Where is he in his walk? Well, from what he’s told me about his past, he dated a girl in a long term relationship who was a very religious, faithful Catholic. Apparently she helped him see what was important in life while he was going through a difficult time. Why they broke up exactly is unclear…he said it had something to do with her family but I’m not sure, something more could have been going on at her end.
At this point, he has gotten rid of some friends that were negative influences and appears to be trying to change certain behaviors. However, he tells me that I’m the only “real” Catholic he knows, so I suspect the other girl isn’t that into her faith. He wanted to be confirmed and asked me to be his sponsor…I sidestepped that last year when we weren’t really talking, but agreed sometime this spring and he was confirmed in May. I had taken him with me to confession a couple times and mass a few times, but rarely he has gone on his own. He wasn’t raised as a “weekly mass-goer”. He also makes excuses that he has to study and doesn’t have time, which is a whole other issue.
I think he knows that I still have feelings for him, and definitely knows that I did in the past because we’ve had that conversation. I believe he did/has them for me, too, just from what he says…again, mixed messages. If he was totally confident that we were just friends, he would have let me on his facebook right away (which he has since deleted, by the way…another long story) and would have been referring to the person I think is his girlfriend as “girlfriend”, not just “female friend(s)”. And, he wouldn’t have had to hide it from me.
So, I’m still debating this and have had stomachaches for several days due to stress from this and other stuff. Not fun.
Can’t tell you what to do, but if it were me…I’d move on with my life…and allow myself to be available for the right guy to come along. I just don’t think he is it. 
