Yes, it is convenient how some translate diakonos as “servant” because she is a woman.
I have to admit you stumped me on this a little. I would say this about it
" The word minister (or servant) in modern translations is the Greek word diakonos (deacon). Phoebe is the only woman specifically named a deacon in the New Testament. In the days of Paul’s ministry the role of the deacon was evolving. It involved an official function of some kind, most likely a pastoral one. As the Church developed, the position of deacon was more specifically described. Fifty to 70 years later, 1 Timothy 3:8-13 outlines the requirements and obligations of the deacon. "
1 tim 3: 12 “A deacon must be faithful to his wife and must manage his children and his household well.”
Here paul indicates the role of deacon to be exclusively for men that point on at least.
I would also point out that a deacon is not a priest or bishop and can not administer the sacraments except baptism, which anyone can. they are still subordinate to the preist (elder) and bishop (overseer). women are not described to be in these roles in the bible which are the primary pastoral roles in the church.
How can you say that all he is talking about is work that all Christians are called to do? He says plainly:
Yes, I ask you also, true companion,help these women, who have labored side by side with me in the gospel together with Clement and the rest of my fellow workers . . .
Euodia and Syntyche were doing the same work that Clement, yes the future pope, was doing. These women were preaching the gospel. And Prisca and Aquila were leading a house church!
I honestly do not see this as claiming these women were in a Pastoral role like Paul clearly gives Timothy and Titus. Mary and Margerat are shown as doing a lot of work for Jesus, more then the average follower, but Jesus did not make them Apostles. he only appointed men. Do you not find that significant?
I don’t see these passages to be anything more then you can say about nuns who work closely with priests and bishops. It does not say they had a pastoral role.
I respectfully see it differently then you.
The bible is, at best, ambiguous about the role of women in the early church (note that it is not ambiguous about the role of men.) This is why we need tradition and the magisterium to give clearity on theses subjects.