Well, he may think that he is correct; he may even have been taught that this is correct. But of course, it isn’t.
If you’ve tried talking with him to find out where he can ‘document’ this teaching (and it is possible to ask in a non-threatening manner, but he has also probably been taught that anybody who ‘asks’ is either hopelessly pre-Vatican or out to ‘get them’), you’ll have some idea from his response what to do. (Either he won’t tell you, and the next step is to approach the bishop; or he will tell you, you can ‘explore’ the documents and again approach the bishop asking if these documents express authentic church teaching). If the BISHOP thinks it’s all peachy keen, then you have a BIG problem. . .and possibly a big MOVE to consider. Likely the bishop will not think it is ‘OK’ BUT. . .he will probably not actually do much of anything about it, especially if you’re a small parish, nobody else is doing much ‘complaining’, and the $$ hasn’t dropped a lot.
So then you’re stuck in the situation (especially if you have children) of trying to teach them authentically while the ‘authority’ is teaching them something different. Not good, believe me. You might be able to get some people behind you, but I hate to say it, in this world, people HATE obedience and LOVE change, and probably the way Father has been taught to share the ‘message’ is to subtly downplay AUTHORITY and to emphasize the ‘oneness’, the “ecumenism”, the ‘people’. . .and he’ll probably have lots of good words for the ‘popular’ things, and lots of ‘bad’ to say about authority (look how ‘they’ handled the priest crisis, look how ‘they’ are harping into people’s bedrooms and ‘denying rights’).
It’s a sin and a scandal that the Church is definitely under attack from within. And like most of the devil’s weapons, the people as well as the material used is presented in a very agreeable way, ‘angels of light’. When faced with a smiling priest who is full of fun and companionship, talks about “God’s love”, and pretty much gives you the green light to “do as you will”–or with a serious priest who makes a clear distinction between “living for God” and “living in the world”, talks about God’s justice being the “real love”, and appears to be saying that we ‘can’t’ do as we want. . .the majority of people today do, and have for several decades, overwhelmingly support “Father Jolly”.
I take heart that it seems that many younger people, as well as those of us older folk who have overcome the burden of bad catechesis and personal faults/failing and corrected ourself through proper education and late–but hopefully not too late–obedience, are choosing “Father Serious”.
God bless.