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celestielle
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thanks… you guys are really helpful. one question tho is… i am not very religious… are they going to pressure me to be very religious?
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ouioui
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no they are not. They will help you regardless of that.
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celestielle
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thats great, i could really use some advice from them or anybody even about what i should do, because i really feel like my life has pretty much ended right now :\
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JReducation
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No, you’re life has not ended. Things have simply changed. Now we have to make some plans so that you can adjust to the changes.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, OSF
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joandarc2008
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I wouldn’t say that - as a matter of fact - if you go one step further you are doing the greatest thing any woman can do - giving life to another human being. I know that you said you aren’t very religious and that’s OK - but why don’t you sit back make yourself comfortable and try talking to your baby. Start a journal - write some letters. It may seem silly right now - but you have life in you. And he/she understands. Everything you eat; he/she shares. Everything you feel; he/she feels. This is a gift although it may not seem like it now - there are many women in the world that are unable to have children at all that spend years on waiting lists to adopt. Go ahead and bond. At the very least - make sure you stay healthy in the meantime - no alcohol, no cigarettes, and eat healthy. I know I will be here and I am sure many others will be as well.
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celestielle
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thanks joandarc thats a really cool idea. i already have a diary i write in actually and ive written some stuff in it about this but writing a letter to the baby… that just seems like a really nice idea that would make me feel a lot better
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joandarc2008
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Someday too you may choose to share bits and pieces of it. Good night. Or Bon nuit.
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BlueShadow123
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Does that ‘no killing statement’ only apply to humans?
I always wondered that.
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Onedayatatime
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First Thank You and God for posting here to discuss maybe the most important decision of your and your baby’s life. You have been given the most beautiful gift and priviledge of bringing a child into the world.
As a father, let me tell you my story.
Yesterday was the birthday of my first born twins, the 15th of November 1981. The eldest twin, Michael died this day 16th November 1981. His brother Ian was 29 yesterday.
My birthday present to him was this poem, which even though is written as a father, you can feel it as a mother. I pray for you and that you will be protected during your pregancy and that you enjoy the life you are giving to your son or daughter.
Thumpity, Thumpity, Thump, Thump, Thump,
Heart beating, never missing,
Pounds on, Thumpity thump,
Blood renewing life by beating,
Thumpity thump.
Thumpity, Thump, Thumpity, Thump,
I hear a doctor listening now,
Your heartbeat inside, mother smiles,
Two heartbeats now, a little scared,
Thumpity Thump, Thump, Thump
Thumpity, Thumpity, Thumpity, Thumpity,
Your new heart races and you arrive
All happiness, love and screams,
My blood flows fast within your veins,
My miracle of dreams.
Thumpity, Thump, Thumpity, Thump,
I hear right now that slow beat well,
Your ear upon my chest,
That love between us will always be,
Not far and never rest.
For blood that flows within ourselves,
Is more than just bloodlines,
The spirit of a Father’s love.
Can surely, never die.
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TheRealJuliane
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I have just found this thread and I want to send my prayers to you. You sound as if you are young and overwhelmed with what has happened. And I am aware that the culture up in Canada is very pro-abortion as a “solution” to the “problem” of pregnancy.
But there are organizations that will help you, although they may seem difficult to find. Your first impulse, to make your pregnancy go away, is not your best one. You have to do some growing up now. If you have had sex with a boyfriend, you actually were performing an act that was designed by God to create life, so in your case, it accomplished that purpose. People have just divorced sex from creating life so that now it seems like only a pleasurable act. But God gave that pleasure to us to be enjoyed in marriage and to be open to children. God has granted you a child. This baby does not belong to you to dispose of as you see fit. He or she belongs to God, and you are to care for your baby, including putting him or her up for adoption if you cannot raise the baby at this time.
My sister had an abortion when she was 17. It changed her life forever. You don’t forget, you don’t just go on with your life, you are scarred forever. Your body knows that you are growing a baby, from conception, and many processes are set in motion. To go to a doctor, who is supposed to do no harm, to have that baby torn from your womb, is a lifelong wound that will never ever heal. Young women are lied to, and then are ashamed of themselves, it is a worse secret than that you are pregnant. Society says this is no big deal, but it IS a big deal, it is the biggest deal in your life.
Please, please let someone help you find an organization that can help you. We help girls without any mention of religion. Of course we believe that every life is sacred, but we sure don’t require any conversion or anything…anyone of any faith is welcome to use our organizations to save the life of their child - without conditions. I am sure someone here can help you where you are.
