Every order may have a particular charism. Some help the poor, and some focus on education. Others may work at nursing homes for example.
The charism of contemplative orders pertains to prayer for and with the Church. For every moment of these men and women’s lives, they will live with the goal of staying in constant prayer in order to serve God and others.
Yes contemplatives live a more hidden life, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t contributing. God uses them in ways we cannot imagine. The works of St. Teresa of Avila and the Little Flower for example, which have no doubt influenced many people in their faith, were actually written because they were instructed to under obedience. They didn’t really want to write books about their interior lives, but at the time did so because of obedience and belief in God’s guidance.
For one, Bl. Teresa of Calcutta was greatly affected by St. Therese’s story. She actually chose that name because of St. Therese. Even her order the Missionaries of Charity, which is more known for their apostolic work with the poor and needy, has a contemplative branch. You can read in her writings about how much she believes in the importance of prayer and personal relationship with God, which fuels one’s love for others.
I think we should remember that all orders and vocations make up the Church.
The Church has many different parts, but we all serve God in helping each other. Contemplatives do that through prayer, not just for themselves but for everyone.
However, it has become common thinking that seeking an intimate interior union with God as through prayer somehow detracts from loving others.
“We love because he first loved us.
If anyone says, “I love God,” but hates his brother, he is a liar;
for whoever does not love a brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen.” (1 John 4)
People commonly use this passage as a way to point out that if we don’t love others, it means we don’t really love God yet. But what seems to be forgotten is that our love stems from his love of us. When we experience His love, it overflows in us so that we may share it with others. None of us have yet to fully experience how much God can love us, but every time we learn a little more, his love enlarges our own capacity for compassion. Nuns and monks seek this and the fruits of their prayers and penances are shared with everyone else, though we cannot measure it in a tangible way.
walburga.org/be_a_nun/contemplative-vocation/
Although the link above is rather short and speaks specifically of nuns, I believe it can be helpful for anyone seeking to understand a contemplative vocation.
Have you considered trying to contact any communities to speak with them? Many do allow visitors [or email/write a letter if you prefer ], and I’m sure they would be happy to answer questions. It might be helpful for you to hear from them yourself. Feel free to be honest with your doubts and questioning of this life. if they are humble and holy men/women, I think they will answer without offense.
