A patron saint for single guys

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Someone may suffer because he is single, it’s natural, but if he is unhappy because he is single, it is in my opinion the proof that in reality it is marriage which is his true happiness and not God, it is not God who makes him happy, but his marriage… In fact he has two masters: his marriage and God, and God is actually for him, a way to get what will make him really happy (the marriage), he is centered on himself and not on God, in short he does not have charity at all…
It should be noted that I make the difference between suffering and being unhappy!
 
ineedofmercy said:
Jesus even asked in his agony that if The Father wills the cup to pass him to let it
But the cup had to come
Jesus wasn’t showing a lack of charity he couldn’t be lacking in virtue
Jesus felt the human emotion of fear and dread we all feel
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Jesus was suffering but Jesus was not unhappy. One can suffer without being unhappy.
 
Suffering and being unhappy are usually linked
And suffering and being unhappy doesn’t break the merits of the suffering

It’s that in spite of the suffering you have a hidden joy of what is to come because you suffered for God
 
God calls many of us to marriage(though many priests are needed m today and few answer the call)
So if a God loving man thinks God is calling him to marriage and it something he himself with be very happy to have
And no girl gives him this love in return or he can’t find a girl that follows God
He can be sad but still put God first
Or if he dumped it feels rejected
And is upset and feels unwanted
That doesn’t mean he feels God doesn’t want him
In fact in probably makes him get closer to God in his sadness

In my case a girl I used to like now likes me but she is an athiest so I have to just leave it be knowing I’m probably hurting her heart which hurts mine
I may be called to some religious life or single life
Despite longing to be held and hold someone I care about (maybe just my youthful brain)
The pain I feel however gets me thinking and talking to God about it
 
ineedofmercy said:
Suffering and being unhappy are usually linked
And suffering and being unhappy doesn’t break the merits of the suffering
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Suffering is not a virtue, so it has no merit in itself. It is to suffer with patience (without complaining) or to suffer with Joy which is meritorious.
Then, to be unhappy in suffering has no merit for there is no virtue to be unhappy in suffering
 
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ineedofmercy said:
God calls many of us to marriage(though many priests are needed m today and few answer the call)
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marriage is a natural vocation, by nature every normally sexual person is called to marriage.
But each one is free to renounce this natural call to marriage, and to choose the perfect chastity, which consists in living in a perpetual and voluntary continence for God.
We must not confuse perfect chastity with religious or priestly vocations. Perfect chastity is not a vocation, but a perfection that anyone can choose (it’s a free choice)
 
Yes it is good for those who do not struggle with a passion or desire for marriage to remain chaste

But those who get married are not wrong for not being chaste for they are doing something holy and lovely that God gave them and through then God makes a life and gives them pleasure and love for Him and each other

Someone who desires s beautiful Union of couple and Christ
Can ache when he believe that may not be his calling by God
But in the end should listen to God and tell him about the sadness and disappointment he feels
God never forgets our pain and catches ever tear and groan and promises us he will take it away one day and that it will benefit us and the souls of other when offered to him
That and in heaven our pain is repaid to us with eternal joy
 
ineedofmercy said:
Yes it is good for those who do not struggle with a passion or desire for marriage to remain chaste
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on the contrary, he who does not need to fight against his passions can not practice perfect chastity because he is a continent by nature and not by will. So his continence is without merit. it is someone who is naturally attracted by conjugal love but who chooses to sacrifice this good for God who is practicing perfect chastity.
 
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I agree completely

But St.Paul also said those that burn with such a passion are better off trying for marriage than risking sexual sins
But for those who can he says should remain single and live a life of service

Sadly “getting married” isn’t easy these days especially if you want a Catholic spouse who follows the faith
So those people are in a difficult position and their battles to remain chaste are very good in the eyes of God
But so is pain in longing for a companion in the future
 
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