A problem. Any answers?

[Xenon-135]

I wonder is Stjomo stands for St. Joseph, Missouri…you know, home of the Double Duce.

The “why by the cow” cliche was what I grew up with, but I have heard an increasing number of young girls brandish the “why buy the whole pig when all you want is a little sausage” mantre.

Although it has a humours tint to it, the underlying attitude is devestating, when one realizes that the caviler sexual attitude, which was once an societal exclusive of the male, is now rampant in the female.

Talk about “blessed are the wombs that never bore and the breasts that never nursed…” it seems that I don’t know what then will happen when the wood it dry, if this is what happens when it is young.

I would not advance my blessing on this effort of your baby to move in with her boyfriend. I know when I was that age, I would surely have taken advantage of her I was her boyfriend and she were living in my home, unwed. It would just have been too great of a temptation for me.

 

[thepatientone]

It is very difficult to give ‘answers’ that will be the perfect solution.

You know what your daughter is getting herself into and that it’s bad for her. Frankly speaking it must be a terrible time for you too.
Everybody has mentioned the sin of scandal or so. That is very true and correct. As a young girl, I was witness to all sorts of scandal regarding running away to live with a man and other such things within my neighborhood. Years later some of these girls would come back. Whether or not the 'living together or not resulted in marriage later, they were considered very bad influences and never given much respect.

It is immaterial that she has no intention of sleeping with the boy. That is only HER intention. Needless to say that the boy will have his own agenda, and there is nothing she can do about his own.

‘Run away from the devil and he will flee from you’ Everyday we struggle with different kinds of temptations that we are unable to handle. We ask God for forgiveness and are truly sorry for our sins. These are weaknesses that we cannot help. But to consciously put ourselves in a tempting position is not a pretty situation.

Please think about discussing these points with your daughter. (Use of the first person is intentional)

• In a few years from now, how will you feel about this decision?
• If this relationship does not end in marriage, how would you feel?
• If you are ever asked about your moral upstanding, what would you say? And do you really feel that it doesn’t matter?
• What kind of impression do you want your children to have of you?
  If you cannot show them a good example, do you that you’ll never be able to convince them that what you’re saying is good for them.
  If you show a good example, you will be able to speak with truth and conviction. And the truth will set you free.

 

[Gail]

Jan Wakelin:

I like Catholic Cadet’s idea…and get them both to read Jason Evert’s “Pure Love”

Then pray, pray, pray for them both.

I agree with Jan. Jason also has a video out that is well worth you and your daughter to see. I highly recommend it. My thoughts are like the others. She shouldn’t go. She shouldn’t put herself in a situation that is just too tempting. If this boy “loves” her he wouldn’t even ask this of her. So just say NO you can’t go.

Get the Video!

 

[gardenartist]

There is a wealth of excellent counsel here, and i do not have much to add except that for a very different reason I had to pull the rug out on my 17 year old daughter years ago, which forced her to buy her means of transportation herself. I was shocked that she chose that route. Anyway she is close to 22 now, and is a much better person for her having to foot the bills herself. i get nothing but compliments on her and her responsible attitude. Although i thought she would “mind” me she went her own way, but God has a way of working it out, for our greater good.
Secondly, I might suggest that you have a long talk with her guardian angel, I have been aided countless times myself by their continued assistance. They after all have a charge to care for and present to our Lord as well. It seems to me that they are more than happy to help as we request.

God bless you and there is a positive benefit to come out of this, although it may seem dark right now.