Anyone feel like they won't ever get married?

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GraceDK said:
Wyatt…
I think you should thank the Lord that you were not already a dater at 15… its way too young!
Anyway… I understand you. I have never had a healthy relationship… I am 26… and my twinsister actually got married over a year ago… Now that also made me suddenly feel like the totally odd one out in the family… I imagine the whole family looking at me as the spinster who will never get married… and all my friends are getting married while I cant seem to just find that one miracle of a man and get married…
I dont wanna be lonely… I dont wanna long for a husband… but heck yes… sometimes I do and it makes me feel really lousy.
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It’s really been bothering me for quite sometime. I even talked to my dad about it because it was really getting to where it bothered me a lot, and I felt like I really had to talk about it. He told me that I should count it as my own little piece of martyrdom. That did make me feel a little better, especially thinking about people like St. Stephen (my patron saint) who died for Christ. That really put it in perspective for me. I guess I shouldn’t get so down when there are people who have died for Christ. I can count this struggle as my own cross. I just hope I don’t have to bear it forever (I want to find someone someday).
 
Wyatt said:
It’s really been bothering me for quite sometime. I even talked to my dad about it because it was really getting to where it bothered me a lot, and I felt like I really had to talk about it. He told me that I should count it as my own little piece of martyrdom. That did make me feel a little better, especially thinking about people like St. Stephen (my patron saint) who died for Christ. That really put it in perspective for me. I guess I shouldn’t get so down when there are people who have died for Christ. I can count this struggle as my own cross. I just hope I don’t have to bear it forever (I want to find someone someday).
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Brother Wyatt.
Take it from someone who is old and wise 😉 You are young… totally … you are only now ready to actually start searching for the one.
As for martyrdom… hehe… yes… I have been thinking in the same lines. When I see happy couples or mothers with little children I close my eyes and say: “Jesus, I thank you for my loneliness”.
(The Bible tells us to always give thanks in all circumstances).
We can also think of all those children and young people who die before they even become adults, especially in third world countries. many have experienced so much human neglect and abuse that many more urgent needs are on their wish list before finding a husband or wife.

When we are really bugged… then we sometimes lack faith. But you have to believe that God might be bringing you exactly towards the time and place where that young woman will be who will become your bride.
and … to me it sounds like you have all the time in the world as well as your heart in the right place 👍 …
 
Julianna said:
To all you wonderful single people…

As a mom of a 25 yr old son. Please pray for me. I have no patience. My son is working on his BS in Engineering and working part time. When I ask (ok, nag) “hey aren’t there some nice girls at the college or at work you would like to date?” The answer I get is…“I have nothing to offer a woman at this time, mom. I am going to school and working part time. Don’t worry, I have plenty of time.”

He is really very shy and introspective but it very goal oriented. Yes, he still lives at home and pays his own way, his car is paid off, he pays his own insurance and pays his way through school. He is helpful to his dad and I whenever we ask. He is not a freeloader by any means.

I often wonder…it’s me that is the problem. From your’alls point of view am I being too forceful?

Yes, I am an Italian-American mother…God help me :eek:
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If he ends up in Houston I know where he can find a fantastic young Catholic woman-of course you might not like the Father in law he ends up with…
 
We’ve had a few new additions, so here is the updated list for all who are interested:

Harmony1988 - M20
beckers - F28
ladylinguist - F23
Norseman82 - M
chevalier - M25
Gisella - F
Sierrah - F
JustinL - M
Felicity in TX - F26
azgirl - F35
Cosmo23 - M
lampstand
Morwenna - F39
Alan - M39
Trevor - M36
bookish - F
CarolAnnSFO - F
agapewolf - F33
Lady Bug - F
Taya (Ambrose) - M23-27
unixfudotnet - M29
catherine m - F34
macian - F23
LSK - F52
Belgarion - M19
Archus - M20
Lady James - F42
Catholic_Kenpo - M34
DL82 - M26
valient Lucy - F24
Wyatt - M20
nef - F20
GraceDK - F26
Leopard3
Kirsty33 - F20
and all others who are not mentioned

I am praying for each of us by (screen)name as often as possible.

I am praying that God will make each of us ready for our future spouse (and them ready for us), lead us to each other, and to pour out grace upon us to give us strength and hope while we’re waiting. :heaven:

Thank you to all who are joining in prayer for these intentions. If I’ve missed anyone, or if anyone would like to be added to this list, please post here or send me a PM … same applies to anyone who is on the list and wants to be removed (I certainly don’t want to offend or make anyone uncomfortable!).

May Our Lord bless these intentions, and may the Blessed Virgin Mary and St Joseph intercede for us.

:gopray:
 
To the OP, yes, I did feel like I would never get married. It was really frustrating and painful at times, but I’ve always been an impatient person. Now that I’ve been married a year and a half, I feel like my husband and I will never have children. I guess that’s how impatience works. It easily finds a new focus. May God bless us all with more patience! 🙂
 
Hey, I wouldn’t mind joining the list (F21, yes, young) 😊 however as of yet, I don’t know if I am suitable for marriage or am more suitable for single/religious life … and i will hold everyone on that list in my prayers as well 🙂
 
Hey. I’ve really gotten a lot of encouragement from reading your posts, being a somewhat long-term single Catholic at 30 years old and can’t really see any prospect of getting married.

I’d be grateful if you had a look at a thread I’ve been running about whether a Catholic lady likes me as more than a friend and your comments would be helpful:

forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=250508
 
We’ve had a few new additions, so here is the updated list for all who are interested:

Harmony1988 - M20
beckers - F28
ladylinguist - F23
Norseman82 - M
chevalier - M25
Gisella - F
Sierrah - F
JustinL - M
Felicity in TX - F26
azgirl - F35
Cosmo23 - M
lampstand
Morwenna - F39
Alan - M39
Trevor - M36
bookish - F
CarolAnnSFO - F
agapewolf - F33
Lady Bug - F
Taya (Ambrose) - M23-27
unixfudotnet - M29
catherine m - F34
macian - F23
LSK - F52
Belgarion - M19
Archus - M20
Lady James - F42
Catholic_Kenpo - M34
DL82 - M26
valient Lucy - F24
Wyatt - M20
nef - F20
GraceDK - F26
Leopard3
Kirsty33 - F20
Ankabaranka_87 - F21
John AH - M29
BCven86 - M22
FanofB16 - M30
and all others who are not mentioned

I am praying for each of us by (screen)name as often as possible.

I am praying that God will make each of us ready for our future spouse (and them ready for us), lead us to each other, and to pour out grace upon us to give us strength and hope while we’re waiting. :heaven:

Thank you to all who are joining in prayer for these intentions. If I’ve missed anyone, or if anyone would like to be added to this list, please post here or send me a PM … same applies to anyone who is on the list and wants to be removed (I certainly don’t want to offend or make anyone uncomfortable!).

May Our Lord bless these intentions, and may the Blessed Virgin Mary and St Joseph intercede for us.

:gopray:
 
Here is an updated list for all who are interested:

Harmony1988 - M20
beckers - F28
ladylinguist - F23
Norseman82 - M
chevalier - M25
Gisella - F
Sierrah - F
JustinL - M
Felicity in TX - F26
azgirl - F35
Cosmo23 - M
lampstand
Morwenna - F39
Alan - M39
Trevor - M36
bookish - F
CarolAnnSFO - F
agapewolf - F33
Lady Bug - F
Taya (Ambrose) - M23-27
unixfudotnet - M29
catherine m - F34
macian - F23
LSK - F52
Belgarion - M19
Archus - M20
Lady James - F42
Catholic_Kenpo - M34
DL82 - M26
valient Lucy - F24
Wyatt - M20
nef - F20
GraceDK - F26
Leopard3
Kirsty33 - F20
Ankabaranka_87 - F21
John AH - M29
BCven86 - M22
FanofB16 - M30
Andrew Hinkley - M29
and all others who are not mentioned

I am praying for each of us by (screen)name as often as possible.

I am praying that God will make each of us ready for our future spouse (and them ready for us), lead us to each other, and to pour out grace upon us to give us strength and hope while we’re waiting. :heaven:

Thank you to all who are joining in prayer for these intentions. If I’ve missed anyone, or if anyone would like to be added to this list, please post here or send me a PM … same applies to anyone who is on the list and wants to be removed (I certainly don’t want to offend or make anyone uncomfortable!).

May Our Lord bless these intentions, and may the Blessed Virgin Mary and St Joseph intercede for us.

:gopray:
 
dakotagirl writes:

“Yes. It’s a peaceful feeling.”

Amen.

marietta
 
thank you all for your prayers, and I’ll say a prayer for you. I was wondering if anyone would like to PM me to either talk, help each other out and generally be there for one another.

Peace to you all xx
 
Heavenly Father, please help my son find the courage to accept Tracey’s welcome. He has lost confidence. Please don’t let him lose this opportunity to begin dating.

Please grant the prayers of all in this thread who are seeking loving life-partnesr.
 
Wow, I didn’t know this thread was still alive. I must admit, I had completely forgotten about my promise to keep praying after a few days, but seeing this reminded me of everything.

Morwenna, you managed to keep the list updated and still pray? That is really admirable. I will start now.
 
I have recently been diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome so I probably never will get married. I’ve never had a strong desire to, but this sort of confirms it.
 
Keep busy and happy and try not to worry about it too much. I didn’t get married till I was 48 - and it was well worth the wait! 🙂
 
Heavenly Father, please help my son find the courage to accept Tracey’s welcome. He has lost confidence. Please don’t let him lose this opportunity to begin dating.

Please grant the prayers of all in this thread who are seeking loving life-partners
 
Harmony1988 said:
Wow, I didn’t know this thread was still alive. I must admit, I had completely forgotten about my promise to keep praying after a few days, but seeing this reminded me of everything.

Morwenna, you managed to keep the list updated and still pray? That is really admirable. I will start now.
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Thank you so much, Harmony! 🙂 Thank you for starting this thread to begin with … look what wonderful fruits have grown from it … so many people from all over the world are praying for each other here. 👍

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Trishie said:
Heavenly Father, please help my son find the courage to accept Tracey’s welcome. He has lost confidence. Please don’t let him lose this opportunity to begin dating.

Please grant the prayers of all in this thread who are seeking loving life-partners
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Trishie, I am still praying for both Alan and Trevor! :hug3:
 
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