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That is true, but is it new and is it bad? I think it could be argued that it is bad that women are so serious about themselves that they can’t be portrayed negatively. You have a negative portrayal of a woman and women’s rights groups are up in arms about mysogyny and sexism.
I have a negative image about women? No, no. I have a negative image about our culture and how it affects both women AND men. Both sexes are at fault. Both sexes engage in the disharmony.

A little joking around with caricatures is fine by me, I laugh about it too. When it affects people’s behavior…that I don’t like.

I don’t like when men hit on me and treat me like a bimbo because they assume I’m like the girls they see on TV or meet at parties. Oh and btw, I don’t dress like a slut,so I’m not inviting that kind of behavior.

I’m frustrated with both sexes, but what do ya do?
C’est la vie 😉
 
No, I have never been a woman, and you have never been man. Neither of us can claim a subjective knowledge of what it is to be the opposite sex. As humans we are either men or women, we shouldn’t pretend neutrality.

My point is simply that men and women are different, and that difference is real. Not only is it pointless to deny the differences, it is destructive to both men and women because they are expected to deny their own identity at least to a certain extent. It isn’t sexist to recognize these differences. In the case the ad above it is a marketing tool. By marketing to those people who will buy their product they will sell more than they would if they did a general ad.
You are right that neither can claim subjective knowledge. But when someone says they are interested in something or do something because they are a man or a woman, as opposed to because they a human being, then the implication is that they are experiencing something that the opposite sex does not. In claiming that one’s experience or situation is a ‘male thing’ one is discounting it as ‘female thing’.

So you can correctly assume that you being a man and I not a man, I will never understand the pain of being punched you know where. However something like the survival instinct, or drives or motivations, I think are too vague and unquantifiable to be able to definitively say belong to either sex. Which is why women are able to enjoy camping too, or guns or martial arts. Some things are just common to us as human beings.
 
That is true, but is it new and is it bad? I think it could be argued that it is bad that women are so serious about themselves that they can’t be portrayed negatively. You have a negative portrayal of a woman and women’s rights groups are up in arms about mysogyny and sexism.
I agree. If men are going to be negatively portrayed when they do not deserve it, then a woman portrayed equally negatively in the same show would not offend me more.
 
I have a negative image about women? No, no. I have a negative image about our culture and how it affects both women AND men. Both sexes are at fault. Both sexes engage in the disharmony.

A little joking around with caricatures is fine by me, I laugh about it too. When it affects people’s behavior…that I don’t like.

I don’t like when men hit on me and treat me like a bimbo because they assume I’m like the girls they see on TV or meet at parties. Oh and btw, I don’t dress like a slut,so I’m not inviting that kind of behavior.

I’m frustrated with both sexes, but what do ya do?
C’est la vie 😉
You dont deserve to be treated like a bimbo, but no one ‘deserves’ bad behaviour inflicted on them. No one has the right to treat a human being like less than one because of how that human being is dressed. Both men and women are notorious for this.
 
Oh boy…where do I even begin…

I’ll sum it up succinctly any Liberal Arts major lacking in anything Mathematical, Scientific, Technological, or Engineering wise is a worthless degree. So yeah all Art History, Communications, Theatre, Journalism…ect ect…All worthless

I’d also go all in and say Law degrees are worthless. Yes, and that’s because the nation is littered with them from people who majored in fluff woke up and realized they were gonna be working at Target when they graduated and decided to trade up, but they didn’t want to repeat 4 years of school, so they just decided to get a law degree (No offense BlueEyedLady).

Except that’s the problem women are not getting “paid less” than men. It is a complete myth. If you judge “pay” based on Income levels, of course men will make more. More men hold STEM degrees over women’s Liberal Arts…it’s a Supply & Demand. High Demand and Low Supply for STEM. Women who go into Medical, Technology, Mathematics, Engineering, Science…make a KILLING over the beta-male who majored in Pop Culture…you see where I’m getting at?
Apologies, wanted to add this to my first reply but forgot to do so in time.

There is nothing shameful in supporting oneself by working at Target or even McDonalds until something better comes up. Most jobs require intense and frequent networking. Also, many creative fields know that there is huge competition to get a foot in the door. They know that they will get free labour in the form of those willing to do unpaid internships. However not everyone can afford to do those, or full time. So ‘fluffy’ graduates find a way to make it work and many go on to have fulfilling and lucrative careers, even if not in what they graduated in. 🙂
 
Apologies, wanted to add this to my first reply but forgot to do so in time.

There is nothing shameful in supporting oneself by working at Target or even McDonalds until something better comes up. Most jobs require intense and frequent networking. Also, many creative fields know that there is huge competition to get a foot in the door. They know that they will get free labour in the form of those willing to do unpaid internships. However not everyone can afford to do those, or full time. **So ‘fluffy’ graduates find a way to make it work and many go on to have fulfilling and lucrative careers, even if not in what they graduated in. **🙂
Except in reality it’s not all hunky-dory. Student Loan Defaults are now reaching 10% (highest in decades). Also many working at Target and McDonald’s do not earn enough to pay off the $70,000 Women’s Studies major. Ever notice these Lib Arts majors are always going for their “Master’s”?

I’m not saying it’s shameful to work at Target or MccyDees…What I’m saying is that people need to use common sense when going to college. Getting a degree in Pop Culture will land you a job working as a barista at Starbucks making $11/hour…that is of course you have a crony who can land you a better job. Honestly I talk to every grounded person who majored and Liberal Arts and it’s all the same. They didn’t feel their college years were wasted but their degree certainly was.

Sorry “fluffy” majors are not finding a way to making it work. The data is not in your favor.

When people go to college, they need to be grounded and not buy into the garbage being shoved down everyone’s throat about “You can do it!, You’re a Winner! You can major in anything you want! 👍

Nah sorry the real world doesn’t work like that. Not everyone can be an actor or singer. There are only so many museums that need curators. People need to look at the job market and see the supply and demand…(Yes there are too many unemployed/underemployed JDs and MBA’s). College is (whether people like it or not) is about a job…not education. Nobody goes to college anymore for an education, they go because they hope they can get a job when they graduate. Well they need to get skills, not $80,000 of something that will never be used.

As a buddy of mine has stated a list of savings when forgoing “fluff” degrees:

Degree: / Replacement: / Savings:

Foreign Languages / Language Software / $29,721
Philosophy / Read Socrates / $29,980
Women’s Studies / Watch Daytime TV / $30,000
Journalism / Start a blog / $30,000
Radio-Broadcasting / Apply / $30,000
Political Science / Listen to talk radio / $30,000
Theater / Audition for a play / $30,000
Literature / Go to the library / $30,000
English / Speak English / $30,000

😃
 
For what it’s worth…my husband and I have done just fine working trade jobs and being involved in the military. We have a house and are living comfortably with savings.

Neither of us have any kind of degrees but right now I’m working on my nursing degree and should be done in another 3 years…God willing.

We also have no debt…except for our mortgage.
 
For what it’s worth…my husband and I have done just fine working trade jobs and being involved in the military. We have a house and are living comfortably with savings.

Neither of us have any kind of degrees but right now I’m working on my nursing degree and should be done in another 3 years…God willing.

We also have no debt…except for our mortgage.
You’re doing it right!

Bless you both, I wish I had your sense when I was a teenager 😉

I wish you well on your nursing degree 👍
 
My view is it depends on culture and region.

Objectively, most of the population of the United States today lives in urban areas. I suspect that impacts the majority of the populations interests. While I know urban people that enjoy occasional - some frequent - camping trips I would say the vast majority I know don’t.

But far more men I know seem to be into fishing and hunting (not necessarily camping).

I think in very small rural towns it may be different where women and men both are into riding horses, camping, hunting, and honing more traditional survival skills in general. I say this from having met women in men when I stayed briefly in the small town of Tomah, Wisconsin.

In Milwaukee I think you’re odds - if you had to guess on what gift to give a woman you didn’t know well - would be far better giving a woman a fine fur, diamond jewelry, pearls, precious stones, Prada merchandise, a new BMW or Lexus if you could afford it.

If I gave the typical woman in Milwaukee or Chicago a hunting knife or Swiss knife or a tent as a gift I think she’d think I was out my damned mind.
 
Actually they are being who they are. Overgrown boys raised by single mothers that have no idea how to be protector and a provider. Their male image is based on a combination of mom’s sleepovers, Calvin Kline commercials and variations of Jersey Shore.
There are plenty of tough guys that were raised by single women.

