Am I jealous of A Catholic Moms Life

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There is an online personality that is a Catholic woman. She’s done many videos and at first I really liked her but then I started sensing a bit of her enjoying the spotlight on herself such as announcing how many subscribers she has etc.

I’m a little conflicted because in reading some comments to her videos everyone LOVES her and I can’t p(name removed by moderator)oint why I stopped.

She stated it takes her hours to do just one video and now that she’s gained about 10k youtube subscribers she’s doing about 3 a week and she has 4 small children.

She announces when she’s gonna be on a tv show and she accepts freebies from catholic companies and has ads on her page. She also does What I Eat in a Day and Fashion videos and frequently comments on this other young famous catholic youtuber who is quite liberal.

She made a video crying saying she was gonna quit because people were mean to her and then happily stated a few videos later that those negative people were just unhappy with their lives.

Why on earth don’t I like this woman?! She is bringing people closer to God so that’s a good thing right. I have prayed about this. She said she’s so happy God called her to evangelize with her youtube ministry. One time she was talking about St Therese and spelled it St Theresa in the title and description and I made a comment on the spelling (I love St Therese! and thought I was doing the right thing) and the misspell is still there. When she said she wanted to be humble like her I thought to myself that St Therese always wanted to be invisible and not push out videos and be on tv and try for fame by having Father Mike as a spiritual mentor and do a video with him because her “followers” would want to see that. Her name is a Catholic Moms Life.

Maybe I’m sad that she is so happy with herself hearing so clearly from the Lord and telling everyone this is her ministry and getting free things while her viewers have to pay for them and trying to schmooze with other famous Catholics online to gain popularity.
 
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I think George Burns once said “sincerity is everything, if you can fake that you’ve got it made.” Or words to that effect.

I don’t know who you’re talking about but I think we have a sixth sense about these things. Also, I agree that there are many other ways to serve God rather than on YouTube, ways which are less public. Our Lord told us that if we receive our reward on earth then we won’t receive it in heaven.

Another example of an occasion where we might pray for someone else and avoid judging too harshly, or perhaps at all.
 
Thank you. It’s a strange feeling I honestly almost feel that bit of repulsive emotion/judgement I get is instinctive.
 
First of all you can’t like or dislike this woman as you don’t know her personally. You just know the public persona she pushes in her videos. Only her close family and friends know who she is when she’s at home and not on camera.

Second, it sounds like her public persona in her videos is designed to seek and get attention. I wouldn’t be interested in that myself.

Third, mature people realize we all have different tastes and just because ten other people love some celebrity who’s on TV, on podcasts or on videos, doesn’t mean everybody else will love them. I personally can take or leave most of the “celebrity Catholics” like Fr. Mike or Fr. Corapi or the couples always nattering on about their marriages. I like Mother Angelica and Archbishop Sheen but I accept that not everybody cares to watch them. To each his own. I am sure all these people including the woman you mention might bring people to God; it doesn’t mean we all have to watch and enjoy them.
 
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I’ll second what Tis_Bearself said. Not every personality is going to speak to us and help our spiritual life with Christ. Just because some people are inspired by her doesn’t mean everyone has to be. Different strokes for different folks. If she doesn’t help your relationship with Christ, I wouldn’t follow her. There are plenty of other resources that will offer inspiration.
 
I agree, it’s terrible that I don’t like the fact that she seems so pleased with herself and interested in gaining popularity. Why should I care?! Maybe it has something to do with her using our faith for that but again that’s just my gut and I don’t know for sure. Maybe too because perhaps she’s convinced me that God did grant her this gift and she doesn’t seem very humble. But that’s a matter of me praying to God to release that feeling.
 
Also, only you can discern if there is any jealousy on your part. Do you wish you had Youtube followers and freebies from Catholic companies and are able to make money in that type of forum? If not, then perhaps it just annoys you because it would be unseemly for a Catholic person to be motivated by money and attention in having a “ministry” to bring others to Christ.
 
Thank you Elizabeth. I think it’s the fact that she’s so offputting and growing rapidly that confounds me but I guess if she brings people closer to God than her self seeking attention doesn’t matter? (just thinking out loud.)
 
