Adoration behavior - what is it?

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The past two times that I have went to adoration I have noticed something and it has bothered me since. Mind you, I do not go as often as I should, but I am trying. However, what I find there is starting to turn me off to being there when others are being “disrespectful.”

On one occasion the person that was there for their hour (the one that had signed up for the hour) brought in a cup of coffee :coffee: :eek: . I almost fell off my chair onto the floor!?!? When did the adoration chapel become a coffee house :confused: ?? I do not think that if I walked into a room with our Savior there I would casually stroll in with a large cup of coffee and act as if there is nothing wrong with that.

Last night there was a husband and wife there and there are 6 chairs in the chapel with 4 of them being in a line with kneelers infront of them directly in front of our Lord. They were in seats number 1 and number 4. Neither of them made a move to allow me to come between them nor did they move closer to the other. To top it all off the lady was sewing :eek: :mad: !! I went there to spend time contemplating some serious life issues going on with me and she is putting together a quilt,:banghead: …I was so frustrated. Then at the “changing of the guard” the 2 that were there talked with the gentleman that next and he mentioned “Oh, it looks like you are almost done, you are making progress!” What!!!

That leads me to my question, when did it become “acceptable” to do things other than worship and adore our Lord in adoration? Maybe I missed the memo…could someone forward it to me if so?!? I am just confused and frustrated about this. I have not talked with our pastor about it yet and am considering it. I just feel that this is not appropriate things to be doing in adoration…color me old school.
 
None of these things are acceptable of course, and are one reason some parishes have limited or curtailed the practice of having the chapel open for extended hours of adoration.

Please talk to the people in charge, and the pastor, and ask for firm teaching from the pulpit (which should be a regular thing in a parish with perpetual adoration), as well as signs, and volunteer “chapel monitors”. Everyone who signs up should also be educated on what is and is not acceptable, so there are enough “regulars” to gently, charitably correct abuses of others.
 
May God’s peace, love and mercy be with you all!

Let us always look at the glass half full. At least people were there to keep Our Good Lord company. Now what we can do is to just bring it up to Jesus and He will surely take care of the rest. What I usually do is I just say a prayer that may we love God most perfectly.

The other thing is we never know what people’s intentions are so we leave it up to the Lord. Like that lady knitting, if she actually offered up to God the work that she was doing, then God sanctifies the work, then the work becomes a prayer. (Pray as you work). It’s like Our Blessed Mother, of course she did some household work while adoring her son Jesus, God Himself. I don’t think Our Good Lord got offended when she had to make Him some clothes to wear or do household work but at the same time here she is in the very presence of the Eternal God, contemplating Him as she did the ordinary activities in life. And yet she is pure, holy and full of grace.

The motto of the Benedictine orders (founded by St. Benedict) is Ora et labora “prayer and work”. Which basically means pray as you work. With the Opus Dei founded by St. Jose Maria Escriva, they seek holiness in their work in the ordinary activities of daily life. Exactly what St. Therese the Little Flower did in her lifetime. In her autobiography, The Story of the Soul, she talked about this nun making such annoying noises during adoration that she could hardly stand it. Then later on she decided to offer up those noises to Our Good Lord Jesus as a beautiful music. So, the noise became bearable and pleasing to her as she knows it pleased God. So, let us imitate their actions that we may be able to focus on God Whom we love and adore and only do what’s pleasing to Him.

About the couple that didn’t seem to make room for you, just think that maybe they were very steep in prayer that they did not notice you. It has happened to some people and it is possible. Or He is just improving our virtues, or He just wants you to sit at a certain spot which He Himself specially chose for you as He gazes at you while you gaze at Him, all according to His Most Holy will, for His greater honor and glory.

So, next time we adore Our Good Lord, let us tell Him that we love Him and just smile, be happy and be at peace thanking God knowing that He is there and we are there, enjoy his most adorable presence and that is all that matters. God bless!

Blessed be Jesus and Mary!
 
