Bad confession---need help

[Jabronie]

Are pornography-looking and lustful thought-having both included in the 6th commandment too, or do i have to say them?

I wouldn’t recommend using the “I broke this commandment and that commandment” simply because it’s too vague and you’ll end up talking about your sins even more because you’ll need to clarify.

Try something like “I was impure with myself.” He’ll know what you mean. If it’s ongoing, say something like “I struggle with a weakness to pornographic material and it has led me to impurity several times.”

Also, there’s no harm in bringing a list.

 

[Sir_Knight]

While one need not go into embarrassing details, one should be as clear as possible as to what the sin was. For example, steeling a dollar from the kitchen table is a whole lot different than robbing hundreds of thousands of dollars from a bank. Yet both are sins against the seventh commandment. Even “stealing a dollar” could be mis-represented – taking a dollar from the kitchen table would be a venial sin while taking stealing a dollar from a church would be a mortal sin.

 

[dolphinlove]

If i go into confession and say ‘spilt my seed’, the priest will think i have lost my mind (since im a girl).
Im still weak with masterbation, so you can imagine my embarrassment, almost everytime i go i have to confess it. Im trying to give it up, but its one of the few sins that im really struggling with!

 

[mercygate]

I also have a similar question. The confession i messed up was a general confession. And apparantly i’m not absolved of any of the sins i did confess. So that leaves me with a lot of sins. i don’t want to schedule another appointment with the priest so soon, so i don’t annoy him. But i think i’d rather go to a normal confession this time anyway. I think it would be more comfortable for me. Is BrooklynBoy’s question a yes or no?

EDIT

Only problem is, like BB, i have no idea how many times i have commited these sins. Except for omitting sins out of my confession. Should i just make up a high number? I don’t think it would feel right saying that i sinned against the 6th commandment 900000 times though.

How many times? Do not make anything up. Confession is not the place for creative lying. Try to place the number in perspective: About once a week. . . . daily . . . . every other weekend . . . over a period of 2 years . . .

 

[jmcrae]

If i go into confession and say ‘spilt my seed’, the priest will think i have lost my mind (since im a girl).

Just say that you did something sexually impure to yourself.

I’m still weak with masterbation, so you can imagine my embarrassment, almost everytime i go i have to confess it. Im trying to give it up, but its one of the few sins that im really struggling with!

This is a very common problem, for both men and women. It’s a lovely high-minded myth that women are somehow less obsessed by sex, or less prone to the sexual sins. We’re just better than men at not getting caught. But your priest is already in on the secret - he has heard this from many women before you, and he will not remember specifically what you confessed, even if he knows who you are, since we are all so much the same.