Am I a bad mom?

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Lol, we don’t live in a cave. Neither of the children have any problem whatsoever interacting with others. At six my oldest was standing in front of the congregation of roughly 400 people, leading them in the Rosary (without an aid mind you.) We are always out with people from our parish or our parish priests. We frequently have guest priests stay the night and the children have zero problems interacting.
 
Yes, he will. Remember, this is the dad who will not allow any of his children to participate in sports. Long thread with lots of interesting responses.
If I remember correctly, you and several others were out of line in your accusations against me. I have stated multiple times that sports aren’t evil. For me and my house, they have no place as prayer is our priority.

I find it very sad that fellow Catholics attack those who attempt to live a devout life and raise a devout family. Shame, shame, shame. You know neither myself, my wonderful wife or my children. Your baseless accusations in this thread mirror the thread you referenced.
 
If I remember correctly, you and several others were out of line in your accusations against me. I have stated multiple times that sports aren’t evil. For me and my house, they have no place as prayer is our priority.

I find it very sad that fellow Catholics attack those who attempt to live a devout life and raise a devout family. Shame, shame, shame. You know neither myself, my wonderful wife or my children. Your baseless accusations in this thread mirror the thread you referenced.
I do not think anyone is attacking a devout lifestyle, I think that they are raising concerns about the consequences of your lifestyle. No one is saying that devout children are not good, but at the same time, prohibiting participation is activities because it takes away from “prayer time” is not something that I have ever heard advocated by clergy member or Church teaching.
 
If I remember correctly, you and several others were out of line in your accusations against me. I have stated multiple times that sports aren’t evil. For me and my house, they have no place as prayer is our priority.

I find it very sad that fellow Catholics attack those who attempt to live a devout life and raise a devout family. Shame, shame, shame. You know neither myself, my wonderful wife or my children. Your baseless accusations in this thread mirror the thread you referenced.
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First of all, you recall wrongly. I mostly read in that thread, but I recall it very well, and you mentioned the same restriction in your first post on this thread. I never attacked you. I believe your family is your family and you certainly have the right to determine how you live. Did you not see my prayer that you never experience any problems with any of your children? I was not being facetious. I mean it most sincerely. I wish you no ill.

What “baseless accusations” have I made here? I gave the OP my opinion, nothing more. You, sir, are over-reacting.

But let’s not sidetrack this thread. The OP was not asking about her children doing sports.
 
I do not think anyone is attacking a devout lifestyle, I think that they are raising concerns about the consequences of your lifestyle. No one is saying that devout children are not good, but at the same time, prohibiting participation is activities because it takes away from “prayer time” is not something that I have ever heard advocated by clergy member or Church teaching.
This is what works for us and what we know is best for our children based on their personalities. We know how we were raised and what led to our mistakes and we are choosing differently for our children.
 
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First of all, you recall wrongly. I mostly read in that thread, but I recall it very well, and you mentioned the same restriction in your first post on this thread. I never attacked you. I believe your family is your family and you certainly have the right to determine how you live. Did you not see my prayer that you never experience any problems with any of your children? I was not being facetious. I mean it most sincerely. I wish you no ill.

What “baseless accusations” have I made here? I gave the OP my opinion, nothing more. You, sir, are over-reacting.
Then I apologize. 🙂
 
I do not think anyone is attacking a devout lifestyle, I think that they are raising concerns about the consequences of your lifestyle. No one is saying that devout children are not good, but at the same time, prohibiting participation is activities because it takes away from “prayer time” is not something that I have ever heard advocated by clergy member or Church teaching.
The Church actually teaches us that it is a sin to neglect our daily work, or to rob our employers of the time that is owed to them in the performance of our duties, even if we are spending that time in prayer.

The Church has actually forbidden us to attend Mass more than twice a day, in order that we not neglect our earthly duties. We are both matter and spirit; we must attend to both - our physical well-being is not less important than our spiritual well-being.
 
This is what works for us and what we know is best for our children based on their personalities. We know how we were raised and what led to our mistakes and we are choosing differently for our children.
Fine. Just be aware that at some point they will know themselves better than you do, and at that point it will be inappropriate and morally incorrect for you to forbid them what is best for them based on your desires. As you say, you know best. But you also know that you are not your children, and the things that led to your mistakes may not lead to mistakes for your children. All of this is something I am sure you know; I am just fleshing out what I meant earlier.
 
The Church actually teaches us that it is a sin to neglect our daily work, or to rob our employers of the time that is owed to them in the performance of our duties, even if we are spending that time in prayer.

