Yeah I know the feeling. I am 27, too. Try having a married identical twin with 2 kids already discussing their 3rd.I feel exactly the same way.
Oh and a *little sister *married with a daughter already. My twin once said to me, “I could never have guessed how different our 20’s would be.” Sigh.
Why don’t you have a Catholic Singles Conference at your own parish?Maybe we should all attend the Catholic’s singles conference in San Diego or Chicago. I know of 2 couples who met spouses there. If nothing else it would be a great place to meet other single catholics for fellowship. Just an idea.
Well for me time is kind of a factor. I don’t have enough of it to organize something like that let alone know where to begin.
LOL…I think i am on my 3 or 4th cycle of friends getting married and having babies so i go find new single friends who get married and have babies. I am actually in two weddings this month and my sister is getting married in Feb. I will be the last female daughter in the family and last grand daughter to get married. I guess god has got to have a plan for me.Yeah I know the feeling. I am 27, too. Try having a married identical twin with 2 kids already discussing their 3rd.
Last night, I was awake half the night fearful of my future, wondering if I would ever marry or if it would be a happy marriage or if something was “wrong” with me or…etc, etc etc. I try so hard to stay faithful and positive but those nights happen…can’t stand night like that!
Anyway, I truly do believe God has good things in store. It’s just hard to know why it unfolds sooner for some and later for others. Some have said “encouraging” things to me like, “Well maybe you’re just not ready yet for marriage.” We-ell… lol, my twin wasn’t any more “ready” 5 years ago than I am today! Trust me, our maturity levels aren’t that off-kilter, lol. I just don’t think life is that clear cut … but God’s ways are bigger than ours.
Thanks Lisa, I too am a member of AMS (long-time member). It’s a great website. I have also read the blog - I agree he shares some very interesting thoughts on the married vocation!
Haha, yes the grass always seems greener right? And after 5 years of additional singleness, yep, I have become the “social twin.”
I love being an aunt, especially when my 4-year-old nephew has endearing epiphanies like, “Auntie … you look a LOT like Mommy!!!” (You can see the light bulb going off over his head, haha). Or when we are in public and my niece or nephew cling to me for protection, or when my nephew asks me all sorts of questions about God. Admittedly, it fuels my own desire to be a mom that much more … but it is still a privilege to be an aunt/godmother. The “feelings” part is the hardest part … the sadness or turmoil that comes with not knowing…Amen to that!Oh add me to the list please!!
(F, 27)
I keep looking around at all of my married friends, and wondering if there’s something wrong with me.
I’m sure that God has a plan in mind for me…I just wish He’d let me know what it is, lol.
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I feel exactly the same, TT! :juggle:I keep looking around at all of my married friends, and wondering if there’s something wrong with me.
I’m sure that God has a plan in mind for me…I just wish He’d let me know what it is, lol.
One of my responses, especially to people who I don’t know (or don’t know well) is ask them if they are married and if they say “yes” to say “why?” and if they say they aren’t, to then ask why they are not.fun note…
I was my sister’s wedding shower yesterday. I was talking to this old friend of the family and she asked me “if i was married”. I said “no”. She said “why not?” I then replied “i don’t know”. I then went on about it being hard while dating in school.
How do you answer people? I mean I don’t have a good reason except its not my time at the moment.
That’s interesting that you ask them back… seems fair enough! If they cannot answer their own question, they shouldn’t be asking.
Now that you say, I’d have a hard time imagining it happening to me, even if I forced myself. I can’t imagine a woman who’d like that, nor can I really imagine the woman I’d be happy with, given my experience and observations so far. This is not to say I don’t want it - the opposite is true, I would very much want it. I just can’t imagine it (which is not to say I don’t believe it can happen).
I sometimes just say, “I would very much like to, but it has not happened.” Sometimes I say the record holder put up with me for a year and four months. Sometimes I say I haven’t met the right person. Sometimes I stress the good sides of being single and the bad sides of a bad relationship.fun note…
I was my sister’s wedding shower yesterday. I was talking to this old friend of the family and she asked me “if i was married”. I said “no”. She said “why not?” I then replied “i don’t know”. I then went on about it being hard while dating in school.
How do you answer people? I mean I don’t have a good reason except its not my time at the moment.