Plus, protecting someone you love is often instinctual. Assuming fear does not get the better of you. But it’s the reason why I don’t think you need to mistreat dogs or feed them gun powder to get them to protect you. My experience with my own dogs were that if you love them they will protect you anyways.

I guess I’m saying it seems to me a boy raised by a single mother would as an adult defend his girlfriend that he loves from a male rapist if she was attacked in front of him. Who would win is another matter. But being raised with a father in the house does not de facto mean you’ll win in a violent encounter. I’m a pretty small guy, and I can tell you my odds would not be well in a small prison cell with some 300 pound behemoth of a man that was reared by a single mother and grew up to ride Harley’s with the Mongols motorcycle club, or enforce protection money for the Philadelphia mob or the California Bloods in prison.
Who buys “Bath&Bodyworks” when all you need is a bar of Dial for the shower and bar of Lava for the sink? 🤷
I’m not into the metro-sexual thing either. At least not to the extent “metro-sexualism” takes grooming and pampering.

But traditionally a lot of your wealthy, urban, tough guys dressed and groomed (and were at least scented with aftershave) with some precision. Even military men believe in being showered, scented, and pressed when not in the field.

Example of the kind of urban guy with money I’m talking about: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frank_Balistrieri


“Mr. Slick”
The FBI called him that because he was always dressed to the T’s and well groomed like an old school mob boss.
 
I have a negative image about women? No, no. I have a negative image about our culture and how it affects both women AND men. Both sexes are at fault. Both sexes engage in the disharmony.

A little joking around with caricatures is fine by me, I laugh about it too. When it affects people’s behavior…that I don’t like.

I don’t like when men hit on me and treat me like a bimbo because they assume I’m like the girls they see on TV or meet at parties. Oh and btw, I don’t dress like a slut,so I’m not inviting that kind of behavior.

I’m frustrated with both sexes, but what do ya do?
C’est la vie 😉
I didn’t say you have a negative view of women. I said that maybe women are too serious and any negative portrayal of them on Tv brings an uproar. Maybe it isn’t bad that men are portrayed in a slapstick way. It would be better though if women would accept that portrayal of themselves as well. Instead you have the stupid man who is always making it hard for the intelligent woman.
 
I just want to offer a point (personal view) about college degrees:

Some universities require a psychology majors to take a fair amount of math because often times in that field you have to do a lot of statistical work. Also, nothing wrong with a degree in art history if that’s what interests you.

All pursuits or intellectual interests do not have to revolve around financial profits.

Plus, I know at UW-Milwaukee a doctoral degree in an area of art history requires possibly learning a foreign - or dead - language related to that area of specialty.
 
I just want to offer a point (personal view) about college degrees:

Some universities require a psychology majors to take a fair amount of math because often times in that field you have to do a lot of statistical work. Also, nothing wrong with a degree in art history if that’s what interests you.

**All pursuits or intellectual interests do not have to revolve around financial profits.
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Plus, I know at UW-Milwaukee a doctoral degree in an area of art history requires possibly learning a foreign - or dead - language related to that area of specialty.
If you can pay for your degree out of pocket 👍

Otherwise you are buying stock in Lehman Brothers.
 
Most degrees are useless out of college, including science degrees. Hardly anyone goes on to use there degree. You get a degree in biology or chemistry, you don’t have many options unless you go on for more school. Success now takes some creativity and assertiveness.
 
If you can pay for your degree out of pocket 👍

Otherwise you are buying stock in Lehman Brothers.
Maybe so.
Most degrees are useless out of college, including science degrees. Hardly anyone goes on to use there degree. You get a degree in biology or chemistry, you don’t have many options unless you go on for more school. Success now takes some creativity and assertiveness.
The FBI likes to hire men and women with degrees (even undergrad degrees) in biology, chemistry, and physics. My understanding is the FBI believes obtaining degrees in the area of the natural sciences develops good analytical thinking skills.

You also have to have a degree in biology, chemistry, or physics to work in the physical forensic state crime labs. It’s a rule imposed by the FBI for these crime labs to remain accredited.

But you are right that a person only obtaining an undergraduate degree - even in the sciences - has to be creative if they want to be employable with only a bachelor degree.

