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I’m in the south and the most common name here is Papaw. I like this term a lot and everyone knows who Papaw is, Grandpa! 
Of course you’re entitled to your opinion, but there are big cultural differences in how families use nicknames (whether for grandparents or others). And as many previous posters mentioned, sometimes the “alternative” names come from ethnic heritage. The names themselves actually mean “Grandma” and “Grandpa,” they’re just a different language.I am always amazed at the names people come up with for grandparents. Unless “Grandma” and “Grandpa” are used, it isn’t really clear to anyone new coming on the scene (friends, acquaintances, visitors) who the person is talking to or about. In my opinion, continuing to use baby-ish names for Grandma / Grandpa beyond a child’s second year is cloying. I think using the name “Papa” or “Mama” for grandparents is very confusing.
As others have said, depends on the culture.Paw Paw. Or Papa… This is a name for a dad…
Nanny This is the name of someone you pay money to take care of your kids…
My take on this is how hard can it be? I don’t refer to my kids as “Daughter Grace”, “Son Richard”, or to my grandson as “Grandson Michael” etc to make sure they and everyone else understands the exact nature of the relationship.Unless “Grandma” and “Grandpa” are used, it isn’t really clear to anyone new coming on the scene (friends, acquaintances, visitors) who the person is talking to or about.
Funny you should give the “Daughter Grace” and “Son Richard” examples. I find myself addressing my brothers sometimes by “Brother Michael” or “Brother Richard” when I haven’t seen them in a awhile, (accompanied by a big grin) or when I am talking about them to another brother, as in “well, what have you heard from (our) brother Michael or just Brother Michael ?”. They do the same. Its family “inside” humor, but also, in a way, clarifying, because with a hugh family, there are also uncle Mikes and cousin Mikes, etc. We do the same with our cousins, too, (e.g., “well, hello, Cousin Matt!”), usually done when first greeting or addressing them.My take on this is how hard can it be? I don’t refer to my kids as “Daughter Grace”, “Son Richard”, or to my grandson as “Grandson Michael” etc to make sure they and everyone else understands the exact nature of the relationship.
When someone new comes on the scene I will say “This is my grandson Michael” or he will say “This is my grandma Nanny” or “my great grandpa D-Daddy”
People have nicknames and titles all the time… A family doesn’t need to alter the personal names they refer to one another as in case a passer by doesn’t grasp who they are speaking of, they can easily explain the relationship in a word or two if an explanation is required.
I had both in my family. Maybe we’re related!Growing up, I had Grandpa Firstname and Grandma Firstname (my dad’s parents) and Granddad Lastname and Grandma Lastname (my mom’s parents).
On reflection, it’s a little weird to call your grandma by her last name! But that’s the convention in certain parts of my family–I grew up hearing about “Grandma Gilbert” and “Granddad Taylor.”
I use the first name system with our kids.
Hoosier, I must disagree here… I have a decent amount of southern friends and Paw Paw and Nanny are very commonly used. In fact, for example, when someone southern writes about Paw Paw on FB I automatically assume it is the grandpa they are talking about, and so far it has always been so. The same with Nanny (or Memaw etc). I have a feeling it has more to do with tradition and the southern culture than it does with people not wanting to be called grandpa because of the connotation.I’m a big fan of calling people what they are. I dislike the adult driven egoism of changing names. I have seen may women who do not ever want to be called grandma because of the old person connotation. So they come up with all sorts of oddities that usually indicate a relationship that is false. Men do this too, just a few examples.
**Paw Paw. ** Or Papa… This is a name for a dad…
**Nanny ** This is the name of someone you pay money to take care of your kids…
We had the extra “confusion” in our family of having a Brother and a Priest in the family, so we have Brother Don, and Father Jack who were neither our brother or father!Funny you should give the “Daughter Grace” and “Son Richard” examples. I find myself addressing my brothers sometimes by “Brother Michael” or “Brother Richard” when I haven’t seen them in a awhile, (accompanied by a big grin) or when I am talking about them to another brother, as in “well, what have you heard from (our) brother Michael or just Brother Michael ?”. They do the same. Its family “inside” humor, but also, in a way, clarifying, because with a hugh family, there are also uncle Mikes and cousin Mikes, etc. We do the same with our cousins, too, (e.g., “well, hello, Cousin Matt!”), usually done when first greeting or addressing them.
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We also called our grandfather “Pa.” My mother had always called him that, and didn’t teach us anything different.We called one of my grandfathers Pop Pops and the other one Grampa.
My kids called both of their grandfathers Pa. One was pronounced Paw and the other was pronounced Pah.
When I have grandkids I’m considering having them call me Caesar.
My grandfather didn’t like “old-person sounding names” either. The only grandkids who called him “Gramps” were my aunt’s kids, whom she encouraged to call him that, and he hated it.My wife, in fact, doesn’t want the old-person sounding names such as Granny, etc. She wants to be called “Mommy [first name]”, like her own mother is called.
My mother called one set of grandparents “Grandma Lastname” and “Grandpa Lastname” to distinguish them from her other grandmother, “Mama Firstname,” who lived with the family.My two sets of grandparents were referred to by the title “Grandpa (last name)” and “Grandma (last name)” when talking about them and just “Grandpa” and “Grandma” when talking to them.
Great opportunity to explain. God Bless, MemawWe had the extra “confusion” in our family of having a Brother and a Priest in the family, so we have Brother Don, and Father Jack who were neither our brother or father!
“I didn’t know you had a brother named Don!” We sometimes had a lot of explaining to do!
Don’t we want better for our children than to fall into some southern stereotype…Hoosier, I must disagree here… I have a decent amount of southern friends and Paw Paw and Nanny are very commonly used. In fact, for example, when someone southern writes about Paw Paw on FB I automatically assume it is the grandpa they are talking about, and so far it has always been so. The same with Nanny (or Memaw etc). I have a feeling it has more to do with tradition and the southern culture than it does with people not wanting to be called grandpa because of the connotation.
Seems like “Nanny” and “Poppy” are very Canadian. My Canadian (Newfoundland) wife used the same names for her grandparents, and I’m guessing that our daughter will (she’s not talking yet) use them for her grandparents, or at least her maternal grandparents.My grandparents were called (addressed) “Nanny” and “Poppy” (maternal) and “Nanny” and “Grandpa” (paternal)…