Next time tap one of the couple on the shoulder and say, “Excuse me, I need to go to that seat over there.” Believe it or not, maybe they WERE praying and not paying attention to YOU when you arrived. I certainly don’t look around to see where people are sitting whenever someone enters the adoration chapel. Besides, there were two other chairs that you could have used. You don’t know why the lady was sewing and I think it’s acceptable to sew in front of Jesus. Especially if she is so full of grief that she just can’t do anything else at adoration. Or if she’s doing it for the homeless. You don’t know what’s going on with them and you need not judge them. I’ve read of saints who sleep in front of the tabernacle, I suppose you’d be horrified to see someone sleeping there too. Talking and drinking coffee is inappropriate though. Although I think it’s ok to bring a bottle of water to avoid having to come in and out frequently and disturbing other adorers.
 
amdgjmj said:
Next time tap one of the couple on the shoulder and say, “Excuse me, I need to go to that seat over there.” Believe it or not, maybe they WERE praying and not paying attention to YOU when you arrived.
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Let me clarify by saying that the lady had her “sewing stuff” on the other chair so as I walked in, she was in the first chair, sewing stuff in the second, empty third and the guy was “slouched” in the fourth chair. They KNEW I was there since they both looked at me since the woman had to open the locked door for me. I was not there to have attention paid to ME!
amdgjmj said:
Besides, there were two other chairs that you could have used.
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Already explained, see above.
amdgjmj said:
You don’t know why the lady was sewing and I think it’s acceptable to sew in front of Jesus. Especially if she is so full of grief that she just can’t do anything else at adoration. Or if she’s doing it for the homeless.
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No I do not know “why” she was doing it, however, IMHO, it was not something that I would consider “appropriate” behavior. Sure what better place to sew than in front of our Lord, but where do you draw the line? My son’s gameboy is broke, should I be able to bring in tools and work on that in adoration? C’mon!
amdgjmj said:
You don’t know what’s going on with them and you need not judge them.
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Now this is the part of your message that bothers me the most. What since I am a Catholic or a Christian, I am not entitled to an opinion? If I say something against someone, I am judging them. Are you serious? This “don’t judge them” gets thrown around too much, it is such a crutch and it gets old. I AM NOT JUDGING THEM!! I am telling you what had happened and heaven forbid, I give my opinion.
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I’ve read of saints who sleep in front of the tabernacle, I suppose you’d be horrified to see someone sleeping there too.
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Should I accuse you of judging me?
amdgjmj said:
Talking and drinking coffee is inappropriate though. Although I think it’s ok to bring a bottle of water to avoid having to come in and out frequently and disturbing other adorers.
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Maybe he had the coffee to stay awake early in the morning, maybe I was judging him.
 
hi, could you not havee seated on the 3rd seat? i was wondering.

though i do understand, i prefer not having seatmates, if there are lots of seats available of course.
i remember one time i was also in the Adoration chapel, the woman before leaving, told me that i could just be the one to close the electric fan, to which i simply nodded and smiled.
maybe as long as it’s not unnecessary and distracting talk, of course, conversation is generally a no-no.
 
This is a problem in that the scheduled people, are not properly trained in their responsibilities.

In our chapel, the scheduled adorer is in charge of the chapel during their hour. It is their responsibility that abuses are not made and silence is maintained. It is also their responsibility that an adorer relieves them, before they leave the chapel.

Fortunately, over the past 9 years, I have not had a problem with anyone. The parish as a whole seems to be well informed about what they should or should not done in the chapel. Of course that could change if young people ever start to attend.

Jim
 
If I am the sole adorer, and no one else is in the chapel – I do chant the “Divine Mercy” chaplet aloud. When others are present, I sing it in my head.
 
Two of my friends and I signed up for the midnight hour of adoration at a neighboring parish. The three of us would sing Battle Hymn of the Republic at the end of our hour around 1am and then lock up for the night. This was the last hour assigned. We sang so loud that the pastor eventually came by to ask us to pipe down. Of course we were the only ones present, so I hope Jesus enjoyed our singing. I read somewhere regarding an apparition, that this was Our Lady’s favorite song. Not sure if that is true, but we gave it our all! On another occasion we arrived to find the chapel gate was locked. We successfully picked the lock so we could be with our Lord for the assigned hour. I hope Jesus appreciated our dedication and our lock picking skills.
 
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The three of us would sing Battle Hymn of the Republic at the end of our hour around 1am and then lock up for the night. This was the last hour assigned. We sang so loud that the pastor eventually came by to ask us to pipe down. Of course we were the only ones present, so I hope Jesus enjoyed our singing. I read somewhere regarding an apparition, that this was Our Lady’s favorite song. Not sure if that is true, but we gave it our all! .
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What apparition? I have to say, singing it so loudly doesn’t sound reverent, although I am sure the hearts of all of you were in the right place.

Can there really have been an apparition that said it was Our Lady’s favourite? That doesn’t sound right at all.
 
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