I think college is just an extension of high school like high school is for grade school (and middle school for public schools). Freshman year in college is essentially the 13th grade. Sophomore the 14th. And senior year in college the 16th. The fullest formal education once you begin schooling as a child in the 1st grade is to obtain a doctoral degree as an adult. Actually, that’s subjective too maybe. One can be pretty educated with 2 or 3 bachelor degrees or one bachelor degree in nursing and a PhD in cultural anthropology.

Really, there is too much to learn that any one mind can ever take in. Time and money are supreme obstacles too.

I like to look at formal schooling as something not so unlike exercising the muscles but where you exercise the mind instead.

But drawing education back to the original topic of the thread. The author of the book Gamorrah, about the Neapolitan Camorra, was told be a medical doctor (I think his father) that a real man has both a college degree and a gun. One with out the other leaves one without real manhood.

I have the book. The Cammora of Naples seems to be structured more akin to American “super-gangs” like the Bloods, Gangster Disciples, Latin Kings, Mexican Mafia etc. Except the Camorrah probably make far more money internationally.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gomorrah_%28book%29

 
Maybe so.

The FBI likes to hire men and women with degrees (even undergrad degrees) in biology, chemistry, and physics. My understanding is the FBI believes obtaining degrees in the area of the natural sciences develops good analytical thinking skills.

You also have to have a degree in biology, chemistry, or physics to work in the physical forensic state crime labs. It’s a rule imposed by the FBI for these crime labs to remain accredited.

But you are right that a person only obtaining an undergraduate degree - even in the sciences - has to be creative if they want to be employable with only a bachelor degree.

I think college is just an extension of high school like high school is for grade school (and middle school for public schools). Freshman year in college is essentially the 13th grade. Sophomore the 14th. And senior year in college the 16th. The fullest formal education once you begin schooling as a child in the 1st grade is to obtain a doctoral degree as an adult. Actually, that’s subjective too maybe. One can be pretty educated with 2 or 3 bachelor degrees or one bachelor degree in nursing and a PhD in cultural anthropology.

Really, there is too much to learn that any one mind can ever take in. Time and money are supreme obstacles too.

I like to look at formal schooling as something not so unlike exercising the muscles but where you exercise the mind instead.

But drawing education back to the original topic of the thread. The author of the book Gamorrah, about the Neapolitan Camorra, was told be a medical doctor (I think his father) that a real man has both a college degree and a gun. One with out the other leaves one without real manhood.

I have the book. The Cammora of Naples seems to be structured more akin to American “super-gangs” like the Bloods, Gangster Disciples, Latin Kings, Mexican Mafia etc. Except the Camorrah probably make far more money internationally.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gomorrah_%28book%29

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikiped...iano.jpg/200px-Gomorrah_by_robertosaviano.jpg
I have never heard that about the FBI.

The statement about the degree and the gun is interesting, and I agree in a sense. You must take care of your physical and mental situation. Modern culture and technology have a tendency to neuter men through education and a neglect of the physical.
 
Most degrees are useless out of college, including science degrees. Hardly anyone goes on to use there degree. You get a degree in biology or chemistry, you don’t have many options unless you go on for more school. Success now takes some creativity and assertiveness.
And hard work, luck, and lots of networking. My previous job was in real estate. I had worked my way up through the company quickly and had decent career for someone my age. The attorney that my company used and I worked together quite a bit, and he was impressed with me. He found out that I was dreaming of law school when I finally finished my undergrad but I told him all the million reasons I couldn’t do it. So he set up a meeting between me and a friend of his who was also an attorney. He offered me a chance to be an intern (unpaid) at his firm. After a few months they offered to chip in for my school as a future investment in their firm.

So that’s the story of “crony”.
 
Oh boy…where do I even begin…

I’ll sum it up succinctly any Liberal Arts major lacking in anything Mathematical, Scientific, Technological, or Engineering wise is a worthless degree. So yeah all Art History, Communications, Theatre, Journalism…ect ect…All worthless
I have not been responding on these forums for awhile, but seeing some of the statements here regarding arts degrees was enough to make me come out of hiding.

austenbooten, I strongly disagree with your views on arts degrees. Calling them “worthless” and “fluffy bunny” degrees is very rude and disrespectful towards those who have pursued that line of education. I’ve noticed this occasionally on other threads as well…it truly amazes me the animosity some people have towards these areas of studies. They paint the incredibly diverse areas in arts, from fine and performing arts to the highly technical (and yes, mathematical) social sciences with the same brush.

