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We were created weak and have to deal with this evil spirit called āSatanā who tempts us in our weakness, and beats us down when we try to be good.
How fair is that!?
Some people are weaker than others⦠everyone is different. Some people canāt fight against their weaknesses, but others can.
Is there such a thing as predestination?
Are you sure we decide our own destination?
Put your hope in what Christ did on the cross and itās all good, right?

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Okay, this thread started with someone blaming emotional stress on the judgement of God, someone worried about going to hell. Then the thread turned into asking whether or not eternal damnation is fair. Those two issues are not very different (from a person-centric view). Let me, God-willing, add some thoughts. My approach is more direct than many; we all have different gifts, mine includes candor.
No one ever went to hell just for missing Mass. Thatās a serious sin, grave matter, but not per se mortal. To commit a mortal sin I need to know itās serious sin and voluntarily do so anyway. So the damnable part is not the objectively grave matter (which, by the way, is disobeying Church law, not missing Mass) but the
willful disobedience. So our damnation would be for the same cause as Eve and Adamās deaths.
As to fairness, if we willfully choose to do wrong when we have full knowledge that to do so will send us to an unimaginable hell, then how could it possibly be unfair to provide the understood consequence? Rather it is manifestly
unfair to offer mercy. Especially when we have repeatedly chosen to disobey and repeatedly asked for forgiveness for the exact same things, both in the actual repeated sins and more in the deliberate choosing to sin. And we get forgiveness? That is so not fair!
Enough. Back to the base question: Are most people going to hell? This is Luke 13:23ās question. Let us answer it as did the Christ: āStrive ā¦ā [RSV]. In my poor understanding of this passage, the Lord shifted the focus of the conversation from quantities of souls to what the questioner should do. āManyā neither implies nor excludes āmost.ā Without meaning to be unkind, āare most people going to hellā is the wrong question. The right question may be " Am I and those whose lives I touch going to heaven?" We must āstriveā which, in the words of Mother Teresa, would mean: āGod has not called me to be successful; He has called me to be faithful.ā
Read back through the thread to see that the original question āAre most people going to hellā was counterfeit for āAm I going to hell?ā And the answer is this: āTry to be good, and trust God for mercy and justice.ā We can go to confession because weāre afraid of hell or because we love God (and most of the time for both reasons). The contrition, perfect or imperfect, is present either way!
To Hermione, let me offer the following: if you are stressed about sinning, first say an act of contrition. Then go to confession. Absolution will relieve the guilt, the cause of your stress. With peace and the sacramental grace comes the ability to resist temptation for just a little longer than last time. God doesnāt cook up saints with a microwave; we take time, and He is patient beyond all time. Keep trying. If you die on the way to confession after a good act of contrition, the mercy of God will protect you. If you die refusing to be contrite and confess, you may really go to hell. Itās almost as simple as ābe sorry go to confession or be obstinate and go to hell.ā
One more thing: what if we donāt
want to pray and go to confession? Do it anyway. We arenāt going to hurt God or His Church by being honest. We will hurt ourselves by not addressing the issues.
As for the final question about predestination, I cannot say⦠except to look at the Blessed Virgin and Her Son. Immaculate conception would seem to argue in favor of predestination, but if Mary had been predestined (or āpredestinatedā as some of my friends say) by God to serve as the Mother of God, her fiat would have been meaningless. God gave us all, especially Mary, full of grace, and even Jesus āthe right to do wrongā and she
chose to ālet it be doneā according to the will of God. If Christ could not have sinned, He could not have saved. āIf predestination means everything, Gethsemane means nothing.ā Predestination cannot mean abrogating free will. Free will, married to Godās mercy in the hypostatic union, is what saved us once for all and now by each.
Peace be with you!