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Mirdath
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All very true, but remember: at some point the kid isn’t a kid any more. Your responsibility as a parent is not to hover over her to make sure she never so much as dashes her foot against a stone – it’s to prepare her to look out for rocks herself. You can’t be there to prevent her making mistakes all the time, and at this point, really, don’t you deserve a break?I know what you’re saying Mirdath, but we have different responsibilities to our children.
Someday you may have your own children, Mirdath. You will be responsible for their physical welfare, as well as their spiritual welfare.
If your child is about to run in front of a car, and he/she is so obstinate that they often do exactly the opposite of what you say - then do you say “Don’t run in front of that car!” or do you say “Run in front of that car.” Or do you say nothing?
If you say “run in front of the car” banking on the obstinacy, or you say nothing, and your child gets killed by the car, could you live with yourself? Probably not.
If you say “Don’t run in front of the car!” and they do it anyway, your child would still be dead, but you tried to prevent it. This would still be difficult to accept, but not as bad as above.
If you say “Well, parents shouldn’t be telling their kids what to do (or even making suggestions)” then…well, you’re just like my daughter
By the way, I used the simple example of the young child and a car, but I think the general theme can be extended to drugs, alcohol, sex outside marriage, etc, and things of spiritual concern.
Your daughter’s in college now. Am I correct in thinking she’s not living with you any more? She’s left the nest, then, and I’m afraid you’re really just going to have to come to terms with that. I know you’re concerned for her soul, just as my parents still are about mine; but if you truly want to keep her on the best possible terms with religion, don’t force the issue (especially if her problem is with its rigid authority!). I have not come to Catholicism, nor do I imagine I ever will – but if the journey is to be made, starting with a good attitude towards the faith would seem to make it an easier and a shorter trip. You’ve done your part in parenting; now it’s in her hands to do well, materially, emotionally, and spiritually.
She will always be your daughter, but she was only a child for a what may seem to you a few short years.