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aemcpa
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Catholics should not have anything to do with the secular dating scene anyway, so that should be of no concern whatsoever to a Catholic. It’s a parallel universe.
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Seaborgium
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Thank you Judy for your encouragement.
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Crescentinus
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That’s true. But, how do we Christianize it?
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aemcpa
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You don’t. It is a fundamentally flawed model. You find a Christian spouse simply by being a Christian and living in the Church according to your state in life.
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Crescentinus
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I thought that we should invade the dating scene and give it a Catholic putsch.
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aemcpa
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I completely disagree. It is a model designed by hedonists in order to fuel their hedonism. It is opposed at its root to Christian thought.I thought that we should invade the dating scene and give it a Catholic putsch.
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Crescentinus
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godisgood77
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Stay strong… the world does not hate people like you. It does not understand you and it fears you… that is a nuance that is often overlooked. Take the positive approach and assume good intent… It’s better to light one candle than to curse the darkness.
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triumphguy
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Re: Are there any catholic virgins left?
To paraphrase an oldie but goody…
“There’s one born every minute”
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Crescentinus
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Point taken. Thanks.
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Kamaduck
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I honestly have no idea how that would work. I’ve heard of societies where marriages are arranged, where people go on dates to get to know people before commiting, and where people commit a little and then decide whether they like the person. Also where people forgo commitment and just have sex with whoever. I’ve even heard of societies where women were stolen from neighboring tribes to be the wives of warriors. I have never, however, heard of a society where marriages just sort of happen without any search whatsoever.
Obviously, some of these methods work better than others.
To the OP- of course there are Catholic virgins in the world. Many.
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PerlaDelRosario
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Yes, I’m also a Catholic virgin reaching my third decade in life but I’m not stressing too much about when I’m going to meet the right person to marry or if I’m going to be celibate forever. However, if it’s bothering you a lot, then pray about it and ask God to help you find the right person for you… if that’s His will.
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zab
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Wow, I know time is flying by for me, but having three decades pass you by before you even get to that date, well I can’t top that
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Anglewannabe
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This is what I will NEVER understand. If some lets their close friends know they are a practicing Catholic, it goes without saying if they are single they are a virgin (or perhaps a sinner who went to confessions and decided to repent). So… How can you ‘Let it slip’. By being a witness to Christ you have already indirectly told them every second of your life
So, how do I handle it? (and I am in the middle of my fifth decade) Easy, I take the cross around my neck, hold it up in full view and proudly say ‘This is not a fashion statement. I am proud God has given me the strength to do His will’
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chevalier
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Physically yeah but I make no claim to be free of any mortal sin under the sixth, in fact I’d be surprised if it turned out so. And all those sins start in the heart (Matt 5:28).
I’m not sure of this but I suspect it’s possible for someone ignorant enough to commit fornication without incurring a mortal sin (don’t quote me and I haven’t done enough research to preclude some old official teaching or highly respected theologian saying something about the subject), while it’s definitely possible to sin mortally against the sixth without doing anything externally. So I don’t think people should be singled out that much for an externally completed act.
Cut some slack to those who have reformed. Each of us needs to reform, if not from anything to do with the sixth then with some other of the ten anyway, barring the holiest people perhaps. God heals through Reconciliation and other sacraments.
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aemcpa
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To be fair, the OP never said “the right person” necessarily has to be a virgin.
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chevalier
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True. Sorry for jumping to conclusions.
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aemcpa
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It’s an easy one to jump to given the title of the thread, but I’m pretty sure he’s asking if there is anyone who, like him, is a Catholic virgin, as opposed to asking if there is a Catholic virgin out there for him to marry.
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aemcpa
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I didn’t say there is no search. I said that “the dating scene” is not an appropriate model for Christians. There are at least 10 couples that I can think of off the top of my head who met at the Newman Center at my college. They were all students, they went to Mass, they spent time studying, socializing and praying together, and a whole bunch of them paired off naturally. They weren’t going out hunting for fresh meat, they were being Catholic together, kindling friendships and bonds of love, and less than 15 years later, 50+ new Catholic children are here.I honestly have no idea how that would work. I’ve heard of societies where marriages are arranged, where people go on dates to get to know people before commiting, and where people commit a little and then decide whether they like the person. Also where people forgo commitment and just have sex with whoever. I’ve even heard of societies where women were stolen from neighboring tribes to be the wives of warriors. I have never, however, heard of a society where marriages just sort of happen without any search whatsoever.
Obviously, some of these methods work better than others.
To the OP- of course there are Catholic virgins in the world. Many.
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