It sounds like you have a good chore system in place. I admire you for being so organized. My wife and I only have four kids, and we are not as organized with chores as you seem to be, even though most of our kids are older than yours.The 3 oldest have to clean their rooms, bring their laundry down, take it back up, and put it away - weekly. They also earn money for taking out the trash and emptying the dishwasher. They also have to help clean up the play room/library/living room every Saturday and then earn money if they take the extra step to vacuum. Most of the time they choose not to vacuum. If I have to ask them too many times to do the dishwasher or garbages, they still have to do them, they just don’t earn money. The 3 and 4 yr old help pick up toys and are working towards helping with their laundry.
Just an idea, and I’m not sure if it is a good one or not: I wonder if you could start a GoFundMe campaign, and mention it here on the forums. Catholic Answers might have a rule against that, but I looked through the forum rules, and I didn’t see one. (There is a rule against commercial solicitation, but I don’t think that this would qualify as commercial.) I don’t think you could raise nearly enough for a van, but maybe you would at least raise enough to pay for a few babysitter / mother’s helper sessions. Every little bit helps.I have resources for mother’s helpers, but not the money to pay them. We have to figure out how to afford a new vehicle to transport our large family so no extra money for extra help.
I know how you feel. And I understand that for health reasons and for considerations of how much you can handle, it would be prudent to avoid another pregnancy, at least for a considerable length of time, and maybe forever.But my mental state CAN’T take anymore! I want to get past the baby stage and get my energy back so I can start enjoying and caring for the children that I have instead of just struggling to keep my head above water with all the household/mothering chores.
You are choosing the harder road, but I think that you are choosing the right road. Remember Jesus’s teaching about entering through the narrow gate in Matthew 7:13-14. My wife and I will pray for you and your family.We determined that it would not be moral for us to go through with the tubal procedure, no matter how bad I wanted it or thought we were justified to have it done.
So now we hope for a need for a hysterectomy or hope that we have enough discipline to follow NFP/abstaining for the rest of my fertile years.
It’s take the female body 2 years to recover from pregnancy and childbirth, so yes, a strain is put on your body when you have children so close together; though women have been doing it since the dawn of time. They also died younger, sometimes in childbirth.My cousin is an OBGYN. The scars don’t heal fully until 2 years. There’s literally no way for you to know if your scars actually healed.
The OP said that they “tried but were not successful” at using NFP, and said that she did not like having to time intercourse or only be intimate on days that it was the least desirable. Considering that postpartum is the most difficult time to interpret fertility signs, and with nine pregnancies in ten years, that doesn’t actually leave much, if any, time to actually learn the methods effectively.NFP has not worked for her. 9 pregnancies in 10 years. And she apparently tried her very best. I know it has worked for some here, but clearly not for the OP.
also implies that it was more a willpower fail than not correctly tracking her fertility.So now we hope for a need for a hysterectomy or hope that we have enough discipline to follow NFP/abstaining for the rest of my fertile years.