My prayers are for you and your baby.
p.s. have you told the baby’s father yet?
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TheRealJuliane
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What a lovely poem! Thank you for sharing it with us! i remember so well when all I knew of each of my 2 sons was that “thumpity thump” heard on the monitor at the doctor’s office!
Mary_Gail_36
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I’ve shared this story before.
When I was 16 a girl in my class got pregnant. She and I were not friends, just aquaintances. She chose to have an abortion.
After the abortion, we were in study hall. I saw her with her head down on the desk. She was trembling and making a type of sound. At first I thought she was laughing…until she picked up her head. Her face was streaked with tears, and she was repeating something over and over. I had to listen closely to hear what she was saying. Finally I heard the words, “He had arms…he had legs…he had arms…he had legs.” Her little baby who had been aborted weeks earlier.
That event will always stay with me.
Right now you might feel afraid or worried or annoyed that you are pregnant.
Abortion doesn’t make you un-pregnant, it doesn’t take you to a place before this baby existed. Abortion takes away your baby’s life. He didn’t do anything wrong.
Please don’t do it.
When I was 16 a girl in my class got pregnant. She and I were not friends, just aquaintances. She chose to have an abortion.
After the abortion, we were in study hall. I saw her with her head down on the desk. She was trembling and making a type of sound. At first I thought she was laughing…until she picked up her head. Her face was streaked with tears, and she was repeating something over and over. I had to listen closely to hear what she was saying. Finally I heard the words, “He had arms…he had legs…he had arms…he had legs.” Her little baby who had been aborted weeks earlier.
That event will always stay with me.
Right now you might feel afraid or worried or annoyed that you are pregnant.
Abortion doesn’t make you un-pregnant, it doesn’t take you to a place before this baby existed. Abortion takes away your baby’s life. He didn’t do anything wrong.
Please don’t do it.
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faithfully
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This is all true. The reason I asked you these question Celeste, is so that perhaps others could help you overcome the emotion attached to certain obsticles. The answers to these question do not impact the Catholic stance that you must keep the baby. But the answers are important with regard to your well being. And they do NOT have to be answered here. But it sounds as though you might have some serious issues to deal with at the same time. Know that your needs will not, should NOT be shoved aside at the same time of taking care of a growing baby. If you have something to heal from, you can do so while carrying a baby.
It’s concerning that you don’t understand what consentual sex is. Meaning did you agree to have sex? Or where you raped or forced by someone? This is not something you have to answer here. Although no one of here can recommend an abortion under such terrible circumstances, you need to know that you don’t have to be alone for this sort of thing.
Regardless, it looks like you’re getting some great advise. I’m sure some of it sounds rather harsh. I’m sure all of it is delivered with good intentions to you and your baby.
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ValentinesDay
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Placing a baby for adoption isn’t easy by any means, but it isn’t impossible, either. You will be giving a couple who so want a child the very best, the most important gift they will ever receive. You will be providing your baby a secure, loving family in which to grow and become a loving, hopefully happy adult.
You’ve been given the opportunity to bear a child, to give life to a whole new person, and you also have the opportunity to help make a family out of your love for that child.
Abortion IS in the Bible, as one of the Commandments – that just isn’t a group of cells growing within you – he/she is already a unique individual whom God loves.
There are many, many services available for mothers who don’t feel they can handle caring for their babies – there is a whole world of help out there for you.
Please pray about the life you carry and know that you can give the gift no one else on earth can give. I gave up my son so that he would have a better life, and it was an amazing, loving, God-filled time in my life. Yes, it was hard, but God will help you through every moment if you choose love and life.
I will be praying for you. Please listen to what God is asking you to do.
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AggieCatholic22
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so don’t take a life, God gave you the blessing of having that baby…just think about this if you love your life dont you want to give that baby a chance to experience how awesome the blessing/gift of life is?..God does things for a reason and sometimes it may not always seem to be convenient, but God knows best…and also, its about knowing that you can share your love with your baby=)!..and if you are not able to support your baby give it up for adoption…my boyfriend was adopted and you know he is so thankful he was, because if not he would be in a orphanage right now or else not here because of abortion…there are couples out there that can’t have children, and would love to adopt=)…and if you think you cant give the baby up for adoption like people on here have said there are organizations that can help you!..=)
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pacoenelsaco
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I don’t know what you’re situation is but all I can say is…please do not abort the baby. It’s a living human being and is such the moment he/she is concieved in you’re belly. I had a friend of mine who’s parents wanted to abort him when he was concieved…but they didn’t and he’s turned out to be one of my best friends. You never know what kind of wonders this baby could do for mankind or who’s lives they can change just by being alive.
