As you might gather from the cluster of my responses, I needed a bit of hunor for the day, and found it in this thread. And I most certainy will not imply tht you intended the word “always”, but I could not resist having a bit of fun.
And seriously, I would not want to make her mad. Nor, for that matter, your grandmother.
Language is always limiting. we ximply have no term (at least, off the top of my head) for an intelligent being which is pure spirit, and so we fall back on what we have, based on the vast majority of our experience - which is gender driven. Sentient beings for the most part are either male or female, there being no other category. And so, when we refer to a pure spirit - be that God or an angel, we fall back on what we can express, which drives us to “male” and “female” categories.
And add to the confusion, that when God or an angel is manifest, it is within our known categories; thus the kefluffle over angel apparitions. As our perception is limited, we are captive.