no i havent been to a doctor about it… i just took some tests and they said i was. but they could be wrong even. result of “consentual sex”, i dont really know what that means sorry :\ i feel like i have no other choice because there isnt really a way for me to have a baby. and a lot of people would be mad… they would get over it, but i still dont want to make them mad
The only thing that matters is whether or not you’r pregnant. Your age, how many weeks, who is the father, was it rape or consentual, is irrelevant. No Catholic pro-life center will ever ask you those questions. It’s up to you to volunteer as much or as little information as you wish. If you need a place to go while you’re pregnant, the Catholic Church has homes all over for pregnant women. You can even come to the USA. We have Good Shepherd Homes here and we take in girls from all over. There are some in Canada too. The friars and the sisters help with all of the paperwork.
If someone gets angry because you’re pregnant, they’ll just have to get over it. If you and your baby’s father (if he’s in the picture) kill your son or daughter, you may never get over it.
Then there are the risks involved, begin with Post Abortion Syndrome: nightmares, anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addictions, self-destructive behaviours, restlessness and others. There is also the chance of damage to the uterus that may lead to infertility or complications with future pregnancies. Finally, if there is a loving relationship between you and the father, the relationship will suffer. Most couples who go through an abortion together finish breaking up. It distabalizes the relationship, because trust is diminished.
The risks to you and to your son or daughter far outweigh what other people will think. The worse that can happen is that someone will get angry, will shout, not speak to you for a few weeks. I have seen it all. I have seen the same people go gaga when they see the baby once it’s born and suddenly, no one remembers ever being angry or afraid of others being angry. It passes.
If you are pregnant, then YOU ARE A MOTHER. You must protect your son or daughter. We can help you. But you must take our hand.
Think of it this way. If a woman is willing to kill her son or daughter, because she’s afraid of someone being angry, what else is she capable of doing when the going gets tougher? You don’t want to have to ask yourself this question. You can avoid having to ask yourself this question by choosing life. If you choose the life of your baby, you will never have to doubt yourself. You will know one thing about yourself, that you have the courage to do what is right.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, OSF
