A little help for a brother.

[reteeks21]

Hello all. I need a little help. Now, this may sound weird but I have been struggling and praying through the decision to move towards a more “orthodox” church be it an Anglican, Catholic, whatever church fits that bill for quite a while. The issue, however, is my wife. She and I believe pretty much the same when it comes to core doctrine (i.e, doctrine that tends to be shared between “orthodox”. I know of no other name to use for the umbrella that Catholic and Anglican churches fall under), but she isn’t a big fan of those sorts of churches.

Now, she is NOT against Catholics or Anglicans in any shape or form. It’s just that types of services are not really her cup of tea. She percieves them to be sort of boring, and at times I feel the same way, but I believe that depends on which “orthdox” church you attend. How in the world am I supposed to handle this? The problem is that the churches around us like those are quite “old” (i.e., no people or our age there which makes it kind of hard to connect with Christians who have much in common with young folks with a brand new baby). How should I approach this? I want us to be where we can make connections and grow together as a family, but that is very hard to do when there is not a whole lot offered to you. HELP!

Please not that I have nothing against older people ; they are awesome, but we don’t have much to share with one another, and we all know that we need people we can relate to. Give me some advice, please, but try and not prostelytize. I’d like to try and not have an arguement about denominations here.

 

[1ke]

I think you need to study more regarding the purpose of the Mass if you (a) find it boring and (b) think you have to have people your age around.

Once you fully embrace why you are at the sacrifice of the Mass, what it really means, it is not “boring” and nothing can keep you away from it.

So, I don’t think you really understand the Mass. That’s your starting point.

Then, of course, you have to discern which Churches truly have a Mass (hint: the ones with valid Orders and Sacraments).

 

[reteeks21]

I think you need to study more regarding the purpose of the Mass if you (a) find it boring and (b) think you have to have people your age around.

Once you fully embrace why you are at the sacrifice of the Mass, what it really means, it is not “boring” and nothing can keep you away from it.

So, I don’t think you really understand the Mass. That’s your starting point.

Then, of course, you have to discern which Churches truly have a Mass (hint: the ones with valid Orders and Sacraments).

If the purpose of the Mass is to celebrate and recieve the presence of God then I fully understand that. I think you know what I mean by needing people to fellowship with that have things in common with us. If you disagree that’s fine, but please don’t speak like that’s a crazy thought. We all want to be where we feel we can reach out and serve, worhsip, and grow with people of like-mind, and of our age range. When you have little in common in can be tough. If that sounds heretical and un-Christian I really am sorry.

 

[CHESTERTONRULES]

Hello all. I need a little help. Now, this may sound weird but I have been struggling and praying through the decision to move towards a more “orthodox” church be it an Anglican, Catholic, whatever church fits that bill for quite a while. The issue, however, is my wife. She and I believe pretty much the same when it comes to core doctrine (i.e, doctrine that tends to be shared between “orthodox”. I know of no other name to use for the umbrella that Catholic and Anglican churches fall under), but she isn’t a big fan of those sorts of churches.

Now, she is NOT against Catholics or Anglicans in any shape or form. It’s just that types of services are not really her cup of tea. She percieves them to be sort of boring, and at times I feel the same way, but I believe that depends on which “orthdox” church you attend. How in the world am I supposed to handle this? The problem is that the churches around us like those are quite “old” (i.e., no people or our age there which makes it kind of hard to connect with Christians who have much in common with young folks with a brand new baby). How should I approach this? I want us to be where we can make connections and grow together as a family, but that is very hard to do when there is not a whole lot offered to you. HELP!

Please not that I have nothing against older people ; they are awesome, but we don’t have much to share with one another, and we all know that we need people we can relate to. Give me some advice, please, but try and not prostelytize. I’d like to try and not have an arguement about denominations here.

Most Catholic Church’s have a Life Teen Mass on Sunday evenings.

This mass is usually more contemporary in both attitude and music, but the core liturgy remains intact.

 

[reteeks21]

Most Catholic Church’s have a Life Teen Mass on Sunday evenings.

This mass is usually more contemporary in both attitude and music, but the core liturgy remains intact.

Do they usually welcome adults there? I have heard most of them do, but I was unsure if they allowed people our age (late 20’s) to come. Thanks for the suggestion!

 

[CHESTERTONRULES]

Do they usually welcome adults there? I have heard most of them do, but I was unsure if they allowed people our age (late 20’s) to come. Thanks for the suggestion!

Absolutely.

Most of these masses are not much different in demographics from the usual masses, other than the fact that there will usually be a big group of teenagers sitting together somewhere. Faithful Catholics will attend mass at this time if they’ve had to miss the earlier masses.

I enjoy these masses as a change of pace. It is very similar to a nondenominational protestant service with hands clapping and being raised. Some of these services are even charismatic.

Each church is different, however, and not all Catholic Churches offer a life teen mass.

Which city do you live in? I can give you some good recommendations for Houston or Dallas!

 

[ralphinal]

Do they usually welcome adults there? I have heard most of them do, but I was unsure if they allowed people our age (late 20’s) to come. Thanks for the suggestion!

Officially, the Catholic CHurch considers you to be “youth” until the age of 36.

You’ll be fine.

I have found that services such as the mass become less boring once you shift your focus to the sacramental. That usually comes with time and prayer

 

[Hisalone]

Have you considered Luthern?

 

[Tonks40]

God Bless You on your faith journey!

As someone suggested earlier in this thread, why don’t you study up on worship in the Mass? Jimmy Akin of CA has a wonderful little introductory booklet called Mass Appeal which explains the Mass and gives relative scripture verses.

Anglican worship is similar to Catholic worship, but void of valid Holy Orders.

Once you begin to understand the “whys” about the Mass, I think your interest in the Catholic Church will start to peak.

 

[withwind]

Do they usually welcome adults there? I have heard most of them do, but I was unsure if they allowed people our age (late 20’s) to come. Thanks for the suggestion!

My Catholic parish has mass for teens on Sunday, but anyone is welcome - no age limited.

 

[oneGODoneCHURCH]

Hello all. I need a little help. Now, this may sound weird but I have been struggling and praying through the decision to move towards a more “orthodox” church be it an Anglican, Catholic, whatever church fits that bill for quite a while. The issue, however, is my wife. She and I believe pretty much the same when it comes to core doctrine (i.e, doctrine that tends to be shared between “orthodox”. I know of no other name to use for the umbrella that Catholic and Anglican churches fall under), but she isn’t a big fan of those sorts of churches.

Now, she is NOT against Catholics or Anglicans in any shape or form. It’s just that types of services are not really her cup of tea. She percieves them to be sort of boring, and at times I feel the same way, but I believe that depends on which “orthdox” church you attend. How in the world am I supposed to handle this? The problem is that the churches around us like those are quite “old” (i.e., no people or our age there which makes it kind of hard to connect with Christians who have much in common with young folks with a brand new baby). How should I approach this? I want us to be where we can make connections and grow together as a family, but that is very hard to do when there is not a whole lot offered to you. HELP!

Please not that I have nothing against older people ; they are awesome, but we don’t have much to share with one another, and we all know that we need people we can relate to. Give me some advice, please, but try and not prostelytize. I’d like to try and not have an arguement about denominations here.

Hello there friend,

I would suggest that if you do ( and I pray you do) come to the Catholic church that once you enter into it you will find people there your own age range. The parish I belong to is from just looking in a very much older age group but once I started to really take a active role ( going to the mens bible study and mens group meetings) I started meeting more people around my age and younger close to your age . even upon entering RCIA classes you will more than like find those closer to you age group.

God Bless.

 

[spoiltvictorian]

Late 20s and you feel like youth? Respectfully I submit you should grow up. I am 25, Lutheran, and a) there are more people our age than you think, and b) don’t you know from Titus what a blessing mixed ages are?

 

[reteeks21]

Late 20s and you feel like youth? Respectfully I submit you should grow up. I am 25, Lutheran, and a) there are more people our age than you think, and b) don’t you know from Titus what a blessing mixed ages are?

When did I say that? I never said I feel like a youth. I said it would be nice to be around people my age as well as older people. I am well aware that there are more people my age around. What I was saying is that when I have visited those types of churches there weren’t people our age around. I’m well aware how much of a blessing fellowship with older Christians is. The problem with your pious assertion is that I haven’t found a church with “mixed ages”. Read my thread before you make your comments.

I am so glad that you are more mature and grown up than me. Congrats! I guess the one thing in my favor, though, is that I’m not in love with myself to the point where I can tell people to grow up without having actually taken the time to read and try and figure the point of the thread. I guess if you did that YOU would have to grow up, and we all know it’s easier to tell someone else to do something than it is to do it ourselves.

 

[withwind]

Late 20s and you feel like youth? Respectfully I submit you should grow up. I am 25, Lutheran, and a) there are more people our age than you think, and b) don’t you know from Titus what a blessing mixed ages are?

I am in 30’s and feel like in 20’s and love cartoons of all ages.

 

[reteeks21]

I am in 30’s and feel like in 20’s and love cartoons of all ages.

Wow! Are you allowed to do that?! You know, I don’t ever recall Jesus telling us to act like we had no sense of adventure and wonder. I guess if you had those two things you would be considered “grown up”.

 

[withwind]

Wow! Are you allowed to do that?! You know, I don’t ever recall Jesus telling us to act like we had no sense of adventure and wonder. I guess if you had those two things you would be considered “grown up”.

You mean watching cartoons? Sure. Who says we cannot watch cartoon movies? There are lots of adventure and wonder in cartoons.

Have you seen the Kungfu Panda movie?

About adventure and wonder - most ages have them.

 

[reteeks21]

You mean watching cartoons? Sure. Who says we cannot watch cartoon movies? There are lots of adventure and wonder in cartoons.

Have you seen the Kungfu Panda movie?

About adventure and wonder - most ages have them.

Oh, yeah. I have seen the movie. I laughed so hard I had a coughing fit!

Most ages have them but some people in those age groups (we’ve seen one here, I think) don’t WANT them.

 

[withwind]

I hope you will find the parish where you will be somewhat comfortable with …especially looking for those with some good and solid ministries in which you and your family can participate. I have learned a lot compared to 2 years ago when I only came to church once a week. In participating a particular ministry, I don’t feel bored even if I am currently single and have no immediate family members around. They are thousand miles away.

My suggestion is that you can bring this question up in the Family forum. I think some might have gone through what you are right now.

forums.catholic-questions.org/forumdisplay.php?f=12

 

[spoiltvictorian]

Oh, yeah. I have seen the movie. I laughed so hard I had a coughing fit!

Most ages have them but some people in those age groups (we’ve seen one here, I think) don’t WANT them.

Are you talking about me? I’m with Chesterton on childlike wonder.

 

[1edyson]

Have you tried a Newman Center? I’m 26 and have always gone and celebrated the ordinary form of Mass. Even tried the life-teen Mass, but went to Mass at the local university Newman Center and found it awesome. I’m bringing my gf, whose from a non-denominational background and going through RCIA, and she seems to enjoy the more contemporary Mass provided by Newman. I’m sure its like with all parishes that each Newman Center is going to be different, but we have a good number of College Grads, College Students, and Older community members that celebrate with us, and it’s awesome.