Asking a Catholic Girl Out

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Okay. I say this not to sound like a female dog…but

This whole thread is you basically getting good advice, you agreeing enthusiastically, and then coming back to say you couldn’t do it. Repeat cycle.

You got excellent advice here. I don’t think there’s any more good advice you could get now. Really the only thing that has to be done is you going up to her and asking her out. You know it too. Take a deep breath and do it. Believe me when I say that girls can ‘feel’ behavior like this and the longer you wait, the weirder things will get.
 
The movie date is a good idea. Watch the movie, then go for some casual dinner afterwards to talk about it.

I have another idea for a fun date. I don’t know if you have this in your idea, but breakout games are a wonderful way to bond with each other. It’s mentally stimulating and fun. Grab a bite afterwards and talk about how you solved or didn’t solve it.
 
Hi @Melodeonist,

If you have difficulty asking her out in person, then I agree with those who said to do it by text or message. 🙂
 
I think so, too. 🙂

I know that some of the members here are uncomfortable with him buying her another gift.

If that’s the case, then maybe he could just save it for her for Christmas, then.

I don’t think that it would be questioned then, if a gift is given at Christmas, since they are friends already. 🙂
 
Friends usually talk about it before Christmas “are we exchanging gifts this year?”

A gift from a friend when you are not expecting to exchange gifts puts the friend on the spot to go buy something in return.
 
In my own personal opinion, a gift comes from the heart, and should not make another person feel obligated to give the other person something in return.

I would receive gifts from others that were unplanned and not discussed for gift exchanging at Christmastime or at other times, such as birthdays, and so on, and none of us seemed to think anything of it, as friends. 🙂

This is just the way that I am though, and others may do differently. 🙂
 
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In my own personal opinion, a gift comes from the heart, and should not make another person feel obligated to give the other person something in return.

I would receive gifts from others that were unplanned and not discussed for gift exchanging at Christmastime or at other times, such as birthdays, and so on, and none of us seemed to think anything of it, as friends. 🙂

This is just the way that I am though, and others may do differently. 🙂
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It may cause problems if there’s one gift after another, and it’s from a guy to a girl.
 
oldgraymare2 said:
In my own personal opinion, a gift comes from the heart, and should not make another person feel obligated to give the other person something in return.

I would receive gifts from others that were unplanned and not discussed for gift exchanging at Christmastime or at other times, such as birthdays, and so on, and none of us seemed to think anything of it, as friends. 🙂

This is just the way that I am though, and others may do differently. 🙂
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To be really fair here OGM, the OP is quickly entering creepy territory. He’s following this young woman to various campus events, having awkward conversations and hasn’t even been able to sit down in the cafeteria with her. He’s already given her a very pricey gift with the hope of winning favor and lied about it. He’s got unrealistic hope/fantasies surrounding this “relationship”

The LAST thing he need to be doing is getting her an wierdly specific somewhat pricey (they seem to go between $25-40 on ebay) gift.
 
The one I got her was less than $10 if I recall correctly. I saw her today for quite a bit but I got nervous and didn’t know what to say. I did bring up that there’s a Catholic store near the campus, and I asked her what her favorite type of music to play is. I should have asked her more earlier and not given into fear because I had to go to work, cutting our conversation short.

Fortunately, me and another girl from the Newman Club are meeting tomorrow on campus to practice music together for a Christmas Carol event. After that I could probably stop by the SGA office and talk to the girl I like and perhaps ask her out. I’m going to go this. No chickening out this time! 👌
 
Melodeonist said:
I’m going to go this. No chickening out this time!
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Melodeonist said:
I’ll ask her tomorrow if I see her.
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Melodeonist said:
I’ll ask her to get coffee with me in the cafeteria some time
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I’m asking her out even if it’s the last thing I do.
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Just remember, you’ve made the same resolution for months now. I asked a girl out in college and she flatly turned me down! But, at least I knew where she stood. You can’t keep backing out.
 
I feel so much better now. I feel like a very heavy weight has been lifted! She texted me and said that a person I had asked for advice gave her the impression that I was planning on asking her out. She said that she wouldn’t want anything to get in the way of our friendship, so she let me know that she’s not interested in me romantically. This is wonderful news, and I already feel way better! 👍
 
Melodeonist said:
I feel so much better now. I feel like a very heavy weight has been lifted! She texted me and said that a person I had asked for advice gave her the impression that I was planning on asking her out. She said that she wouldn’t want anything to get in the way of our friendship, so she let me know that she’s not interested in me romantically. This is wonderful news, and I already feel way better! 👍
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Duty done!

Have a blessed Advent!
 
I think this entire forum feels as though a weight has been lifted now we all know where we stand…

It would require a heart of stone not to laugh…
 
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Think of unrequited love as a maturing heartbreak.

Don’t destroy your friendship by making it weird for her, also learn to let go.
 
Yes. The very last thing I’d want to do is make her uncomfortable. Fortunately, just being friends should be way easier. I won’t be nervous around her anymore so everything should be much easier now.

I told her about the whole Christmas present thing and stuff. I feel WAY better now knowing how she feels and stuff. She said she’d gladly accept the gift next time I see her. 🙂

She’s a kind person and we can greatly help each other grow closer to God as brother and sister in Christ! 👍
 
Good on you man. Wasn’t so bad, was it? Sorry it didn’t work out, but like you said, it feels a million times better to just know and get that weight off your chest. Now take this experience and apply it to the next girl you get a crush on!
 
Mel, here is a somewhat relatable song for you. Hope your musical tastes extend to country… 😛

 
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