Asking a Catholic Girl Out

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Well, it’s been 5 days and the OP hasn’t returned after being called out . . . . troll.
Stop it, please.

Mel is well known around these parts. If he is a troll, he’s been one for years and been consistent on every single thread he’s created.

He needs more psychological help than this forum can give him but I very much doubt he’s on here with anything less than honest and endless confusion.
 
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The reason I haven’t replied is that nothing has gone on with me and the gal yet. I realized today that I need to stop giving a crap. I overthink stuff too much. The less I think about future consequences the better I feel. I’ll ask her tomorrow if I see her. I just need to ask her aside. I’ll do it no matter what. I’ve been a real chicken these past months. I’m going to ask her aside or walk out with her. Its not that hard if you don’t overthink. 🤷‍♂️
 
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Well, it’s been 5 days and the OP hasn’t returned after being called out . . . . troll.
Stop it, please.

Mel is well known around these parts. If he is a troll, he’s been one for years and been consistent on every single thread he’s created.

He needs more psycologican help than this forum can give him but I very much doubt he’s on here with anything less than honest and endless confusion.

Yes – he should be looking for the help he needs.
 
Yes. Melodeonist is a nice young man and member for long time.

He is just afraid of rejection. I say go for it Melodeonist, just do it, as the commercial says.

The back and forth must be very painful.
 
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Yes, while I don’t advocate not thinking things through and acting rashly, overthinking things is often just as bad. We can really paralyze ourselves from taking action with overthinking.

You can do it! 👍
 
Thanks! I really should have asked her aside today, but I fell again to my overthinking (“I’m a little boy: too young to date” and stuff like “If I sit next to her she’ll think I’m a creeper.”). I sadden myself. She’s my friend! If she gets creeped by me, a friend of hers, sitting next to her that’s her problem. 🤷‍♂️

Oh well. I wish I could talk to her one on one, but it seems the chances are slim unless I actively take her aside, a difficult thing as, while an extrovert, I struggle being assertive and I’m quite the people pleaser. I’m not one to tell others what to do. I’m just around to follow the orders. God will provide me with the wisdom to become an assertive person. I’m tired of being a friggin’ pushover. 👍

If I don’t see her again, not likely as I see her at the NC all the time, then I can always ask her on Facebook. It’s not the end of the world. I also got her a present for Christmas too that I’ll give her next week or whenever. It’s a 1911 Baltimore Catechism. I feel she’s been hinting she wants one so I got her one. 👍

Even if she rejects me (doubt she’d reject other than the fact that she’s really REALLY busy with SGA and classes; after all we are both traditional Catholics with many things in common: music, arts, history, etc.) I could still be her friend. She’s a really nice person. The more like minded people you know the better. 😊
 
Do you have her number?

Text her:
Would you like to see Star Wars with me when it comes out?

If she says no…then she has no taste in movies and you should forget the whole darn thing!

🤣
 
Thanks! I really should have asked her aside today, but I fell again to my overthinking (“I’m a little boy: too young to date” and stuff like “If I sit next to her she’ll think I’m a creeper.”). I sadden myself. She’s my friend! If she gets creeped by me, a friend of hers, sitting next to her that’s her problem. 🤷‍♂️

Oh well. I wish I could talk to her one on one, but it seems the chances are slim unless I actively take her aside, a difficult thing as, while an extrovert, I struggle being assertive and I’m quite the people pleaser. I’m not one to tell others what to do. I’m just around to follow the orders. God will provide me with the wisdom to become an assertive person. I’m tired of being a friggin’ pushover. 👍

If I don’t see her again, not likely as I see her at the NC all the time, then I can always ask her on Facebook. It’s not the end of the world. I also got her a present for Christmas too that I’ll give her next week or whenever. It’s a 1911 Baltimore Catechism. I feel she’s been hinting she wants one so I got her one. 👍

Even if she rejects me (doubt she’d reject other than the fact that she’s really REALLY busy with SGA and classes; after all we are both traditional Catholics with many things in common: music, arts, history, etc.) I could still be her friend. She’s a really nice person. The more like minded people you know the better. 😊

Really – if she gets creeped out by you – “that’s her problem”. Well - that sounds creepy.

And I believe you were advised – early on in this thread – not to give her any more physical gifts – for it would put her on a spot.
 
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Well my friend who’s the president of the Newman Club suggested it. She also knows the girl I like. As I said the girl I like has told me numerous times she’s jealous of me for getting a Baltimore Catechism. Thus she wants one. No sane person turns down something they want. 🤷‍♂️

I know what you mean. What I said in that post does sound creepy. I need to stop giving a crap though or I’m going nowhere. I’m tired of being a doormat.
 
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The Baltimore Catechism is available for free online.

Don’t buy gifts for someone when you are still so “iffy” about everything. All it will do is make her feel that she now has to buy you a Christmas gift.

Maybe you could suggest a “Dirty Santa” gift exchange at the Newman Club Christmas party. Put the Baltimore Catechism in as a gift, and then if she wants it she can trade gifts to get it.

ETA.

A doormat is someone who allows other people to take unfair advantage of them. From your messages, it does not sound as if this young woman is walking all over you.

Maybe you are tired of being so timid and afraid?
 
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Well my friend who’s the president of the Newman Club suggested it. She also knows the girl I like. As I said the girl I like has told me numerous times she’s jealous of me for getting a Baltimore Catechism. Thus she wants one. No sane person turns down something they want. 🤷‍♂️
I told you not to give her any more physical gifts at this point. The Catechism might be OK because it’s small, but if the value is more than $20, I think you shouldn’t do it.

You already gave her a mandolin. You need to cool it with presents because it can look like you are trying to buy her affection. It doesn’t matter how pure your intentions are, because too many one-sided gifts make a good person feel uncomfortable.

I know that giving you more anxiety about this is bad, but we did expressly tell you to STOP doing this with somebody you’re not in a relationship with. Once you’re going steady with somebody, knock yourself out. But until you’re in a relationship, one-sided generosity can be uncomfortable.
 
Hey man. Just take a deep breath and chill. No need to beat yourself up over this. If you are finding it very hard to ask her in person- and it has been several weeks now- just ask her in a text or facebook messenger. It seems like ya’ll communicate that way anyways, so its not out of the blue.

I was reading something about praying one time, specifically on setting aside time to pray. The author (a priest or brother if i remember correctly) said that he typically set aside 10 or so min in the morning, but on occasion he would sleep in or get busy or forget, and fail to pray in the morning. But that didn’t make him a bad catholic. It just meant he overslept or forgot. Failing to ask this girl out due to nerves several times does not make you a coward. It just means you didn’t ask her out. Its ok. If you like her, try it again.
 
If you’re worried about being creepy, repeated one-sided gift-giving is creepy.

DON’T DO IT!
 
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