Here are some on talking in Church.
**“Nothing so becomes a church as silence and good order. Noise belongs to theatres, and baths, and public processions, and market-places: but where doctrines, and such doctrines, are the subject of teaching, there should be stillness, and quiet, and calm reflection, and a haven of much repose.” (St. John Chrysostom, Doctor of the Church)
“Let all mortal flesh be silent, standing there…in fear and trembling; for the King of kings, the Lord of lords, Christ our God is about to be sacrificed and to be given as food to the faithful.” (St. James)
“Silence in the presence of the Lord GOD!” (Zeph. 1:7)
“But the LORD is in his holy temple; silence before him, all the earth!” (Hab. 2:20)
“When you are before the altar where Christ reposes, you ought no longer to think that you are amongst men; but believe that there are troops of angels and archangels standing by you, and trembling with respect before the sovereign Master of Heaven and earth. Therefore, when you are in church, be there in silence, fear, and veneration.” (St. John Chrysostom, Doctor of the Church**)
“The worship rendered by the Church to God must be, in its entirety, interior as well as exterior… But the chief element of divine worship must be interior” (Pope Pius XII, Mediator Dei)
On dress:
**“Give to the LORD the glory due his name! Bring gifts, and enter his presence; worship the LORD in holy attire. Tremble before him, all the earth; he has made the world firm, not to be moved.” (1 Chron. 16:29-30)
“The dress of the body should not discredit the good of the soul.” (St. Cyprian)
“A person who is about to make a request to a secular prince takes pains to compose himself and his words by decent dress, becoming gesture, regulated speech and close attention of mind**. How much more careful ought he to be in all these things when he is about to pray to almighty God in a sacred place!” (Council of Basel)
“One cannot sufficiently deplore the blindness of so many women of every age and condition; made foolish by desire to please, they do not see to what a degree the indecency of their clothing shocks every honest man, and offends God. Most of them would formerly have blushed for such apparel as for a grave fault against Christian modesty; now it does not suffice for them to exhibit themselves on the public thoroughfares; they do not fear to cross the threshold of the Churches to assist at the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass, and even to bear the seducing food of shameful passions to the Eucharistic Table where one receives the heavenly Author of purity. And We speak not of those exotic and barbarous dances recently imported into fashionable circles, one more shocking than the other; one cannot imagine anything more suitable for banishing all the remains of modesty.” (Pope Benedict XV)
“Women must be decently dressed, especially when they go to church. The parish priest may, with due prudence, refuse them entrance to the church and access to the reception of the Sacraments, each and every time that they come to the church immodestly dressed.” (General Pastoral Directive, 20th Century A.D.)
“Similarly, (too,) women should adorn themselves with proper conduct, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hairstyles and gold ornaments, or pearls, or expensive clothes, but rather, as befits women who profess reverence for God, with good deeds.” (St. Paul, 1 Tm. 2:9-10)
“A man’s attire, his hearty laughter and his gait, proclaim him for what he is.” (Sirach 19:26)
Just something simple to ponder on:
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“When you hear Mass, do you come in the same frame of mind as the Blessed Virgin at Calvary? Because it is the same God, and the same Sacrifice.” (St. John Vianney)
“Now the exhortation of the Apostle, 'Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus,” requires that all Christians should possess, as far as humanly possible, the same dispositions as those which the divine Redeemer had when He offered Himself in sacrifice: that is to say, they should in a humble attitude of mind, pay adoration, honor, praise and thanksgiving to the supreme majesty of God. Moreover, it means that they must assume to some extent the character of a victim, that they deny themselves as the Gospel commands, that freely and of their own accord they do penance and that each detests and satisfies for his sins. It means, in a word, that we must all undergo with Christ a mystical death on the cross so that we can apply to ourselves the words of St. Paul, ‘With Christ I am nailed to the cross.’" (Pope Pius XII, Mediator Dei)**
When I go to Church, I give it my all to nail myself to the Cross with Christ, not while holding my dear wife, whom I love tremendously. Time and a place.
(This may anger a few, but I’m not here to make friends. I’m here to speak the Truth.)
To be Catholic is to be true to our Faith, because we know it’s rules and traditions are from God, not from some pastor who started it 500 years ago.
Here is a link where I got the info.
mycatholicsource.com/mcs/pc/proper_church_conduct.htm
I’ll send you more if you want. I know there’s not much for ‘putting your arm’ around your spouse, but I think a LOT of it speaks for itself. Focus on CHRIST, not on putting your arm around your spouse, which IS a distraction, not just to me, but to many.
God bless. I hope this helps.
perfectly.:angel1: