Addressing absurdity of divorced & remarried couples receiving communion

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Then time to make major life changes. Jesus calls for that in everyone’s lives.

I have a big one in my own life.
 
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My husband doesn’t want to convalidate. He feels insulted by the mere suggestion that our marriage was lacking something from the beginning.

At the same time, he made it clear he would leave if I was asking him to abstain indefinitely. I don’t want to break our marriage.
 
Great, this is excellent! Hope you join soon. Each conversion is a blessing from heaven.

Sorry if I got to harsh on you. Pray and trust God, He will help you in his mercy. I understand the complexity of your situation. I am talking only in general terms in my topic, surely I can’t analyze a specific situation.

And pray for the conversion of your husband, as you are doing, he can too.
 
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He is at odds with the Church, and should refrain from Eucharist until he works this out.
 
As I explained in another thread :
He was baptized as a Protestant, I as a Catholic. I decided as a teen I was a Reformed Christian, but I never formally left the Church. When we married (in a Reformed parish), I didn’t care about my canonical status and didn’t bother asking for a dispensation from canonical form.
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Ok. Jesus is asking you to trust Him. Because of the decision you made for a long time, you have to make a big leap of faith now!

Do you really believe your husband will leave you because you want to convalidate? That is a terrible thing for him to do. That would be HIM breaking up the family, NOT the Church’s position of reception of Eucharist.
 
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We were quite close to this a few weeks ago.

But I feel we’re veering a bit off topic, and the only reason I am sharing all this is that because in my particular situation, the pastoral guidance I received is exactly what Father @InThePew said : my culpability is diminished by the circumstances, and were I in full communion with the Church (which I am not yet), I wouldn’t be prevented from receiving the Eucharist.

I am quite sure that I am not the only person in an invalid marriage for whom this is true.
 
My friend. I am going to be very honest with you right now, and it’s not without compassion or sympathy.

Why are you willing to have sex with someone who is obviously at deep odds with your faith?

I dont believe he will leave you over this. If he does, than he does not love you. He can still believe in his vows at your wedding, even by convalidating with you now. If he loves you, he will convalidate for your sake. If he has such contempt for the Church as to refuse convalidation, how will he accept that you have any other participation in the Church?
 
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If someone is unable to consent due to mental capacity, that is a severe psychological condition.
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It is? Where has the Church set this standard.

A family is often as blind to psychological issues as the individual himself.
 
You don’t know how our marriage works or the dynamics of our couple. I know you mean well, and I am really touched that you care enough to give advice, but please refrain from making hasty judgments like “if he leaves, he doesn’t love you”.

All I can say is that, with the help of a good priest who is my SD, the course I am taking is the one which brings me slowly closer to the Church while posing the least possible threat to my marriage.
 
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Are priests infallible?
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No, and neither are tribunals. I have to agree with the poster above. This place is harsh. This sort of attitude is precisely why Pope Francis wrote Amoris Laetitia in the pastoral tenor. No, the Church is not in the habit of opening communion lightly, and that is not what the document suggests. However, Truth must be mixed with charity, just as charity must be grounded in truth.
 
Refraining from Eucharist is a virtue in some cases. When done in reverence, it is a petition for your situation.

Sacrifices of sex is also a virtue.
 
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