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PetraG
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This is an unknowable person whose story was received by way of a dream. It is not something that can be documented. It is possible that someone in her position could be culpable because it is possible that she could have had the grace to choose God instead of worldliness and chose God, instead.She didn’t want children because she was more focused on having nice things. I see this as clearly not that simple…people who were unwanted children tend to find ways to fill an unfillable void. In the end the emphasis was that “things” were more important than children. But not wanting children isn’t a sin–only contraception is. Her hero-worship of her husband is a clear echo of the breakdown of her parent’s marriage.
We cannot judge in someone’s favor any more than we can judge against them, except to point out the ways that even in our human appreciation of human frailty a person might not be culpable for objective wrong-doing.
It is worthwhile to point both how we could be culpable or could be weak past our ability to cope under circumstances that look exactly the same from the outside. I don’t think the perspective of the letter is “wrong” (if it were actually a first-person narrative) any more than the perspective of a letter-writer with the perspective you are talking about. Either could be the truth, depending on the individual person, and I am sure there are many other back-stories that could explain very similar outward behavior. That is, after all, why we may not judge.