Starwynd,
From your other post here:
forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?p=3645185#post3645185
“I’m sorry but I have many problems with abortion and cannot make my mind up on the matter. I do believe it’s wrong yes, but the thing that makes it problematic for me is that if you make abortion illegal, then that means you end up forcing women to give birth. And to me, that is
equally as deplorable.” (emphasis mine).
Starwynd,
I wish you the best in your search for answers. It is certainly good that, rather than decide that you are a “pro-choice Catholic”, you sense the tension in your Catholicism and your views on abortion and are trying to make sense of it, as evidenced by the fact that you are posting here. But in something as fundamental as this, and with the Church teaching so unambiguous, I respectfully suggest that you should examine your duty as a Catholic. What I will say may be yet another aspect of Catholicism that you will find difficult, but here goes. When you have difficulty with a Church teaching, do not assume that the Church is wrong, assume that you are wrong. Pray and study. God gave you an intellect, and He wants you to use it. Usually, you will come to understand the Church teaching. Even if you don’t, you must accept it and not use your intellect in a prideful way that assumes its superiority to Church teaching.
This argument about the death penalty is part of the “seamless garment” confusion that is used constantly to confound pro-life efforts to protect the unborn. Cardinal Bernardin helped to drag abortion down to just one of many “complex issues” like, war, healthcare, prisoner treatment, nuclear disarmament, and on and on. Those who favor abortion throw Bernardin in the face of pro-lifers as supposedly lacking “a consistent ethic of life” if they don’t also buy into a lot of what are frankly the pet causes of a certain segment of our population, such segment being overwhelmingly pro-choice.
But make no mistake, the Church is clear that there is no “social justice” issue like abortion in terms of clarity regarding the evil that is done, or the numbers that are killed. The catechism is clear that abortion is an “intrinsic evil” and never justified. The death penalty is not an intrinsic evil and can be justified in certain, rare circumstances. The two issues cannot properly be equated.
You are not right that giving birth is equally deplorable as taking the life of a baby who has committed no wrong, but I understand the point that you are trying to make. Women facing unwanted pregnancies are in a terrible position. And, ironically, their situation is often made all the worse because, rather than liberate the woman, “choice” can liberate the man to the detriment of the woman. He can push a woman into an unwanted abortion. He can wash his hands of it and say, “well, I didn’t want her to have it, she chose to have it”, and rather than have a father for the child, the woman just has some guy that she can pursue for child support. Women who have had abortions are often plagued with psychological problems to an extent that is underreported.
These women need our love and our support. And if you continue to explore these issues, you will come to learn that Catholic pro-lifers aren’t the caricatures of the rabid, sign-wielding, clinic-blocking, screamers that you see in the popular media. Many of them work in crisis pregnancy centers, they pray the rosary for life, they collect baby clothes and toys, and they take pregnant women into their homes.
You said in a post that you have recently come into the Church and were even possibly looking for a different circle of friends. My guess is that your “pre-conversion” friends may not, by and large, be pro-life. Pro-life is not viewed as chic, and telling people at a cocktail party that you are pro-life will not earn you the same plaudits as telling people that you raised money for Planned Parenthood. Jesus warned us that we may not always be liked by others for what we do in His name.
This issue is obviously important to you, and you should have all the help you can get. Prayer is more powerful than we can ever fully understand. If you have not prayed a rosary before, try it, and ask Jesus and Mary to help guide your exploration of this issue.