I do think that there is a danger to the souls of those who become popular in ministry. It would probably be wise if they sought spiritual direction as they go along to help them discern if they are developing too much pride in their gifts or too much attachment to popularity.
 
Yes, You’ve hit it. The latter part expresses my sentiments well. The fact that it’s unseemly yet gaining fans quickly is strange.
 
You should just pray for her. Maybe that’s why the Lord is making this bother you.

Many of the TV and Internet “celebrity Catholics” end up falling from grace in some way. I pray regularly for priests who I think are in danger of falling because of their popularity.
 
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It sounds like you are a little bit envious, but take consolation from the fact that this is one of the problems with social media. It can stir up envy by showing only those aspects of a person that are beautiful or awesome.

My advice:
  • Be at peace. Be assured of your own goodness, dignity, and value. God has plans for you.
  • Pay less attention to social media where people boast about their wonderful lives.
  • Pray for those whom you envy or who seem overly fortunate. They have problems that you don’t know about. They need God’s grace and mercy too.
 
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Thank you. I am jealous because I suffer a lot and I love God a lot and watching her calmy fold laundry while saying she just knows she’s following His will and He is the one telling her to do Youtube videos (she said this through tears one time) makes me want to tap my Lord on His blessed shoulder and say “ummm… sorry but what about me Lord, I’ve been trying to discern Your voice for a loooong time”.
 
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It’s funny because I still like her older videos, her very first ones because her personality was so different. Now she jumps on like a game show host. I’ll keep praying.
 
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makes me want to tap my Lord on His blessed shoulder and say “ummm… sorry but what about me Lord, I’ve been trying to discern Your voice for a loooong time”
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Part of being docile to the Lord’s will is to accept that perhaps clearly speaking to you is not in His will for you because only He knows what is best for you. …or sometimes He is speaking to us but because it’s not what we expect Him to say or want to hear we toss it aside as just our own imaginings.

As far as the youtube mom, maybe the Lord is speaking to her or maybe it’s just that she assumes because she strongly desires to be a mommy vlogger that it must be the Lord’s voice or will for her. It’s really hard to tell the difference.
 
That’s the impression I get. That her desire to be popular, evidenced by many things she has said and done, was fulfilled and therefore must be Gods will because it feels good. I sense she equates her popularity with being in His will instead of just making videos to honor Him and not showcasing how many subscribers she has and asking people to subscribe with each video. She literally had a post with a huge arrow showing the number of subscribers she had. That lack of humility kind of shocked me but it’s common in the worldly youtube world I guess.

One time someone got upset because she wasn’t teaching the rosary as proper as they thought and I think it got ugly. In her “quitting video” she was calling these people evil! Just because they disagreed with her and all her followers followed suit calling this poor commenter evil. It was weird.
 
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A leader has to be a servant.
Her popularity may become a burden in time since the more people subscribing the more pressure on her to satisfy their needs.
 
Theres a fella at my church that I can’t stand either. He’s all nice but at the core something just isn’t right with him. I think we all have situations like this and it’s good to put it into prayer.

If she upsets you, go in the other direction. Take the slap on the cheek and walk away. Maybe your guardian angel is warning you about something you aren’t seeing. Best to follow their advice closely and if jealousy starts happening in other areas, go to confession about it.
 
I have learned that the best way for me to cope with jealousy is to tell another person my feeling out loud.
I don’t know why this works, but it does.
Within an hour of my “confessing” to another person, my jealous feelings dissipate without any effort on my part whatsoever!

But I have a couple people on the Catholic radio that honestly add to my distress rather than alleviate it.
They talk about their playfully chaotic homelives and how they overcame some obstacles (so much laundry! Hubby left the tube off the toothpaste! The florist sent powder blue and not sky blue flowers!). And everything gets resolved with one heartfelt talk.

When I’m going through real stuff, I simply can’t deal with listening to it, and I switch to another station (classic rock helps LOL)
 
Thank you! It’s strange too because I ask myself how can I be jealous of someone who delights in attention to herself! I want to be humble like St Therese, like our Blessed Mother.
I guess it did bother me that she seems super duper excited in every video and talks about how much God is using her to evangelize in her ministry and how blessed she is.
 
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