Advice on converting my Muslim boyfriend.

[mdrummer5]

Yes, I see that you are now focused on people freely expressing their opinion and not liking that, rather than perhaps focusing on the discussion about difficulties that a mixed marriage often brings. Because that is the real issue here, isn’t it?

No.

I apologize if I implied otherwise but of course you and anyone else are entitled to your opinion on whether or not she should be dating him… but that’s not what she asked for.

The issue is that she asked for advice on converting her boyfriend. What she got was “you made a mistake in dating him” and “you shouldn’t marry a non-Christian”.

Look at the title of the thread. If it read “Should I date a Muslim?” or “Thoughts on marrying someone of a different faith?” Then those opinions would be very relevant. But it doesn’t say that so they are not. She’s not asking anyone to judge her actions and whether they are right or wrong. She’s already decided what she wants and is looking for advice on how to handle it

It’s like if a high school student went to an english teacher and asked for help with direction for a book report on The Lord of the Rings and the teacher replied with “I don’t think you should use that book for your report.” Let’s for the sake of the example assume that the student was told to pick whatever book they want. They’ve decided what book they’re using so what the teachers thoughts are on his/her decision are completely irrelevant when considering the question being asked.

 

[Contra_Mundum_1]

Mdrummer,

I really don’t want to continue this debate because it detracts from the topic. I just want to say (and end it here) that, no, strictly speaking, the OP is not asking whether to marry that man.You are right to point that out. But people suggesting that is a not so good idea are actually addressing a very important thing that is related to the possibility of the boyfriend not converting. Something like a better safe than sorry warning. That’s why I believe that potential marriage in this situation is the real issue, not the conversion. Thus it should be mentioned.

I just hope that the OP has gained something from this thread she started.

 

[mdrummer5]

That’s why I believe that potential marriage in this situation is the real issue, not the conversion. Thus it should be mentioned.

The intent is commendable but the approach is horrible. Telling anyone not to do something is only going to tempt them to do it that much more. We as humans tend to want to be defiant in some ways. We don’t like to be told how to live and will often times subconsciously go against the grain because of it.

Plus… she’s already indicated that it’s not likely to be an issue at all.

Regarding breaking up with him- well I really simply don’t want to, but I don’t think I’ll marry a non-Catholic. I would want my husband to agree with the way I would bring them up and would want him to set an example as well.

We are both aware that we may not be able to stay with eachother due to our beliefs- which is ironic because religion should be bringing us closer together

 

[EgyptianGirl]

Hello
I was just wondering if your boyfriend converted?
I m dealing with the same thing here …

 

[Angela_Tate]

The OP has not posted since spring of 2011. Thread is closed.