Advice for first EF Mass?

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Hi,

I haven’t been to an EF Mass in over 40 years. I am wondering about the proper dress. Is a head covering the norm for the women? Are dress slacks appropriate? I would like to try to get to one in the next month. Thanks I still have the Latin Rite Missal.
Your normal Sunday attire should do. You may bring a head covering, just in case all the women there wear one. But it seems they are getting rarer in the EF.

It’s good you still have the missal. You’ll definitely have a chance to use it.
 
So… how was it?
Overall, I enjoyed it. It was very different from what I am used to (obviously), I found it difficult at first to sort of relax because it is so much more an interior celebration than the OF and I wasn’t quite prepared for that aspect of it. My anxiety probably wasn’t helped by the people in front of me moving to a pew behind me just as the Mass started so I kept peeking over my shoulder to make sure I was doing the right thing. It did get me over my weird fear of receiving COTT though (weird personal space thing) which was good. I actually really liked that Communion isn’t received quite as much to the end of the Mass as it is the OF. Though I found the way the priest faced away from the congregation to be quite bizarre, though I am sure there is reasoning behind that.

I’m really glad I went, it was a bit sad that there weren’t that many people there though. I think more people should be encouraged to at least experience it, even if they still then prefer the OF.
 
Overall, I enjoyed it. It was very different from what I am used to (obviously), I found it difficult at first to sort of relax because it is so much more an interior celebration than the OF and I wasn’t quite prepared for that aspect of it. My anxiety probably wasn’t helped by the people in front of me moving to a pew behind me just as the Mass started so I kept peeking over my shoulder to make sure I was doing the right thing. It did get me over my weird fear of receiving COTT though (weird personal space thing) which was good. I actually really liked that Communion isn’t received quite as much to the end of the Mass as it is the OF. Though I found the way the priest faced away from the congregation to be quite bizarre, though I am sure there is reasoning behind that.

I’m really glad I went, it was a bit sad that there weren’t that many people there though. I think more people should be encouraged to at least experience it, even if they still then prefer the OF.
Was it a low mass?
 
Though I found the way the priest faced away from the congregation to be quite bizarre, though I am sure there is reasoning behind that.
I’m glad you were able to go.

The way the priest faces is a matter of understanding why. Rather than seeing it as him “facing away from the people”, it is about him facing Christ and leading people in prayer. In this way the congregation is not distracted by the priest and focuses on Christ more easily. So although the priest is important in the mass he does not seem the focus of the mass.
 
I’m glad you were able to go.

The way the priest faces is a matter of understanding why. Rather than seeing it as him “facing away from the people”, it is about him facing Christ and leading people in prayer. In this way the congregation is not distracted by the priest and focuses on Christ more easily. So although the priest is important in the mass he does not seem the focus of the mass.
Right, because the priest is not the focus of the mass. I don’t understand why some people get so mad at ad orientem worship when they see it. They don’t even understand it. Most of this comes from the middle aged and elderly generation. Most young people seem open to it. I think this is due to those people feeling offended, as they were wrongly told by clergy when they were young that everything “before now” (1965ish) was “wrong” and they grew up with that being verbally spat all over the place, and it is so deeply ingrained into their psyches that they ignorantly get bothered by things when they are contrary to what they were taught.
 
I hope you can attend a sung mass too. A low mass,especially coming from an NOM filled with music, takes some getting used to, in my opinion.
No way my friend! I have so far only attended Low Masses, and they are absoluely amazing! You can even pray your Rosary during it!
 
No way my friend! I have so far only attended Low Masses, and they are absoluely amazing! You can even pray your Rosary during it!
Like, I said, in my opinion.

I don’t know about anyone else, but I am glad my first mass was a high mass. It blew me away.

And also honestly, even though I could be praying the Rosary or even the Jesus prayer, I prefer to focus more on what is happening on the Altar. But I understand there are two opinions on this.
 
Like, I said, in my opinion.

I don’t know about anyone else, but I am glad my first mass was a high mass. It blew me away.

I can’t wait to attend one myself.

And also honestly, even though I could be praying the Rosary or even the Jesus prayer, I prefer to focus more on what is happening on the Altar. But I understand there are two opinions on this.

Of course we should be focusing on the Altar, I do that myself, but I like the idea of meditating on the Holy Mysteries of the Rosary while focusing on the Altar. Multitasking :D.
 
I love High Mass just as much as Low Mass. They really are suited for different purposes, and they serve those different purposes wonderfully well. I’d feel a little weird, for example, to be singing on a common ferial day. I think that should be reserved for major solemnities and feasts.
 
I love High Mass just as much as Low Mass. They really are suited for different purposes, and they serve those different purposes wonderfully well. I’d feel a little weird, for example, to be singing on a common ferial day. I think that should be reserved for major solemnities and feasts.
It took me about 8 low masses, but I finally like attending a low mass now. Boy did I struggle before. Did you see this thread I had started, LOL.

The Mass is the Mass but I struggle with the low mass

But even then I knew the issue was with me. I have come a long way.

I’m just saying for someone who is very musically inclined as I am, it may be hard at first.
 
I recant what I said earlier about the Rosary during Mass, I think I was wrong. There are sources supporting both sides of the argument, but I will start another thread to discuss it.
 
It took me about 8 low masses, but I finally like attending a low mass now. Boy did I struggle before. Did you see this thread I had started, LOL.

The Mass is the Mass but I struggle with the low mass

But even then I knew the issue was with me. I have come a long way.

I’m just saying for someone who is very musically inclined as I am, it may be hard at first.
Right, I understand. Coming from Protestantism myself, I get the, “LET’S SING!” thing, although I wasn’t much obliged to it when I was a Protestant. I always was very skeptical of my Protestantism.
 
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