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My wife and I are at opposite ends when it come to names. How did you and your spouse come to an agreement? Also, what name first and middle did you choose and why. Thanks, and god bless to you all.
 
Our children’s names have many meanings to us…

Our oldest daughter, Lauren, my husband named. He really liked it and so did I. My cousin Laurel was killed in a car accident, when our daughter was nine months old. It was a few weeks later that I found out that Lauren means Laurel crowned. Just made her name a little more special to me!
Lauren’s middle name is Elizabeth, after Saint Elizabeth, but it’s also her Godmother’s name.

Mary Grace- after Mother Mary and also my great grandmother. Grace was my grandmother’s infant sister who passed away at 3 days old

John William- Our parish church is The Church of the Beloved Disciple, which is John…also my husband grandfathers name…William is his other grandfathers name…
 
**First off, you and your wife need to make separate lists of names you like. Then, compare and see if there are ANY that are the same. Then figure out what is important to each of you (from name origins, family names, to how the child may be teased with any given name…don’t discount any of her concerns and she shouldn’t discount yours ether)

As for my husband and I, he went along with my choice for our daughter because he liked it too. But from the day I found out we were expecting I just knew I should name a baby girl “Lily”. Then we chose a middle name based on a blending of both of my grandmother’s names (Evalina frm Evelyn and Lena). We did discuss family names from his side but this was our ultimate choice.

As for potential boys’ names, that was much harder. So we basically made list after list and kept narrowing it down from there until we had one we both agreed on. But we had a girl so it was moot.

Once you and your wife have it narrowed down somewhat, do what everyone else here does…make a poll and we’ll decide for ya!👍:p:D**
 
My wife and I decided that I got to name our child if it was a boy and she would if it was a girl… Thankfully we had a boy 👍

God bless
 
My wife and I decided that I got to name our child if it was a boy and she would if it was a girl… Thankfully we had a boy 👍

God bless
That’s how we do it too. 🙂

Though other spouse has veto power in extreme cases. (Like “no Larry’s… I had a Larry in school beat me up every day!” :eek: )

Or “No way, your ex-fiancee was named Renee”. :rolleyes:
 
I am old fashioned and still believe in having at least one saint name but as we all know- saints on earth still count- and close family members we consider saint-ly-

My sons are named Stephen Michael- I wanted to name him Jesse and my mother had a fit. She said it sounded too ethnic- ugghhhhh-

the next son- My husband’s name: Charles Anthony (Tony), his father- (grandad) Charles Henry,

our son: we wanted to keep the Charles but use middle name as nickname So he is our Andy -----Charles Andrew- got two saints names in every time- he already has his son’s name picked out and he is just 16- he likes Charles Alexander…

It also has to roll off the tongue too- keep in mind the “sound” : you don’t want a name like Bill Bob Young- listen to the way it flows- no kidding- 😉
 
I like the names:
Boy:
Maximilian
Quinn
Sebastian
Seamus
Grant
Ezra

Girl:
Ella
Quinn
Rosealia
Morgan
Lilly
 
I usually like “old fashioned” names. Firstly they’re always easy to spell, unlike some newer names (Fantaysha anyone?). Typically I’ve picked a name that’s either a saint’s name or from the Old or New Testaments. Here are some of the examples we’ve chosen for our kids:

1st:
Charles Thomas or Leah Marie (C.T. ended up being a boy after we’d been promised a girl via u/s, but his name was also Charles in honor of my FIL and Thomas in honor of my grandpa)

2nd:
Aaron Michael or Sarah Ann (Our Aaron is a handful, but we couldn’t love him more)

3rd:
Rebecca Marie or James Daniel (Becca is a sweet girl and terribly spoiled, being the first girl after the boys)

Current pregnancy:
David Andrew (We’ve been promised a boy via u/s, so DH refused to even consider a girl’s name. Hopefully they’ll be right. I insisted on a D name because we’ve already had an A, a B, and a C. DH humored me until I told him we’d have to go all the way to M because my stepdaughter is named Mary Francis. He thinks I was joking. 👍 hehehe)
 
Well, our son is Paul Michael Anthony… Paul after my DH, Michael after my FIL (God rest his soul) and Anthony because I promised St. Anthony I’d add his name if he’d help us have a child. Made a pilgrimage to the shrine of Chimayo in northern N. Mex. on the feast of St. Anthony (June 13) and on March 15 of the following year, St. Anthony delivered when our son was born (to his birth mother… he’s adopted!) and I kept my promise!
 
Greetings, and maybe I can be of some help.
I am the proud mom of 10 children, with 8 boys and 2 girls. Picking out the names were lots of fun, and i don’t regret any of the choices.
We picked out names that were spelled normally, and we like strong names, and we liked to have at least one saint name for each child. The one thing that we did that made the kids all unique is to add a second middle name, so my first son is Christian Thomas Lane, my second is Ryan Everett Quinn, etc.
It was unique with out being “Moon Unit” or “space puppy” way out names!!!
If there was any disagreement of names, we put our top 5 favorite names in a hat, and drew. If this is your first, believe that when that child is born, the right name will fit him or her perfectly. Sometimes the name won’t come to you until after the birth, which is fine to wait, as when our son Benjamin Mikkel Wayne was born. We added the surname of Mary to bless the Holy Mother with our daughters, and one has the name Mary and the other has Maria in their middle names.
I suggest getting a couple of used baby name books, and some highlighter pens, and enjoy the months of searching. We have an old saints name book, that gives some really far out names, but you can adapt it for current trends. Good luck and God bless!
 
