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PiousTemplar
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My Catholic relatives have made a wonderful confirmation stole for me on my confirmation this weekend! - has anyone else ever used one?
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TrueLight
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I don’t know what that is, but I just want to say that I’m excited for you. Congrats!
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Joannm
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In our diocese we are not allowed to use them. The stole is a priest vestment.
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Saintlucy
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On feasts and solemnities I like to wear something in the liturgical colours. For instance, at Easter I always wear white or gold and on Good Friday I wear black and red. It’s just a thing of mine. However, I would never wear a stole; that is priestly attire and I don’t think it would ever be allowed here.
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puzzleannie
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if you mean for candidates, they are forbidden in this diocese because of the fear of confusion between the role of the baptized and the role of the priest. It is considered solely a priestly garment. That is not the case everywhere, so find out what is the custom in your parish or diocese. It can still be a wonderful keepsake and remembrance and would make a lovely wall grouping with your photo with the bishop, icon or statue of your name saint and other mementos you receive.
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Jim_Roberts
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Corki
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Some parishes have all the people being confirmed wear a robe. I have seen pictures of a Confirmation stole being worn over the robe. It looks less like a priestly garment and more like part of a choir uniform that way.
Just ask at your parish. If they allow them, they will let you know how and when you can wear it.
Congratulations on your upcoming Confirmation!
Just ask at your parish. If they allow them, they will let you know how and when you can wear it.
Congratulations on your upcoming Confirmation!
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mfrances
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In our diocese we use a sash that wraps around the person, like a beauty pagent sash. It’s usually red with some symbols, or a white one worn over a red robe.
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PiousTemplar
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Oohh… Forbidden? Why would it be? Sigh… how am I supposed to say that to family who made it specially for me with my name on it and everything…
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lizaanne
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Talk to your priest about it. Perhaps you can carry it over your arm, and not around your neck during your Confirmation.
When I was confirmed (as an adult) we all had white stoles, we made them ourselves. I can understand the concern over wearing a priestly garment now, but at the time I was at an EXTREMELY liberal parish and no one there would have thought twice about that. But I do agree, it is a priest’s garment, and not something a lay person should be wearing.
Congratulations on your Confirmation!!
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Theophorus
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God Bless you on your upcoming confirmation! May the graces of God descend on you through the Holy Spirit
Check with your parish priest before you do anything else! As others have said a stole is a liturgical garment proper only to clergy and therefore would be inappropriate to wear for your confirmation. however something closer to a sash idea clearly different from a stole may be ok. Check with your priest
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puzzleannie
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you don’t have to say anything
first, as suggested, find out if you will be allowed to wear it during the rite, and whether or not you can, thank them for the beautiful gift and display it proudly.
religious supply houses sell confirmation stoles for candidates so they must be customary someplace, just not in this diocese.
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Love_Divine
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You mean like a maniple??
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MEPayne
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When I was confirmed back in the late 1970s all the candidates made them from felt materials; there was never any confusion with the priest’s vestments. The candidates wore white robes, like graduation robes and the stoles were in red, with each candidate’s confirmation name and saint symbols. For example, my confirmation name was Teresa and there were flowers on one side.
I think it’s a lovely custom, hope you will be able to use yours!
I think it’s a lovely custom, hope you will be able to use yours!
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Corki
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1970s ---- felt ------ what memories.
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Chatter163
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The stole thing started in the 1970s, not because of any connection to priestly stoles, but to stoles worn by graduates at commencement ceremonies. The trend of later confirmation ages in the US contributred to the analogy with graduation.
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FAB
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Since confirmation is not in any way a form of Graduation the analogy is false.
The use of a stole either around the neck or across the shoulder is not allowed. The stole is a particular sign of the ordained either preist or deacon.
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lizaanne
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LOL!!! Too funny! Yep, guess that wouldn’t really work either. But in most St. Suburbia parishes, I doubt most people would know what a maniple is.You mean like a maniple??
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corsair
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I had a son that was “Re-Confirmed” in 1991 at a local OF parish. The priest didn’t like the fact that he had been Confirmed by Abp LeFevbre prior to the 1988 problems. so rather than get in a big " fracas" over the issue, we just let it happen. He was required to wear this red stole along with the other kids.
It was the fad back then.
It was the fad back then.
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ciero
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I was confirmed LONG before the 1970’s…even before Vatican II and we wore the stole…I have pictures of my parents and grandparents from their confirmations as well all wearing the stole. So dont blame this one on the 70’s or vatican II for that matter.
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