There is so much here. I think you are for the most part pretty accurate which is nice. I also think that you don’t see what you outlined as a problem, which isn’t as nice.
You’re on target with stating most Catholics’ faith is lived out through going to Mass. Just on that one topic, 75% don’t go to Mass. Of those that do, it appears many/most are fulfilling and obligation rather than any sense of awe of God.
I don’t usually attend a Novus Ordo parish, but when I do, I don’t experience that people are there to worship, but to mark the box and receive the Eucharist. They seem to speed through the prayers, shorten hymns and run out of the sanctuary rather than spending a couple minutes in prayer (if they stay after receiving…). I went to one mid-morning Sunday Mass of about 200 people where it was 32 minutes from the scheduled start until the Priest was making post service announcements. Realizing the state of the average Catholic, I cried/sobbed/wailed (take your choice) for 15 minutes after. This is the 25% that show up.
One thing that we Catholics don’t get, is that community and inviting people to church is built in to the DNA of many Protestant Churches. People are excited about their church experience and want their friends to experience what they experience. It is social. It is communal. It is what Markie referred to in his initial post and frankly what the early church modeled for the Christian life. So if we’re not doing it…well…
Finally, I don’t expect you to “get it”. Most long time Catholics have no reference point of what belonging to a mission oriented church is because they’ve never been a part of one and never needed to. They just fulfill the Sunday obligation and they’re good. Most of them have family and friends who have left the church and what’s left behind is often more influenced by the culture than Christ.
Wow this post is way longer than I thought it’d be. But what I’m describing is in part what the original post was speaking about. If the churches mission is to convert people, what you are saying is to find out more, a non-Catholic, let alone a non-Christian, not only needs to overcome the fear of showing up for the first time, they then must join some other group to connect with people to see if they want to be involved…and we wonder why it isn’t growing or people like Markie are hesitant to join

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Thanks for your post, this response isn’t a rant against you, just an explanation of what a Protestant sees when they come over as the responses from the long time Catholics have a distinctly different flavor than those of us from Protestant backgrounds.
PAX