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… You try to take my moral inventory every time you scream “murderer!” on the computer screen. That doesn’t mean you are accurate. It simply means you have an opinion.
Limerick**
This is one of the problems with using one’s own experience of immorality as an example in a discussion about morality. It is *not *“taking your inventory” when someone else says that doing X, which you have said you have done, is wrong, but you experience it that way because you have put your experience in the discussion.
This is not a 12-step meeting, it is a discussion about a moral issue. A 12-Step meeting is *completely *different, being as it is a *support *group. In a 12-Step meeting, the experiences of the participants *are *germane and useful to the others. If a person tells about seeing aspects of his life falling apart over the years until he could stand it no longer, then those whose lives have not fallen apart that much but have somewhat can learn from that other person’s experience. In a 12-Step meeting it would of course be absurd to comment on the morality or other extraneous aspect of a person’s story, simply because the point is to show how (problem) can lead one to doing those things.
I have said to you that we do not condemn people who made wrong decisions. All of us have made wrong decisions! We all understand the making of wrong decisions!
However, part of absolution is accepting that what one did is indeed wrong. I returned to the Church when I was in my thirties. You think I didn’t commit some immoral acts before I returned? But the difference is that I have renounced those decisions. Instead of trying to persuade those who believe those decisions to be immoral that they are not really that bad, I have accepted that those decisions I made were immoral, and that that means that I committed immoral acts.
You told us that you have been to Confession about your abortion, and yet you still do not feel absolved. You ask how long will you have to (I’m paraphrasing because I don’t remember your exact words) feel like the bad guy.
You are carrying around this burden, Limerick, *but you don’t have to. *Let me propose an experiment. Go elsewhere on the internet, not here, and argue on the pro-life side. Seriously. You will not be committing yourself in any way, because you can be totally anonymous and it won’t be here. Take a break from arguing your current point of view and just do that.
I suspect that if you do this seriously for 3 or 4 weeks that you will feel a burden lifting from your heart, because from what I see you saying, the burden is caused not by God or us but by yourself in your continuing to hang on to rationalizing what you have done. The conflict is within yourself.
Try my experiment and see how it works. I’m praying for you, as I am sure that all the rest of us are.