lot on your plate … not surprised that you are feeling the way you are. I have major medical issues myself, and I try to remember that God never gives us more than we can handle … I also try to offer everything up to God … but I know it’s hard to think this way when you are in the middle of a storm.

I will keep you in my prayers … and just a thought … maybe you might want to start a prayer thread for yourself … I would be more than happy to pray for you every day, and I’m sure others would too.

Sometimes this prayer helps me …

Let nothing disturb you,
Let nothing frighten you,
All things are passing away:
God never changes.
Patience obtains all things
Whoever has God lacks nothing;
God alone suffices.

– St. Teresa of Avila

I also sometimes listen to this song … it helps when I’m in the middle of the storm. God Bless you.

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May God bless and strengthen you.

I see you are working and going to school. Does the school course of study look to realistically pan out for you?

I hate to even say that, but I’m 53 and I know that trying to find another career in your 50s is extremely difficult. I’m trying and failing at it myself, and indeed today, before I read your post, I was very down as I’ve failed to get the third job I’ve tried for this year in my career switch efforts. I very well know that staying in a job you don’t like is torture, but maybe at this point the only hope for both of us is that retirement might not be all that far off?

I’m sorry I don’t have anything really encouraging to say. You have more on your plate than I do, and I face most days with a sense of grim resignation. I’m very sorry for you and feel for you. Prayers are about all I can offer.
 
It is not necessary to argue every issue continuously at all times.

You will wear yourself out.

What good is that?
 
Why get so worked up over grades…in the long run they don’t matter…

What do they call a person who got Cs in medical school? A doctor!
 
Katherine438 said:
… and I try to remember that God never gives us more than we can handle … I also try to offer everything up to God …

Sometimes this prayer helps me …

Let nothing disturb you,
Let nothing frighten you,
All things are passing away:
God never changes.
Patience obtains all things
Whoever has God lacks nothing;
God alone suffices.

– St. Teresa of Avila
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Beautiful prayer and lovely song. I especially like the reminder that God is Who He is and who am I to make comments. Thank you.
 
Worst case scenario: audit both classes. Or audit one of them. Methinks you’ve loaded yourself up too much - beyond what the Lord would give you. My advice: Take all of this to
Christ in the Blessed Sacrament - He waits to help you bear your burden.

p.s. You do not have cancer until a pathology report says you have cancer.
 
Praying to the Holy Spirit to give you guidance, direction, strength, fortitude & wisdom in your time of need.
 
If possible try not to worry about the grade dropping to a B until it happens. Try not to get tied in knots about cancer until you have to. I’ve been there and it was a mess-worried for nothing. Worrying before we need to is a waste of time and energy which are both precious.
This is easier said than done: “Whenever anything disagreeable or displeasing happens to you, remember Christ crucified and be silent.” From St. John of the cross.
Even though I no longer follow any particular faith tradition the above quote aids me in putting things in perspective. Blessings.
 
Neofight said:
Why get so worked up over grades…in the long run they don’t matter…

What do they call a person who got Cs in medical school? A doctor!
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Yep, this is exactly what I was thinking before I read it,
And your 56 , does it really matter you don’t get straight A’s
Depression, well I’m 62 ,had Depression since a child,
i had learnt to live with it,. Listen to good 70’s music,works for me,
 
crenfro said:
Hello.

So I’m taking 2 classes, so far one has an A average and the other an A- which I’m scared is going down to a B. I’m working full-time - I’ve asked for part time but they can’t find anyone to work – I’m a nurse – and I’m getting more and more depressed.

I spoke with my therapist and got into an argument about abortion. I don’t understand why people downplay the seriousness of abortion. I told the therapist I wasn’t in therapy to discuss politics and the session improved afterwards.

Told the therapist that sometimes I think life is a series of little crucifixions, sometimes it’s one big crucifixion.

I feel like I don’t have the strength to go on.

I also was called back to the doctor to get screened further for possible cancer.

Right now I feel like I can’t bear this load.

Any constructive comments? Comforting, insightful, wise statements using our beautiful Catholic faith? I’d appreciate any right now.

Thanks for listening.
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You’ve taken on a lot! I don’t think I could have handled that load when I was twenty.

What would you advise a young person you cared about, if they were in this situation?
 
Do you actually enjoy your work and/or studies and find them stimulating or interesting, or is it all just a means to an end?

I ask this because there have been times when I’ve found my own work (I’m self employed) depressing, as I struggle to finish something that I expected to finish weeks ago, and then I remind myself of the “big picture”, that I basically enjoy my work very much, and that gives me an extra boost to keep going.

As others have said (more or less), cut down any other commitments you can get out of, to focus on yourself and your own health. Not saying that you could have avoided the argument with the therapist, and I can understand that would have been upsetting.

Also, perhaps lower any expectations you put on yourself for running the house, cooking meals, etc. Accept “good enough”, such as healthy take out meals.
 
jmcrae said:
You’ve taken on a lot! I don’t think I could have handled that load when I was twenty.

What would you advise a young person you cared about, if they were in this situation?
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A young person starting out in life would of course be different,
A person in their 20’s being a nurse,well I’d say your obviously intelligent ,
Getting A’s and a few B’s is really impressive, when I was in high school,
I would get straight F’s , straight F’s is as dumb as you can get,there isn’t G’s ,
And getting straight F’s and still making a success of my life,with plenty of bumps
And U Turns and crashes, if I can own my house & everything I have at 62 ,
Then everything for you should be a breeze ,
Just don’t worry, be happy within yourself ,Pray a bit, read the Bible at randomly picked pages a bit, avoid negative people if at all possible ,join a theatre group if possible or Brass band,you need an outlet away from family , work , study ,
Eat healthy ,avoid soft drink,alcohol , junk foods, & Stay positive ,negativity attracts negativity ,like magnets, (-:
 
Make sure you go check out the Cancer thing,
I guess you had a full Phyical &. Blood tests,
I get that done every couple years now,
 
Yeoman said:
May God bless and strengthen you.

I see you are working and going to school. Does the school course of study look to realistically pan out for you?

I hate to even say that, but I’m 53 and I know that trying to find another career in your 50s is extremely difficult. I’m trying and failing at it myself, and indeed today, before I read your post, I was very down as I’ve failed to get the third job I’ve tried for this year in my career switch efforts. I very well know that staying in a job you don’t like is torture, but maybe at this point the only hope for both of us is that retirement might not be all that far off?

I’m sorry I don’t have anything really encouraging to say. You have more on your plate than I do, and I face most days with a sense of grim resignation. I’m very sorry for you and feel for you. Prayers are about all I can offer.
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I have a different attitude about this…

The best part of your life may be just around the corner…people are never too old to better thenselves…

I would take one day at a time and continue to move forward.🙂
 
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