The Church has actually forbidden us to attend Mass more than twice a day, in order that we not neglect our earthly duties. We are both matter and spirit; we must attend to both - our physical well-being is not less important than our spiritual well-being.
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Lol, we don’t live in a cave. Neither of the children have any problem whatsoever interacting with others. At six my oldest was standing in front of the congregation of roughly 400 people, leading them in the Rosary (without an aid mind you.) We are always out with people from our parish or our parish priests. We frequently have guest priests stay the night and the children have zero problems interacting./QUOTE

First of all I want to commend your six year old for leading the rosary without an aid however The people they are interacting with are people from your Parish and your priests one day they are going to have to go into the real world and they will have to learn to interact with people other than people from the church. I know I have worked for a major retailor over 25 years and i have to interact with many different types of people.
 
I hate to be a negative nellie, but just because “it is the way its done” as I’ve read over and over again, doesn’t make it right.
Many, many people have said we are extreme in the lengths we go to protect our children, yet they ALWAYS comment on how well behaved and intelligent our children are. In fact, just today, a woman who sat behind us stated that she wished more adults were as reverent as our oldest son (seven) who was kneeling and giving thanks after Mass. He doesn’t know how to use a computer or a cell phone, but he knows Veggie Tales, the Bible and Catholic teaching. He doesn’t have any friends his own age as he is homeschooled, but several priests have claimed to have seen visions that he will be a priest. 🙂 I am happy with the way we do things.

Your not a bad mom. Keep fighting the culture. A daily Rosary is a must, no exceptions. 🙂
Your 7 year old needs to learn how to start using a computer, there is more to a computer than just surfing the internet. If Priests feel your son is destined to become a Priest, that’s great, but when I was a kid, all I thought that Priest’s did all week was pray. After returning to the Church, i’ve come to learn that Priest’s work their butts off throughout the week and even Priest’s know how to run a computer and interact via social media.

In addition, IMO, if your kids don’t play sports because they don’t show an interest in it, that’s one thing, but if your kids do show an interest in sports and you are restricting access to it because you feel it takes away from praying, well, I don’t know what to think of that. What about all of the Catholic schools across the country that play sports, is that a bad thing? Phillip Rivers of the San Diego Chargers is a very strong Catholic.
 
Please, fellow forum members, let’s not let this thread become another battle about allowing our kids to play sports or not! You can resurrect that previous thread if you wish to comment (not sure if it’s been closed). Can we please stay on the OP’s topic of allowing her kids more access to cell phones/texting instead of face to face contact with her friends?

Thanks!

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Listened recently to a Teresa Tomeo broadcast about children and social media: avemariaradio.net/archiveListen.php?file=cc_20120116_2
And then, take a look at this: i.imgur.com/FEQqE.jpg

momfromwi (if we can return a bit to the original request): you are doing a great job. 12 year olds don’t need cell phones, and I give my permission for my kids to blame us (their nasty parents) for that decision. We do have a family cell phone, it is a handy tool, and we all use it when we need it. We have 4 teens (18, 16, 14, 13) (and younger ones coming up) and have had no major issues of rebellion. In fact, a bit of technology over the years has helped with discipline, because certain things will get taken away for certain behaviors, and we do expect a level of respect and kindness in our home. We have kids who are social (just not texting) and busy in the church and community (work, volunteering, coaching); they know how to work and respect authority.
I know there are some benefits of kids using computer devices, like for school and learning and hand-eye coordination, but nothing takes the place of real face-to-face contact with friends, laughing together, and physical activity (not the Wii!).
This is the crux of family life. As I’ve said before, just because other parents have thrown in the towel (allowing their kids whatever, whenever, just because…and expecting that to be the norm), we’re no better than them in their peer-dominated world if we do things because everyone else is doing them. You have a challenge with this first daughter, because the other kids in your family younger than her are watching…

Give Dr. Ray Guarendi a call (Ave Maria Radio, also on EWTN), he’ll give you some practical advice for your family life and for individual children’s issues. God bless!
 
Your 7 year old needs to learn how to start using a computer, there is more to a computer than just surfing the internet. If Priests feel your son is destined to become a Priest, that’s great, but when I was a kid, all I thought that Priest’s did all week was pray. After returning to the Church, i’ve come to learn that Priest’s work their butts off throughout the week and even Priest’s know how to run a computer and interact via social media.
No, a 7yo doesn’t need to learn how to use a computer. Both my husband and I didn’t even see the internet until we were in University. He’s now an Electronic Engineer and designs all those gadgets that you’ve all been arguing about. 7yo’s do not need to learn about computers. Wait until he’s old enough and teach him to touch-type!

Limiting technology will not harm your child. It may, however, expose them to things that they are not ready for. And once they’ve seen that image or heard that joke, it’s now in their brain for life!

I think all screens have an awful affect on children - it shuts down their brains. I always notice this with my children. After an hour in front of a screen they fight, complain that “there’s nothing to do” and generally make nuisances of themselves.
 
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