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Yes … conveniently stacked on the side of the Church. Nuns make judgment calls about the intelligence of their students and dumb them down, never thinking that the message they carry to these kids stunts their growth rather than encouraging it.
I am honestly tired of it all. I have turned a thousand stones in my adult years looking for a party who is willing to say “We did the wrong thing, we’re sorry we spoke to you like a two-year-old, we didn’t know that children have minds and imaginations”. The Church is not responsible, the nuns and priests are not responsible, the lay teachers are not responsible - everybody has an airtight alibi for the days when such half-baked catechism was thrown at me.**
What you are asking is that in a particular situation a person who hears only one side of the story says that the other side is wrong. Who is going to do that?
What I will say is that *many *educational systems, not just Catholic, were like that, maybe not quite at that time because there was movement in educational circles outside the Church which did not enter into the Church until later. And there is a lot of history that goes into what was happening then (1950s and early 1960s) in Catholic education and in the Church in general.
From what I can tell, there was a lot of bad stuff going on. The changes in Catholic education which occurred in the 1960s were an attempt to fix those problems–an obvious admission that what was going on was not working. Unfortunately, the results the changes brought in were even more disastrous to Catholic education that what had occurred before, and so it did not really become clear that what was going on before was bad. Instead, it seemed to many that what was going on before was better, and the result was that the problems were no really perceived as problems, because the results were seen as better than those of the solution. (I sure hope this is making sense.)
It is very difficult to look back and say, oh those people were so wrong, because if one could talk with the people, one night easily find out about additional details which would change one’s view of the situation. For example, one of the probable sources of problems in the Irish schools in the early part of the 1900s was the sudden influx of many orphans due to the First World War, at a time when people really did not know how to best help children whose whole worlds had fallen apart.
Additionally, it seems that many people involved in shaping Catholic education in the US and in Ireland tended to be those of the upper classes who would not inherit, and they brought certain non-Catholic views which were around at that time about evolution and eugenics, etc. As a result, many bright young Catholics were “pushed down” because they were seen to be destined for a certain course. The students of parochial schools were rarely seen as individuals. And there are those who think that because the Irish were trained in France, that a Jansenistic streak entered in.
I cannot judge a particular case, but what I can say is that, yes, there was a lot going on that was wrong in Catholic and non-Catholic education at those times, so it is quite likely that your judgement of the situation is correct.
I’m getting there. I’m getting to that place where I can finally rest, knowing that leaving the Catholic Church was the right thing for me. Being a Catholic has been the most unrewarding, fear-riddled, punishment-centric experience I never asked for. I’m grateful that I didn’t raise my daughter to be a Catholic so she can be truly ignorant of all this stuff so maybe at least she will have a shot at a happy life, a happy death, and a happy afterlife.
It permeates. It metastasizes. It’s over.
You say that you raised your daughter without Catholicism… it was very hard for me to forgive my mother for raising me without Catholicism after I returned to the Church–she left the Church when I was very young. I’m not saying that the same would happen to you, only that things are not always what they seem.
I am extremely sorry that your experience growing up as a Catholic was so awful. I hope that you will be able at some time to forgive those people, to let them go on to God’s judgement, not because they deserve it or anything like that, but because that is the way that you will find peace.