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rlee:
I struggle with that too. But remember this, a phobia is an obsessive fear. It suggests someone foaming at the mouth with rage or cringing in fear of the unknown. Does that describe you? I remember when I was an openly gay man how incongruous it felt to me to call a little blue haired Baptist lady, in whose mouth butter would not melt and who obviously wished me no harm, a “homophobe” when she was simply standing up for what she believed. If you can do that, without being judgmental or condemning, you are implicitly calling into question the whole idea of homophobia, which has evolved into a weapon used by the gay rights establishment to silence their critics. And you might even be planting seeds in the minds of your gay friends that will bear fruit later. At least that is the way it was with me.
Thank you for your reply and I will pray for you and your friend in your courageous struggle.

And no, I would not describe myself as foaming at the mouth or cringing in the fear of the unknown, nor am I condemning or judging these people. It is more a matter of engaging in a conversation with a group of people, friends and/or relatives, and the subject of something like gay marriage comes up and the particular homosexual person present will make a disparaging remark about how the Catholic Church is opposed to the idea because it hates homosexuals, and then glare at me waiting for a response. Sometimes I offer one that merely restates the Church’s position as staying true to Christ’s teachings, but more often I don’t even say anything (and then must live with the knowledge that I have sinned by failing to defend Christ’s Church). As a result, I find myself avoiding the person, even though I like the person and wish them no ill will and do not try to change them or to get them to question their ways. In fact, I never bring up the topic.

I know I’m not the only one who has experienced this phenomenon - sort of like “guilt by association” when the guilt that is being ascribed does not accurately reflect the Church’s teachings.
 
The kind of person you are talking about considers himself a “victim” of the church’s “homophobia.” The rhetoric of victimhood is crucial to the gay rights movement, because it allows homosexuals to see themselves as noble, even as “martyrs”, regardless of the immorality of their lives. I don’t know if you saw the HBO movie, Angels in America. I saw it recently and it is an interesting illustration of the homosexual mindset. None of the homosexual characters are very nice people. In fact their lives are pretty sad and sordid. But because they are “victims” of homophobia they are automatically noble. If they were not “victims” of homophobia they might even be forced to confront the sordidness of their lives. So, if you think about it, the Catholic church is really doing these people a tremendous favor, at least by their standards. The church waxes large in the homosexual imagination, not because it “oppresses” them, but because the perception of oppression is part of the avoidance mechanism used to distract them from the reality of their lives.

So how do you defuse this sort of silliness? In part, by rejecting the fundamental premise. You are a Catholic and you do not hate gay people. Make that statement calmy and matter of factly. Furthermore, there is no evidence, outside their own over heated imaginations, that the church hates gay people. In fact, their is far more evidence of homosexual anti-Catholicism than the reverse. In fact, you might point that out. There is indeed a bigot in the room, and it isn’t you.
 
Wow - thank you for your insights. It helps a lot in helping us reach out.
 
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rlee:
I struggle with that too. But remember this, a phobia is an obsessive fear. It suggests someone foaming at the mouth with rage or cringing in fear of the unknown. Does that describe you? I remember when I was an openly gay man how incongruous it felt to me to call a little blue haired Baptist lady, in whose mouth butter would not melt and who obviously wished me no harm, a “homophobe” when she was simply standing up for what she believed. If you can do that, without being judgmental or condemning, you are implicitly calling into question the whole idea of homophobia, which has evolved into a weapon used by the gay rights establishment to silence their critics. And you might even be planting seeds in the minds of your gay friends that will bear fruit later. At least that is the way it was with me.
Christ’s Light shining through the Darkness.
It may even take a while but it will happen.
As you know Ron, I am just as glad as you that this has happened to us.
AND it can happen for others as well!
 
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