Asking my boyfriend to marry me

[Anicette]

The thing is, Catholics don’t have this concept of being in married in some ways not others. You’re married or not, especially if you’re Catholic where you would need to have a valid marriage.

When I say they were married in everything but, I mean “cohabitation”. I am sorry if it is not understandable.

If the Church allows an unwed mother to marry someone else, it’s moral. It doesn’t make sense to say that the Church allows something but it doesn’t mean that it’s morally neutral.

Still doesn’t agree. Allowing does not equal that everything happens before is morally neutral.

For your information, the people who will get the couple married in the Church will ask any part who have had children previousely how the relationship with the other parent and the child are, and if all his/her legal obligations are honored.
That everything is right is need.

No, having had sex outside marriage, cohabit as “husband and wife” style and have fatherd children are not morally neutral. They are facts that bear consequences and moral responsabilities. The Chuch recognizes that.

 

[Lea101]

Allowing does not equal that everything happens before is morally neutral.

No, having had sex outside marriage, cohabit as “husband and wife” style and have fatherd children are not morally neutral. They are facts that bear consequences and moral responsabilities

Please don’t create strawman arguments. I was clearly referring to breaking up and marrying someone else.

 

[Dr_Meinheimer]

That’s exactly what it means. He is categorically less devoted to her, and persistent in refusing to become more devoted to her. Marriage would be what actual devotion to her looks like.

He’s a child, like a lot of men who hide behind pabulum like “I want to be financially secure” which is really code for “I may not plan on leaving, but want to allow myself the out in case I choose to.” It’s nonsense and the men who throw this around should be slapped, IMO.

That last part is not me speaking as a Catholic, as I recognize slapping is wrong. I am speaking strictly as a dude, a husband and a father of five young children. A lot of boys need to grow up.

 

[Dr_Meinheimer]

I wouldn’t judge his level of devotion. Maybe he is just a weak coward.

Perhaps he is both. I’d say they go hand in hand.

 

[HiImBrittom]

Wow a lot of . . . people . . . don’t like marriage. Imagine that, the prophets said this would happen. Ask him. How is this even up for debate? They love each other.

 

[MNathaniel]

Wow a lot of ****heads don’t like marriage. Imagine that, the prophets said this would happen. Ask him. How is this even up for debate? They love eachother.

Your language (even mock-censored) is inappropriate. Also, she has asked him. He said no.

So he is asking her to continue cohabiting and fornicating for the indefinite future until he someday, one day, gets around to wanting to marry her.

Opinions may vary, but no one here has expressed an anti-marriage values system.

Your interjection comes off as if you just want to vent bad energy and don’t know where to put it. Please shout into a pillow or something though. Don’t curse at (even with little asterisks) well-meaning strangers on the internet trying to help a woman consider her options in a difficult and complicated situation.

 

[MNathaniel]

I’m sorry to hear about that relationship loss you experienced. It’s a hard thing.

I pray that God will make His company known to you in consolations, and help you move forward healthily to whatever He plans to build you through next.

 

[HiImBrittom]

Honestly, I was praying for the guy yesterday for God to forgive him.

edit: technically 2 days ago now. This happened a few years back. It was literally the worst time of my life.

 

[MNathaniel]

Praise God That’s a beautiful response to a difficult situation. Well done.

 

[HiImBrittom]

You’s together right? Gotta focus on what actually is the real deal.