T. More–about my perceptions of Catholic lack of “community” spirit–I probably shouldn’t make sweeping generalizations–I can only speak to my experience. In my town, the Catholics have been divided by some local issues, and many hurt feelings are there. And talking with Catholics in nearby towns, they don’t feel this way at all. I just personally have found it really hard to get to know people, to feel welcomed. (I’m from the South, and in my uncharitable–or perhaps realistic–moments, I chalk it up to the fact that most Catholics here are from “up North”–not the Midwest, either, the East Coast, where bluntness to the point of being rude, rather than friendliness, is the typical personality trait.

) The new pastor at one of the churches I attend feels the lack of warmth, too–in fact he was brought in to try to renew the parish, and he’s trying to change it by encouraging people to be more friendly, to have greeters, get us involved in church committees (heaven help us all

!!).
I guess my observation is partly based on a concern that many times, in a commendable attempt at ecumenism, Catholics have sort of an insecurity about Catholic distinctives–hence all the attempt to lighten up the liturgy, get more singable music –
can have a tendency, if we don’t watch it, to “protestantize” the parish. Whenever the church gets an inferiority complex about itself, it overreacts, you know? (Like with Galileo, for instance–some of that was a reaction against the fact that the Lutherans took the scientists to task for not following the Bible, and they were winning converts.)
Friendliness, a sense of “community” are important–I’ve been very lonely this past year. However, the Catholic “style” of worship can be misinterpreted as unfriendliness. It took me awhile to get used to–I come from a tradition of great hymns and music, and Catholics often
don’t sing! Used to drive me nuts. It’s like this–you go into a Protestant church, and people are warm, friendly, chatting and greeting each other. Good things, right? You go into a Catholic church, and there’s a quietness, a reverence. People are kneeling in worship. They aren’t talking to each other. (Much less true now–sometimes the conversation is really loud.) The difference is that Jesus is physically present. Since my conversion, sometimes I am just overwhelmed by this. I don’t want to talk to people–I want to pray. When people talk like He’s not even there, it seems sacriligeous to me. I have trouble singing the communion hymn because of my own emotions–often I can’t. It isn’t meant to be unfriendly or standoffish, but it can seem this way without an understanding of the Catholic doctrine on the Eucharist.
Hope that helps some. And I love your explaining the Catechism and the Church’s attitude toward our “separated brethren”–wish I’d thought of that. We’re
all Christians, united in faith and baptism.
In Christ,
Donna