6th or 9th Commandment

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I couldn’t answer this question so I thought I would see opinions here at CAF. Let’s say a married man is looking at a woman other than his wife and noticing that she has a really nice ------ (fill in the body part). If his thought is “I really wish my wife’s ------ was that nice” has he violated the 6th or 9th commandment? Or both? Or something else? Understand that I am speaking of prolonged looking and willful thinking about what marital relations would be like if the wife had the nice -----. In other words, this isn’t just a non-sinful quick notice of God’s glory shown in the person of a pretty woman.
 
This may not be the answer you’re looking for, but here are some thoughts which came to mind after reading the post.

That’s a little different approach if I read the example correctly … close to superimposing the body part of another woman onto one’s wife.

:hmmm:

I wonder if we could call that morphing your neighbor’s wife or goods ?

Depending on the body part one fills in the blank with – that body part is probably going to be of a particular use to the husband as well .Because we don’t actually know the intricacies of that use and of what else is going on in the mind of the husband , the example remains a little too vague to make a correct call… we can’t identify *intention *precisely enough.

With the limited information on hand, I think it might be considered a first step towards fantasizing about another woman . In general, when we look at sexual sins under the microscope, fantasizing usually plays some type of a role in them - whether minor, major, direct or indirect . At some point, we buy into the illusion (whatever it may be).

While some people see nothing wrong with “looking” , our Blessed Lord was clear about *committing adultery in the heart * [Matt 5:28] . This example definitely leans in that direction – lusting after or desiring, at least, a body part of someone other than one’s wife (no matter who it’s attached to) . It’s a distortion ; using another woman’s body parts to fantasize about one’s own wife. Even lusting after one’s own wife can be excessive.

Some would say the example doesn’t amount to thoughts of infidelity or adultery, but I might ask : How many different parts of another woman can one “morph” onto their wife before they no longer recognize her as their wife ?

Wishing one’s wife was like another woman, in whatever way, expresses a discontent with one’s own wife ( if we dwell on it a moment, the husband is actually saying, “I don’t like you this way” to his wife ) … It mirrors one of the sentiments which can cause men to eventually go and actually commit adultery . It also mirrors a sentiment which can make a woman feel insifficient to the point of going and getting surgical implants.

I don’t think it can be filed under “spiritually healthy thoughts” .

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I couldn’t answer this question so I thought I would see opinions here at CAF. Let’s say a married man is looking at a woman other than his wife and noticing that she has a really nice ------ (fill in the body part). If his thought is “I really wish my wife’s ------ was that nice” has he violated the 6th or 9th commandment? Or both? Or something else? Understand that I am speaking of prolonged looking and willful thinking about what marital relations would be like if the wife had the nice -----. In other words, this isn’t just a non-sinful quick notice of God’s glory shown in the person of a pretty woman.
If you desire her…2nd longing look, for example…good chance it’s a sin.

Use the “nanosecond” in between seeing and looking…and convert that temptation into something GOOD, something holy, something with ETERNAL effects…turn that temptation into a prayer, a short conversation with God.

Example: Eye sees a great looking female…Emotion pulls mind toward this sight…Will reasserts…and directs the intellect to action…‘Lord, you’ve given the world so much beauty in women…I pray for the health of all unborn children in mother’s everywhere.’

Do this and you’ll find it much easier to live with beauty all around you…so many opportunities to pray.

It isn’t easy…and it can be a recurring struggle…but it works.

Emotions, Will, Intellect.
 
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