Specific arguments are a little easier to understand if the pertinent passages from scripture can possibly be provided periodically. Generalizations and random references can make it difficult to understand another’s perspective.
Many of us (including some modern day biblical translators) have been fooled by our “modern day” definition of the word “engagement”. When the Angels appeared to Mary and Joseph respectively, to announce God’s invitation to them , they were already married [Matt 1:18, Luke 1:27; 2:5]. They were “
betrothed”. In simple terms, it means they were already married but not living together. Betrothal usually had a period of about 12 months before the wife was brought to the husband’s home. Don’t take my word for it - *
Jewishencyclopedia.com *can tell you all about it.It’s a fantastic site.Technically they summarize betrothal this way:
"…in strict accordance with this sense the rabbinical law declares that betrothal 2 Sam 3:14 ; Deut 22:24] is equivalent to an actual marriage and only to be dissolved by formal divorce."
…so God didn’t “push” Mary into anything. He gave us a free will, and both Mary and the holy Angels bow down before the free will God gave us…it’s what defines our freedom - when love is free, it’s true love.
If we knew which part of the Old Testament you’re referring to Pinkyyy, when it comes to intercourse being “just what is required for marriage” it would be easier to grasp.
Here is what scripture says concerning the above as it pertains to Jesus’ conception: That Mary conceived Jesus by the power of God the Holy Spirit - not by human intervention [Matt 1:18 ; Luke 1: 34-35] ; and that Joseph had no relations any time with Mary before she bore her son [Matt 1:25]. Someone who doesn’t believe this is saying the bible is a lie. I find it interesting that scripture only went thus far; meaning it stopped there and **didn’t say **that Mary had relations with Joseph after she bore Jesus.
Sometimes it’s what isn’t written in scripture that we’re meant to understand.
The “brothers and sisters”…[Mark 6:3] “Is this not the carpenter {Luke 4:22 says
‘carpenter’s son’}, the son of Mary, a brother of James and Joses and Judas and Simon ? Are not his sisters our neighbors here?” One can’t base the answer on linguistic grounds here. Greek-speaking Semites used the terms “adelphos” and “adelphe”, not only in the ordinary sense of blood brother and sister, but also for nephew, neice, half brother, half sister and cousin. Certain African peoples still do the same. True,… the question of meaning wouldn’t have arisen but for the faith of the Catholic church in Mary’s perpetual virginity; again, I believe it’s what
isn’t written which connects the pieces of the puzzle. We only need to ask ourselves this question:
Why, did the Gospel writers [Luke 5:10 ; Matt 4:18-22] deem it so important to mention that James was John’s blood brother and vice versa, and that Andrew was Peter’s blood brother and vice versa ? Wouldn’t anybody who thought it important enough to mention those facts in their account of the Son of God among us have thought it all the more important to mention if this Son of God had any blood brothers or sisters, born of the womb of Mary? It would only be logical.