And I’m sorry for saying this because I know it may sound mean, but the babie’s not at fault for you’re mistakes. If you didn’t want to get pregnant then you shouldn’t have been having sex in the first place. Or you should’ve at least made you’re partner wear a condom. Don’t punish the baby for something it’s not at fault for. He/she has every right to live life and it’s not his/her fault they were concieved. You believed you were adult enough to go around having sex, no do the adult thing and man up to you’re responsiblities. Not run away from them like an immature little brat. Again, I know this sounds harsh, but Abortion is a truly cruel thing to go through. Especially for the babies but also for the parents.
My wife (before she even knew I exsisted) had an abortion at one point in her life. She was not in a position to take care of a child, there was so much drama already in her life with her bf and her family at the time, and she knew that bringing a baby into the world under those conditions would never work. So she had an abortion. But you know what?..Not a day goes by that her doing so doesn’t haunt her. Everytime she hears about someone having an abortion or see’s pictures of someone who killed a fetus she burts into tears because she feels so bad about doing so.
Give this baby the chance it deserves to live and have a good life. If you feel as though you can’t do this for them, then give the baby up for adoption to a loving family that will give it the life it deserves. But please…do not kill this baby.
And I’m sorry for saying this because I know it may sound mean, but the babie’s not at fault for you’re mistakes. If you didn’t want to get pregnant then you shouldn’t have been having sex in the first place. Or you should’ve at least made you’re partner wear a condom. Don’t punish the baby for something it’s not at fault for. He/she has every right to live life and it’s not his/her fault they were concieved. You believed you were adult enough to go around having sex, no do the adult thing and man up to you’re responsiblities. Not run away from them like an immature little brat. Again, I know this sounds harsh, but Abortion is a truly cruel thing to go through. Especially for the babies but also for the parents.
My wife (before she even knew I exsisted) had an abortion at one point in her life. She was not in a position to take care of a child, there was so much drama already in her life with her bf and her family at the time, and she knew that bringing a baby into the world under those conditions would never work. So she had an abortion. But you know what?..Not a day goes by that her doing so doesn’t haunt her. Everytime she hears about someone having an abortion or see’s pictures of someone who killed a fetus she burts into tears because she feels so bad about doing so.
Give this baby the chance it deserves to live and have a good life. If you feel as though you can’t do this for them, then give the baby up for adoption to a loving family that will give it the life it deserves. But please…do not kill this baby.
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Adam1986
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Onedayatatime
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Thank you, glad you liked it, you guessed the name “Thumpity Thump” I hope it helps Celeste …
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Adam1986
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Honey, PLEASE don’t have an abortion.
You’re going to regret it. And not for nine months or five years, but FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
For the rest of your life you are going to wonder what would have happened if you didn’t have that abortion. For the rest of your life you will wonder what kind of person that baby would have become. And while you may not have a debilitating grief for the rest of your life; the pain that you will most likely have will gnaw at you everyday.
You HAVE OTHER OPTIONS. You can give the baby up for adoption.
You say people will be angry with you if they find out you are pregnant; how do you think they will react if somehow they find out you had an abortion?
Did you know that there is a slight chance that you may DIE during or after the procedure? Did you know that there is a good chance of some form of complication from it? Ranging from minor to you never being able to get pregnant when you do want to?
Please don’t have the abortion. You are killing your child!
We will pray for you and your child.
PS. You also said you only took some home pregnancy tests to figure out what’s going on? You need to see a doctor because those tests are not always accurate.
IF you find out you’re not pregnant from your doctor I highly advise you to go on the Pill AND next time make the guy wear a condom!
Tell him you won’t have sex unless he wears it. Also don’t tell the guy you’re on the Pill because then he really won’t want to wear a condom and condoms are the only thing that will prevent you from catching STDs & STIs.
I know some people will not support my advice on birth control on here, BUT IMO it’s better she uses birth control now instead of an ABORTION later.
Anyway I’ll ask you one more time PLEASE DON’T HAVE AN ABORTION!!
THERE ARE OTHER OPTIONS!
