Ridgerunner:
So I don’t know, but I suspect a lot of the “can’t marry” problem is more due to economic expectations than absolutes.
I think you’re right. Many contemporary faithful Catholic women are very circumspect about finding husbands who can provide them with absolute financial security, not for any “golddigger” reasons, but to know that they can have several children without having to worry about how that family will be supported, and without being forced out into the workplace themselves. That’s a reasonable thing to consider, but —
and there is no delicate way to put this — some women just do not have the attributes that would make them the most eligible partners for these men, whereas another woman
would have those attributes. (Physical appearance is the least part of it, I refer more to personality, intelligence, resourcefulness, and personal charm.) Which one’s he going to pick?
When it comes to settling down and marrying, women are just as capable of becoming “incels” as men are. And in all fairness, many men set their own sights far too high, and fail to consider what they have to offer, versus what they
do not have to offer. There are some things in oneself that just cannot be improved. And one man can only marry one woman (and vice versa). We are not polygamists.