First of all U and ur wife both make decide the kind of name you want just for example as if u want religious name or any other
than make list of names both of u separately and than at last make a name common from it and use it for ur’s toddler name

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i like elizabeth for a girl and john for a boy

i am old fashioned too 🙂

but if you are both in a quandry i agree with one or the other choosing the name
 
thought I would mention also my confirmation name. Since we get to pick these names ourselves thought I would mention the reason I chose her:
Patron saint of dentists and those with toothpain- she was a martyr and a virgin I believe- out of all her tortures one was having all her teethed knocked out from being beaten… I had lots of dental work when I was younger.

Anyone else want to tell their confirmation name and the reason for their choice?- that may help this couple choosing names.

Apollonia- I have heard of some girls a few years back that had this on their birth certificate and their parents nicknamed them “Paula”/ I gotta say I love this name although a tiny bit odd
 
I tend to favor Christian-Anglo names I have a positive association with. Whether those connections are real or not, doesn’t matter, just my perceptions.

Some names just fit people, and some don’t. For me the female name Amy is connected with petite, and attractive, because I don’t think I’ve met a Amy that did not have those characteristics. I knew a lady when I was a boy (wont tell her name) who was overbearing, big, bossy, and I forever associated her name with those attributes. And more often then not, every lady I met with that name was pretty much the same. LOL

Personally, I think at least one of the child’s names should have some kind of family connection, and be Christian. But I’m a old fashioned kinda “guy.” I’m proud to carry my father’s name in the middle of mine. It gives me a sense of connection on where I come from.

I think letting the father pick his son’s and wife if it’s a girl is good.
 
I tend to favor Christian-Anglo names I have a positive association with. Whether those connections are real or not, doesn’t matter, just my perceptions.

Some names just fit people, and some don’t. For me the female name Amy is connected with petite, and attractive, because I don’t think I’ve met a Amy that did not have those characteristics. I knew a lady when I was a boy (wont tell her name) who was overbearing, big, bossy, and I forever associated her name with those attributes. And more often then not, every lady I met with that name was pretty much the same. LOL

Personally, I think at least one of the child’s names should have some kind of family connection, and be Christian. But I’m a old fashioned kinda “guy.” I’m proud to carry my father’s name in the middle of mine. It gives me a sense of connection on where I come from.

I think letting the father pick his son’s and wife if it’s a girl is good.
Oh, well, Bama, it would have been nice to meet you, live and in person, but I don’t want to shatter your illusions! :sad_bye: (or maybe I just did…
 
My choice was Andrew Hampton and our last name. My ex-husband’s middle name is Hampton which is a family name on his side. He wanted James, but we have way too many James’ in our family and the “honorary” godfather (the non-Catholic one who was my husband’s best friend in high school) is named James and I don’t even like him. So we got out a baby book and started going through the names until we found one we could agree on…Thomas. We used Mitchell for the middle name because my best friend in high school’s last name was Mitchell and she was killed our senior year, so it was for her.

The second one, still wanted Andrew, but see, I name my cars Andrew and their father just wouldn’t go for it. I said the cars wouldn’t be Andrew anymore, but he just couldn’t see it my way. I still call my cars Andrew. The kid ended up Michael (for his actual godfather, my husband’s best friend from grade school) Albert (for my dad).

My brother-in-law’s family used some variation of Ken for all their middle names. Chris’s is Kendall and one of his son’s has that middle name too. The others are Kenneth, Kenton, Kennard, and I don’t remember what else but there are 8 of them.

My niece is named Allison (for her father’s mother Alverda and my dad Albert) Irene (for my mom).

I went to high school with a girl whose name was Mary E. Both her grandmothers were Mary something, Mary Elizabeth and Mary Ellen. They used E for her to honor both of them. It worked really well with her last name.
 
Oh, well, Bama, it would have been nice to meet you, live and in person, but I don’t want to shatter your illusions!
So your name is Amy??

I’m sure you wear it well. 👍
 
No problem with boys names, but picking girls’ names was a nightmare. It was the late 1970s, early 1980s. And we talked and we talked and we talked about names. I told him every name he selected sounded like they should have pom-poms permanently sewn on their arms. He said the names I chose were better suited for those handing out flowers on street corners. I would say “Joclyn.” He would say “Debby.” I would offer up “Amber.” He would counter with “Sandy.” And, of course, we had three girls . . .

Finally in the process we would settle on a name and that would be it . . . In the end, all of our children did receive names! 👍
 
No problem with boys names, but picking girls’ names was a nightmare. It was the late 1970s, early 1980s. And we talked and we talked and we talked about names. I told him every name he selected sounded like they should have pom-poms permanently sewn on their arms. He said the names I chose were better suited for those handing out flowers on street corners. I would say “Joclyn.” He would say “Debby.” I would offer up “Amber.” He would counter with “Sandy.” And, of course, we had three girls . . .

Finally in the process we would settle on a name and that would be it . . . In the end, all of our children did receive names! 👍
My name is Debby and I’m just not a Deborah. Most people call me Deb or Duck (don’t ask). I admit my goal at 15 was to be a cheerleader but I never “made it”. Both my sisters were cheerleaders, and one is even named Candy. Cute when you’re 3, but strange at 46. She does still look like a Candy, and she’s the queen of the soccer moms, so it works for her. The other sister went from Laury to Laura, and that works for her. We call her Walter anyway (again, too dumb to explain). We call Candy Draggie, so Walter looks pretty good. We ARE a nickname-y family, and those who marry in just have to get used to it.
 
I have Benjamin Clayton and Joshua Joseph aka Ben and Josh. I grew up having to spell my name before I ever said it - my parents thought it was neat to spell it Aimee. I taught high school English for four years before becoming a stay-at-home mom and I saw how truly cruel kids at school can be. Please be careful about how the first name sounds with the last name (I knew a boy name Rich Kidd) and also do not get silly with the spelling.
 
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