You’re going to regret it. And not for nine months or five years, but FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
For the rest of your life you are going to wonder what would have happened if you didn’t have that abortion. For the rest of your life you will wonder what kind of person that baby would have become. And while you may not have a debilitating grief for the rest of your life; the pain that you will most likely have will gnaw at you everyday.
You HAVE OTHER OPTIONS. You can give the baby up for adoption.
You say people will be angry with you if they find out you are pregnant; how do you think they will react if somehow they find out you had an abortion?
Did you know that there is a slight chance that you may DIE during or after the procedure? Did you know that there is a good chance of some form of complication from it? Ranging from minor to you never being able to get pregnant when you do want to?
Please don’t have the abortion. You are killing your child!
We will pray for you and your child.
PS. You also said you only took some home pregnancy tests to figure out what’s going on? You need to see a doctor because those tests are not always accurate.
IF you find out you’re not pregnant from your doctor I highly advise you to go on the Pill AND next time make the guy wear a condom!
Tell him you won’t have sex unless he wears it. Also don’t tell the guy you’re on the Pill because then he really won’t want to wear a condom and condoms are the only thing that will prevent you from catching STDs & STIs.
I know some people will not support my advice on birth control on here, BUT IMO it’s better she uses birth control now instead of an ABORTION later.
Anyway I’ll ask you one more time PLEASE DON’T HAVE AN ABORTION!!
THERE ARE OTHER OPTIONS!
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ForAll
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Hi Celestielle:
I wanted to provide you with an opinion from another perspective…my mom almost aborted me. She drove to the clinic, sat in the parking lot, thinking…thinking…she didn’t have anyone’s support to keep me. She had three kids already and her husband was furious that she was pregnant, demanded that she get an abortion. She didn’t have a job, and her parents weren’t going to be helpful. She didn’t even have insurance. She had every reason to abort me and hey, it was early in the pregnancy–under a month! According to some people, I wasn’t a person yet–I was just cells.
If my mom had aborted me, her life would’ve been different forever and so would the lives of many others–and I’m not even a very important person! But, I have affected the world. I have convinced two friends not to commit suicide; what would’ve happened if they weren’t there? I convinced my best friend in 8th grade to report the molestation that was happening to her, which resulted in the guy being put in jail. What would have happened to her if we hadn’t been friends? Would he have been free for even another year, to prey on more children?
And what about my fiancé…you may think I’m crazy, but we were meant for each other, from the beginning of time. I firmly believe that God created him with me in mind, knowing that I would later come into the world and be the love of his life. If my mother had killed me, his life would have been lived without me. I’m sure he could’ve found happiness, and certainly holiness, but it certainly would not be the same.
My mom is now my best friend. Her other children are not involved in her life, but I adore her and we talk daily. She says constantly, “I don’t know what I would have done without you. I’m so glad I kept you.”
Your child has a place in this world, just like every person does. Your child has friends to make, people to love, lives to change: please let him/her do this. Please give this child the chance to change the world!
I wanted to provide you with an opinion from another perspective…my mom almost aborted me. She drove to the clinic, sat in the parking lot, thinking…thinking…she didn’t have anyone’s support to keep me. She had three kids already and her husband was furious that she was pregnant, demanded that she get an abortion. She didn’t have a job, and her parents weren’t going to be helpful. She didn’t even have insurance. She had every reason to abort me and hey, it was early in the pregnancy–under a month! According to some people, I wasn’t a person yet–I was just cells.
If my mom had aborted me, her life would’ve been different forever and so would the lives of many others–and I’m not even a very important person! But, I have affected the world. I have convinced two friends not to commit suicide; what would’ve happened if they weren’t there? I convinced my best friend in 8th grade to report the molestation that was happening to her, which resulted in the guy being put in jail. What would have happened to her if we hadn’t been friends? Would he have been free for even another year, to prey on more children?
And what about my fiancé…you may think I’m crazy, but we were meant for each other, from the beginning of time. I firmly believe that God created him with me in mind, knowing that I would later come into the world and be the love of his life. If my mother had killed me, his life would have been lived without me. I’m sure he could’ve found happiness, and certainly holiness, but it certainly would not be the same.
My mom is now my best friend. Her other children are not involved in her life, but I adore her and we talk daily. She says constantly, “I don’t know what I would have done without you. I’m so glad I kept you.”
Your child has a place in this world, just like every person does. Your child has friends to make, people to love, lives to change: please let him/her do this. Please give this child the chance to change the world!
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