First of all, your idea that the arts are worthless was also held by the government of the Soviet Union. While they still had musicians, writers and media, they decided to abolish any arts influence in the education of engineers. They mass-produced engineers using a lobotomized education system which completely ignored, among other things, the humanities, critical thinking and philosophy.

Soviet engineering schools had no elective courses, no courses on the philosophy of knowledge, no courses even on general sciences. The result was that their engineering graduates were very skilled in their specific field, but they were also not able to communicate effectively or think critically. These are skills which are emphasized in arts courses and in an arts degree, and they are critically important to any society or business. However, the Soviet Union’s economic State Planning Committee was made of people who had no art backgrounds whatsoever. Thus they were unable to question and critically examine their own methods. So instead of coming up with creative solutions in a crisis, they instead sought to exact increasingly stringent control on their existing method. This made their economic controls more brittle instead of flexible, and that was one of the contributing factors of the fall of the Soviet Union. I

If you want to explore this further, I highly recommend you watch the TV documentary series “Pandora’s Box” (specifically the first episode, “The Engineers’ Plot”) which covers this subject in detail. It investigates the consequences of political and technocratic rationalism and shows that you cannot have a functional society which systematically removes the arts.

Your denigration of arts degrees is also an attack against the priesthood, as the education of priests is primarily in the area of arts. Are philosophy and theology also worthless in your view? If so, then you view a priest’s education as worthless, including the education of Pope Benedict XVI. And considering your status says you are Catholic, I find this very curious.

Also, what about the University of Oxford? Their curriculum is focused on traditional subjects, primarily humanities and traditional sciences. Is that worthless? Even though, according to the UK’s HESA (Higher Education Statistics Agency), 93% of Oxford graduates are employed 6 months after their graduation? Now before anyone protests, I fully realize that most people do not have an Oxford degree but it shows just how highly valued the arts are at a prestigious institution.

Now, yes, I know normally it does take longer to find meaningful employment. And yes, often arts grads find work in areas that are seemingly unrelated to what they studied. And yes, arts grads do earn less than engineers (especially when they first start out). However, arts emphasize what companies call “soft skills”…which is critical thinking, the ability to question established methods, communication.

Unfortunately it seems my message was too long for a single posting, so I will post the rest of it in a separate message.
 
Con’t…

I guess being succinct is not one of my strengths 😉

Anyway, with so many companies in North America and Europe wanting to get access to the Asian market, people who have done anthropological and/or cultural studies of the area are becoming invaluable. Having an in depth knowledge of the language and culture of another country is becoming essential in business. Now while an engineer may find himself with a very specific, useful set of skills geared towards their area, the skills of arts grads can apply across many different fields. For example, one of my majors was in linguistics. Now while most people who take linguistics may not professional linguists, many are involved with communications, marketing, interpreting/translating, editing and (especially) speech pathology, among others.

Psychology often leads into other fields as well. Having knowledge of psychology can be invaluable in the fields as diverse as criminal law and marketing. So while most people who take psychology degrees do not become psychologists, their skills are very much needed in other fields. That is the beauty of these soft skills; they are applicable across so many disciplines.

Now, with all this, I am not trying to degrade engineers (I hope not…my fiancé is one!) but I am just pointing out that an engineer who has had no arts background at all is a very narrow-minded one. A country that decides put all their energy and money into engineering at the expense of arts finds their strategy majorly back-firing. Company leaders are realizing this, and are starting to both invest money in the arts community but also are starting to change their attitude towards arts grads. The former CEO of the company I work for was a very generous philanthropist who dedicated a lot of his time and money towards the arts. Of course this change will be gradual, but eventually arts degrees will become as valuable as business degrees due to the increasing interconnectedness of our world.

Now I know, based on your other remarks, that you will disagree vehemently with what I say above. I am not asking that you agree but all I ask is that you please at least show a little more respect for people who have arts degrees. I do not like seeing my education being continually degraded as though it were something worthless, especially since I know it is leading towards the vocation that God has chosen for me.

Thank you and God bless.
 
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